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A Safety Issue.. - 9/28/2007 7:19:54 PM

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..is there not a section in these message boards for reporting bad people? I have truely been the victum of someone who changed his identity three times on collarme just to get at me. ..and that is not ALL that he did to me. If there is not a place on this site than is there a place somewhere else on the web that keeps a list? I would hate to see someone else get hurt by this guy. Thanks for your response, ~ UntitledFlavor

RE: A Safety Issue.. - 9/28/2007 7:23:49 PM

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Wow, that's a lot of font choices...o.o
Umm idk where or how anyone would keep a list.
But chill, its just the internet, unless of course you gave him your personal info...And he stalks you or the such likes. Then you go the police.
But for now, just block, delets and report. Then find someone worthy to talk to.

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RE: A Safety Issue.. - 9/28/2007 7:54:00 PM

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Yes, true true...blocking and deleting helps. Maybe you are right and I just need to calm down. So hard to do when he keeps on popping back up under different handles. At one time in my subbie past I heard of a site that keeps a list of bad people who stalk the bdsm realm. I am just concerned for anyone else who might consider him as their dom. He hasn't done anything legally wrong..but he has certainly violated me in an unhealthy D/s 'way'. ~ UntitledFlavor

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RE: A Safety Issue.. - 9/28/2007 8:03:14 PM

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People will do that.
Don't let him get to you..It's what he wants. Why let scum like that effect you in anyway what so ever?
Maybe have a little fun of your own?
Next time he pops up...Tell him you want kids kids and more kids...Right now. And you hope he doesnt mind the fact that you're a floor mat for STDs(not that you are.) And other such stuff.

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RE: A Safety Issue.. - 9/28/2007 8:17:14 PM

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HaHa

I must learn how to have fun like you. Hope you don't mind if I tuck you away into my lil' back pocket and tote you around until some other jerk-off (can I use that on here?) comes along my path. I could just pull you out and have a plethora of options on how to have fun. muwhaha! ~ UntitledFlavor

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RE: A Safety Issue.. - 9/28/2007 8:42:26 PM

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Why not just ignore him? He is probably cracking up right now reading your post. Ignore him and he will find someone else to torment eventually.

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RE: A Safety Issue.. - 9/28/2007 8:53:12 PM

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I think people who use freakin weird colors in their posts should be put on a bad list for fucking with my eyes.

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RE: A Safety Issue.. - 9/28/2007 9:16:02 PM

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Okay, maybe people like you don't get it. Or maybe you read my post and pounced upon your own assumptions of the situation. I do think I remember explaining how he changes his handle. I did, didn't I? So how do I ignore someone if I do not know what shoes they decided to try on today? Also, I was kinda betting on an opposite reaction from him if he did read my post...like maybe it would scare him because he wouldn't want a 'bad report' drifting around in the kinky sky. I dunno, but anywho..thanks for the advice. I think... ~ UntitledFlavor

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RE: A Safety Issue.. - 9/28/2007 9:22:04 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: UntitledFlavor

He hasn't done anything legally wrong..but he has certainly violated me in an unhealthy D/s 'way'.

Oh please, you can't be "violated" in email. Claiming such an asinine thing is a slap in the face to people who truly have been violated. Pull up your big girl panties, then block and ignore the jerks. If they see your posts here and know that they got a rise out of you, they'll just keep on doing it.

~stef

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RE: A Safety Issue.. - 9/28/2007 9:26:50 PM

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Okay, maybe people like you don't get it. Or maybe you read my post and pounced upon your own assumptions of the situation. I do think I remember explaining how he changes his handle. I did, didn't I? So how do I ignore someone if I do not know what shoes they decided to try on today? Also, I was kinda betting on an opposite reaction from him if he did read my post...like maybe it would scare him because he wouldn't want a 'bad report' drifting around in the kinky sky. I dunno, but anywho..thanks for the advice. I think... ~ UntitledFlavor

I think he hit the jackpot with you. And he knows it. Yeah, he will be scared of some "bad" report out there somewhere. Bet he's quaking in his boots right now. Lol.

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RE: A Safety Issue.. - 9/28/2007 9:44:45 PM

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Again..another person who assumed they knew all there was about the situation. Who ever said the violation occured through e-mail, and e-mail alone? Believe it or not I am not a fake and I actually met with a few offline. I just do not feel like pouring my broken heart out to you guys and filling you in with the details knowing that I will only get crap shoved down my throat. Oh...and thanks for giving me the friendly advice. Once I figure out how to block and ignore someone who constantly changes their screen name I will certainly put the order in for those big girl panties. ~ UntitledFlavor

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RE: A Safety Issue.. - 9/28/2007 9:50:13 PM

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Yeah..I know. The point has been taken and observed, I am one fiesty lil' sub. rawr! ~ UntitledFlavor

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RE: A Safety Issue.. - 9/28/2007 9:54:14 PM

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quote:

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ORIGINAL: UntitledFlavor

Okay, maybe people like you don't get it. Or maybe you read my post and pounced upon your own assumptions of the situation. I do think I remember explaining how he changes his handle. I did, didn't I? So how do I ignore someone if I do not know what shoes they decided to try on today? Also, I was kinda betting on an opposite reaction from him if he did read my post...like maybe it would scare him because he wouldn't want a 'bad report' drifting around in the kinky sky. I dunno, but anywho..thanks for the advice. I think... ~ UntitledFlavor

I think he hit the jackpot with you. And he knows it. Yeah, he will be scared of some "bad" report out there somewhere. Bet he's quaking in his boots right now. Lol.

Chill out rainbow girl, they are just pointing out the obvious, you can't make crazy creepy people sane by reporting them. It is a good thought to protect others, but sadly, I don't see any way you can, they can always just make another profile.
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RE: A Safety Issue.. - 9/28/2007 10:08:19 PM

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I ran out of chill pills a long while ago....

And I know you are right. Which is why I was trying to dig into other ppl's advice and opinions to see what my options were. ~ Rainbow Gurl

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RE: A Safety Issue.. - 9/28/2007 10:10:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: UntitledFlavor

I ran out of chill pills a long while ago....
And I know you are right. Which is why I was trying to dig into other ppl's advice and opinions to see what my options were. ~ Rainbow Gurl

I highly recommend perfecting the art of snark and witty comeback, as you can't change them and they seem to want negative attention, a quick comeback will make you feel better about it despite the fact you can't do anything to them. A momentary feeling of empowerment instead of being creeped out by the lifestyle, if you will.
By the way, not at all trying to be rude, but what's up with the multi-color thing? The blue one you just did is pretty good I have to admit, not as hard to read, but doesn't it take a long time to do that?
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RE: A Safety Issue.. - 9/28/2007 10:28:10 PM

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It isn't the lifestyle I get creeped out about, it is some of the people who are in it. Need I say more?

Yeah, I must tuck you away into my other back pocket opposite from pseudopsychotic so I will know how to be fun and witty at the same time. Never was great with comebacks. I am just a bluntly honest person - to my fault.

Colors? What colors? o,O ...oh those. Well, I just thought I would brighten up the message board a little. Really, I am not trying to be 'all that' or 'out-right silly and stubborn'. I have always done this so it is just 'me'. I apologize if it freaks with some ppl's eyes. You could always block me you know? I promise I wont change my screen name and stalk you with a rainbow. ;)

~UntitledFlavor

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RE: A Safety Issue.. - 9/28/2007 10:36:24 PM

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Be who you are...the blue is better (for me at least)...the hot pink was distracting from what you are saying. Honesty isn't really a fault here. You'll be fine. Hang in there.
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RE: A Safety Issue.. - 9/28/2007 10:42:23 PM

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Stay away from the pinks..lean more towards the blue...Got it!

awww, many tankies.

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RE: A Safety Issue.. - 9/29/2007 4:38:42 AM

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If its abuse over the net - then ignore it, block and move on. If the person keeps changing their ID, then - change yours too, being sure to obscure as far as possible any relationship to your old ID; dont use the same text, preferences, pictures etc and have a think about a location you could use which is suitable but different - I dont live in Stourport for instance - I chose it because only locals know the place and its near enough to where I actually am. This is a purely pre-emptive precaution on my part.

If its abuse in real life, then get some evidence (and get his name) and get thee to the cops. Quite aside from laws against harassment and so on, here's an interesting thing - it is not possible in law to agree to an offence being committed against oneself; so in short, he has no defence whatsoever in saying "well, it occurred as part of an agreed bdsm scene" - in fact, he'd have confessed in such a statement, to whatever it was. Be careful in your online dealings too - because soliciting an offence is also illegal - so if you have asked for such and such and there's a record, you could be in trouble too - and if he's going down, he's quite likely to take you with him.

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RE: A Safety Issue.. - 9/29/2007 5:15:24 AM

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LE; I cannot agree. She shouldn't have to change her online personna because of some jerk, but that leaves very little in the way of options.

As far as mail goes, you see new messages, click, oh shit it's the jerk again. But I am more interested in what happened in real life. There might be a tangible way to get this creep if she knows who he is.

OP, if you actually met him, you DO know who he is right ? If you have been physically abused, well I doubt he will have access to CM in jail. Also, if you were a member of my "family" you would be meeting him again ONCE, JUST ONCE guaranteed. No, we wouldn't kill him, that is simply not warranted, but he would surely think he was a goner. Picture the motel room and about eight guys walking in, just leave the door unlocked. What's more, when we leave, one guy walks up to him and shows him a badge and says "Don't bother calling the police, we've already been here". (talk about a scene eh)

But online only, if someone were to fuck with me, I would fuck back. Consider him your own personal punching bag for words. If something happened in real life that was not SSC, that is criminal, and the best thing you can do is get him locked up. Even if you have to meet him again to sting him. If he is a danger to you, he is a danger to others, and not just CM members.

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