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help - 10/1/2007 10:33:35 AM

sweetcreeangel

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ok i know this is probably silly but what is with protecal and how do you know the postion you are in for training is the right one.i am currently unowned and very new to the lifestyle
so i would truly appericate the help

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RE: help - 10/1/2007 10:57:42 AM

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Protocol and rituals are different for everyone. What one dominant wants, another does not. Whether you've ever been in a d/s relationship before is moot, you don't know what your new dom would like until he teaches it to you or you explore it together and he sees whether or not he likes it.

I'm not clear about positions, unless you mean Gorean slave positions. If so, there are sites on the web that will explain them. Even so, if your knees are bad, then you aren't ever going to kneel no matter what.

My standard advice to newbies is to figure out what appeals to you. Does the idea of being tied up get you all hot and squirmy? Then you're likely to enjoy it when you try it. Does the idea of an over the knee spanking make you nauseous and anxious? Then you probably won't announce it's on your top ten list after trying it.

In the meantime, become the best person you can be. Learn things you've always wanted to, whether it's hiking, baking, auto repair, or giving massages. Because the more you know your own likes and dislikes, the easier it is to screen out the people you are incompatible with. If you hate golf, you'll know you're incompatible with someone who wants to do 36 holes every Saturday and Sunday.

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RE: help - 10/1/2007 11:06:15 AM

sweetcreeangel

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thank-you so much for giving me something to think about and to research on the net

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RE: help - 10/1/2007 12:22:06 PM

Redandtreasure

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Celest43 you could have said it better. I tip my hat to you.

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RE: help - 10/1/2007 12:40:18 PM

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some of this stuff is what gets you right here ( Y )
or what gets him right here ( % ) ..........

only what has shared meaning is of any value. elaborations of pleasing behaviour, countenance, voice, and movements are not entirely unique, but rather individualistic in any case.

Fly!!!! Be Free!!!!

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RE: help - 10/2/2007 1:48:53 PM

sweetcreeangel

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thank-you all for your help i really appericate it

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RE: help - 10/2/2007 1:57:40 PM

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best position i've found almost everywhere is with my mouth shut and my ears open....now....ya'll here may beg to differ (and i really want to see the Male Doms beg)...but in this format, i can read and re-read and read again before i type out my response and then go back and edit and read it and edit again and make sure its what i really want to say....when i am in the meat-world, i usually have only one chance to hear whats being said...and there are so many things that are being said out there that i want to learn....think of it as a CD vs a live concert...with this being the recorded tracks...

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RE: help - 10/2/2007 5:06:01 PM

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I ... would listen very closely to what chelle just said. You're new at this. The only position you need to know right this second is that which makes you attentive, and read not only what everyone says ... but what's between the lines. And don't ever be afraid to ask questions.

Explore who you are and what you want - out of a relationship, and out of your life for that matter. Then seek someone who can help you get there. (Flee anyone your instinct tells you not to trust.)

Good luck!

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RE: help - 10/2/2007 5:29:25 PM

SexyBlackMan2

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I think you are worrying way too much

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