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sensualwordz -> need a new relationship (2/12/2004 5:37:47 AM)
How does one "lose" the memory of her old master so that she can at least be open to a new relationship It is going on too long with me i think i can meet or talk but as soon as there is some reality to b faced such as intimacy or physical i want to run away Any suggestions??? Wordz

Estring -> RE: need a new relationship (2/12/2004 11:11:56 PM)
You will never lose your memory of an old Master. Maybe amnesia would do it, but otherwise, you will always have your memory of the relationship. It's possible that you are using the memory as an excuse to keep from getting intimate with someone new, or you may still not be ready to move on. How long has it been? For some reason I am thinking that it actually hasn't been that long. Good luck.

twinklestar45 -> RE: need a new relationship (2/13/2004 2:13:05 PM)
Depends on how long you was with this Master. The only way your going to be able to forget him is to give another Master a chance. Let the past go and move on who knows you might find someone that is truly worth your time and love. You never can forget someone that you care alot for there will always be part of him in your heart.

EStrict -> RE: need a new relationship (2/13/2004 5:05:25 PM)
Actually, on another note, if it was a good relationship, why would want to forget it. And if it was a bad one, as the old saying goes those that don't learn from their mistakes are bound to repeat them. Just a couple of thoughts :) Sandy

Voltare -> RE: need a new relationship (2/14/2004 1:16:28 PM)
Sandy is dead on. The issue isn't forgetting the old Master, the issue is facing fears of committment. An old saying "when the student is ready for the lesson, the teacher will appear" holds true here. Instead of focusing on forcing new relationships to work, focus on developing new friendships. Some of my best dates have been with women I've known for years. Stephan

sensualwordz -> RE: need a new relationship (2/17/2004 7:31:50 PM)
thank you Actually i was with him off and on for 2 years and i am learning that I must move on sometimes i think talking about your fears makes them get smaller no, i wont forget i will remember a lot but i will make sure that i also remember the bad things the things that made me leave to begin with I am beginning not to miss "him" as much as i miss the "me" that was "me" when i was with "him" if that makes sense and i must also remember that what i was once i can be again the passion is something that is inside me not him

ShadowHwk -> RE: need a new relationship (2/19/2004 5:09:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sensualwordz thank you Actually i was with him off and on for 2 years and i am learning that I must move on sometimes i think talking about your fears makes them get smaller no, i wont forget i will remember a lot but i will make sure that i also remember the bad things the things that made me leave to begin with I am beginning not to miss "him" as much as i miss the "me" that was "me" when i was with "him" if that makes sense and i must also remember that what i was once i can be again the passion is something that is inside me not him If your getting to the point that you miss the YOU that you were with him, then it sounds to me like you are making progress. I second what the others have said - you will not forget - but the emotional pain will fade bit by bit over time. But remember the lessons - if you don't then you are doomed to repeat them. We all have fears, some hide them away, others pull them out into the sunshine to see what they really look like.... and in the clear light of day - they really are very small. Terry AKA ShadowHwk

sensualwordz -> RE: need a new relationship (2/22/2004 9:18:57 PM)
thank you shadow what you said was very true and silly as it is we all know the answers to most of our own questions but sometimes we need others to validate our thoughts and decisions Mariah

txnights05 -> RE: need a new relationship (11/30/2007 10:34:41 PM)
quote: no, i wont forget i will remember a lot but i will make sure that i also remember the bad things the things that made me leave to begin with I am beginning not to miss "him" as much as i miss the "me" that was "me" when i was with "him" if that makes sense and i must also remember that what i was once i can be again the passion is something that is inside me not him quote: ORIGINAL: sensualwordz thank you Actually i was with him off and on for 2 years and i am learning that I must move on sometimes i think talking about your fears makes them get smaller no, i wont forget i will remember a lot but i will make sure that i also remember the bad things the things that made me leave to begin with I am beginning not to miss "him" as much as i miss the "me" that was "me" when i was with "him" if that makes sense and i must also remember that what i was once i can be again the passion is something that is inside me not him oh, this struck a chord with me. i am feeling very much the same these days... my last relationship ended about 6 months ago. i find that although i am better off without him and i do not miss him, i very much miss the way he could make me feel. accepted and understood and allowed to be oneself... i think that happens so seldom in life in general that once we get a taste of what is possible within us the craving and need for it can become as a drug. i know that i am a much better person for having that relationship... i never want to forget it nor should i for it is one of the chapters of my life. but when i think of the possibilities available in the future it makes me grateful that i ended what wasn't working. ending a relationship causes grieving and that takes time to overcome. i found pictures today of that relationship and shed a tear or two... but it becomes nostalgic. i figure that i know myself a lot better and know what i want/need and the kind of Dom that i am looking for a lot better than i did. i should make fewer mistakes the next time...

Machts -> RE: need a new relationship (11/30/2007 10:39:53 PM)
We all have a past, but we don't have to live there now.

SirDominic -> RE: need a new relationship (12/1/2007 10:27:22 AM)
I am beginning not to miss "him" as much as i miss the "me" that was "me" when i was with "him" ..... the passion is something that is inside me not him This is the most important lesson any of us can learn. We are all responsible for how we feel. No-one else can "make" us feel anything. We can choose to feel certain things under certain circumstances, but the choice is always yours. Everything you were in love with that was you, came from within you. When you can truly believe this, you won't live in the past of what someone else supposedly did for you. It frees you to move forward more easily and with more belief in your own self and self-worth.

Rianne -> RE: need a new relationship (12/1/2007 12:12:26 PM)
quote: oh, this struck a chord with me. i am feeling very much the same these days... my last relationship ended about 6 months ago. i find that although i am better off without him and i do not miss him, i very much miss the way he could make me feel. accepted and understood and allowed to be oneself... I relate to that. I know that "no one can make us feel..." but there is something about how you feel when you're with someone...about yourself and in relation to him. For me, that is usually the memory I carry with me when one has moved on.

AMaster -> RE: need a new relationship (12/1/2007 3:43:49 PM)
The memory will always be there. When it is time for you to move on, you will know it. Don't fight the past- but in time learn to let it go.

juliaoceania -> RE: need a new relationship (12/1/2007 4:54:46 PM)
the op wrote this thread in 2004, I am hopeful that she is over it by now...

ssickomaster -> RE: need a new relationship (12/1/2007 7:55:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Machts We all have a past, but we don't have to live there now. [sm=boohoo.gif]

HalloweenWhite -> RE: need a new relationship (12/3/2007 8:51:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sensualwordz How does one "lose" the memory of her old master so that she can at least be open to a new relationship It is going on too long with me i think i can meet or talk but as soon as there is some reality to b faced such as intimacy or physical i want to run away Any suggestions??? Wordz You need to give yourself time to get over it. Go out, enjoy your life and just have some fun. You wont get over it over night, you shouldn't try. Just live your life and in time things will feel better. I dont thiunk you should even consider being intimate for a while-I think you're putting too much pressure on yourself.

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