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How to introduce myself to a sub - 10/1/2007 7:02:33 PM   
Lucky13mn


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Status: offline 		Hi all,
I'm new here and was curious what would be the right way to introduce yourself to a sub.
Do I just start into it by saying "bitch get over here" or just start off like i'm meeting someone on the streets with "hey there nice to meet you"?
Thanks
Lucky13
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RE: How to introduce myself to a sub - 10/1/2007 7:10:20 PM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		LOL!  Are you kidding with the "bitch get over here" thing?  First of all, you're on a PC...how the hell is she going to get over anywhere?  Secondly, that doesn't go over very well with the majority of the submissives here.  You'll just end up getting a scathing return email and then blocked.

The best way, in my opinion, is to actually READ the person's profile you want to contact.  Remark on something she wrote or tell her why you found her profile compelling enough to write to her. 


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RE: How to introduce myself to a sub - 10/1/2007 7:16:27 PM   
Lucky13mn


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Status: offline 		hey, that's exactly why I asked.  But for the record I didn't try the bitch get over here bit.

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RE: How to introduce myself to a sub - 10/1/2007 7:23:31 PM   
Aileen68


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RE: How to introduce myself to a sub - 10/1/2007 7:26:03 PM   
Blaakmaan


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Status: offline 		Hello and welcome, Lucky13:

I am also a newbie, and I asked essentially the same question to both Doms and subs.

Here are the links.  Check out the responses!

Doms:

http://www.collarchat.com/m_1273831/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#1273831

subs:

http://www.collarchat.com/m_1273849/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#1273849

I hope this is useful to you.

Good luck!

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RE: How to introduce myself to a sub - 10/1/2007 7:30:47 PM   
ThinkingKitten


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Status: offline 		I think you need to do a lot more reading about D/s before you attempt to make contact with subs. Everyone has to start somewhere, but the fact that you even had to ask the question shows just how new you are. You DO get points for being here on the forums though - there is a TON of good info here - so use the search tool freely and happy reading to you. (There's a lot of crap too, but if you have half a brain you should be able to figure most of the good from bad). Welcome aboard, and please turn out to be good one, and not an HNG! Lord knows there are enough of them already..... LOL.
edited a bit for content.

< Message edited by ThinkingKitten -- 10/1/2007 7:32:03 PM >

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RE: How to introduce myself to a sub - 10/1/2007 7:30:49 PM   
laurell3


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ORIGINAL: Aileen68

We like lots and lots of cock shots.


lol, but they must be offcenter and in odd colors for us to consider you.
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RE: How to introduce myself to a sub - 10/1/2007 7:34:15 PM   
Lucky13mn


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Status: offline 		Wow, where are all the subs in Minnesota?

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RE: How to introduce myself to a sub - 10/1/2007 7:38:33 PM   
cbaby


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RE: How to introduce myself to a sub - 10/1/2007 7:39:38 PM   
AquaticSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lucky13mn

Do I just start into it by saying "bitch get over here"

If you want to be mocked openly.
quote:


or just start off like i'm meeting someone on the streets with "hey there nice to meet you"?
Thanks
Lucky13

I'd vote the "Hi, nice to meet you. I like your earrings/smile/eyes/dress/etc. How are you doing tonight?" approach.

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RE: How to introduce myself to a sub - 10/1/2007 7:48:45 PM   
efficaceous


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Status: offline 		The D/s relationship isn't just given out freely to those who ask. You may be a Dom but you sure aren't "her" Dom, yet. So she has no reason to trust, obey or even listen to you. Beinmg born dom doesn't entitle you to attention or respect.
I see that CLEARLY you said no such thing, just clarifyign the issue. Honestly I would try going to some local community events, munches, etc. THAT expereince will translate well, even online.

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RE: How to introduce myself to a sub - 10/1/2007 7:59:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lucky13mn
Wow, where are all the subs in Minnesota?


There are a lot of submissives in Minnesota. I'd suggest that you get involved in the local community. It's quite a large, varied community with something for everyone. There is also a group for those under 35 that would probably interest you. You should probably look for the TIES munch to start. It's the largest munch where a lot of people from the various groups get together. The TIES site is: http://www.ties-bdsm.org/main.html If you look under the "organizations" tab you'll find a list of a few local groups. There are a lot more than are listed there, but it's a start. You can email me on the other side and I'll give you links to some local email lists that might be useful to you.

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RE: How to introduce myself to a sub - 10/1/2007 8:10:07 PM   
domiguy


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ORIGINAL: Lucky13mn

Wow, where are all the subs in Minnesota?


Most of them have already been used and abused.......If you find one and you end up making out with her....That funny taste in your mouth is probably just Ron.

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RE: How to introduce myself to a sub - 10/1/2007 9:16:00 PM   
sammiebabygirl


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ORIGINAL: Aileen68

We like lots and lots of cock shots.


Oh God, i hope you're kidding. i have gotten cock shots from supposedly interested Doms. my reply has always been, "Do you plan to Dominate me with THAT???" LOL
 
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RE: How to introduce myself to a sub - 10/1/2007 9:19:09 PM   
laurell3


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Status: offline 		It's a joke, read the other posts about this topic.  That's pretty much at the top of everyone's not to do list.
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RE: How to introduce myself to a sub - 10/2/2007 12:15:33 AM   
TakenPet


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Status: offline 		I would simply suggest you start off like you would meeting any girl in a "vanilla" setting.  The subs I know have to be comfortable and confident with you and in you to be able to submit.  Its a good way to start, once you strike up the conversation then you can start the control and the domination.  There has to be trust.   You know there are some girls that enjoy being talked to like that off the top, but you have to be careful with that for most its a general turn off.  Cock shots are a nice addition LOL.  Truly demonstrate your skills as a confident man and she will be able to know you, open up to you and trust you.  You with her as well.  Decide what you want in a girl and start with whatyou are looking for.  Be you, be real and then when things are established a little start to play.
Enjoy and good luck!

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RE: How to introduce myself to a sub - 10/2/2007 2:51:27 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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Status: offline 		would you talk to your mother with that "hey, bitch, get over here on your knees and suck my cock"?  of course not because she would stomp your arse into the ground.  you're going to find that a lot of subs will NOT respond back to you and will publicly add your name to the CM Dom Wall of Shame.

you approach a sub/slave with respect while slowly gaining her trust because a)not every unowned sub/slave is here for your beck and call and b)until she chooses you, she's your equal. try commenting on something that interest you about her profile or journal.

however if you want to be a rude jerk, go right ahead. i'm sure there's plenty of room on the wall to add your name.


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RE: How to introduce myself to a sub - 10/2/2007 3:08:34 AM   
NaughtyBango


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen68

We like lots and lots of cock shots.


lol that could be arranged

nice to see a Jersey Girl here

I haven't done this online before but I usually just try to respond to thier profile and interests and just say hello to see if they would like to talk.

I'm still checkin all this out so treading lightly for now

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RE: How to introduce myself to a sub - 10/2/2007 3:26:33 AM   
InkedMaster


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Status: offline 		Potential submissives loveeee the "on your knees bitch" approach or my personal favorite "suck the snotty end of my fuck stick whore" now while they will seem appaled and coyly block you from further contact, this is merely a ploy to get you to contact them again and again, commonly refered to as "stalking". Dont forget to demand "nekkie" pictures right off the bat and do send plenty of cock shots, they seem to love this!

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RE: How to introduce myself to a sub - 10/2/2007 3:32:17 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Lucky13mn

Do I just start into it by saying "bitch get over here" or just start off like i'm meeting someone on the streets with "hey there nice to meet you"?


I would recommend starting by reading their profiles and looking to see if they are both unowned and compatible with your interests first. Then, if they are, I would recommend sending a polite message to them saying hello and demonstrating that you did take the time to read what their profile said, and ask them a few questions about themselves. Then, wait to see if the person takes an interest in you. Continue at a mutually comfortable pace, otherwise, thank them for their time and move on. Make sure your profile also gives them a clear idea of what type of person you are and what you are seeking. Open the offer for them to ask any questions they may have of you.

quote:


Wow, where are all the subs in Minnesota?


Well, I'm from Minnesota (and submissive), but I'm not looking for a Master. *smiles* So, that's one accounted for, anyway. I don't know what they have as far as a local community goes in Hastings, but you may want to come down to the cities and attend some of the munches here- the best way to meet people from your area is to be actually interacting with them, and it is closer than halfway across the country or globe. If you want some information on this, please send me a message on the other side and I will let you know about it.

Hope this helps, welcome, and best of luck in finding a submissive-
behindmirrors.

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