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Celeste43 -> RE: This is very important to new users (10/2/2007 3:02:32 PM)
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That's your definition of submission. It isn't one that works for us. What works for us is what keeps the relationship strong. We've been together over four years and we're aiming for 30 or 40 more.
The Man is not a sadist, he's a dominant who is into bondage and forced orgasms. Doesn't matter how much he rubs me, if I'm coming down with a cold, I am not going to be able to satisfy him by having 30 orgasms and then shaking uncontrollably afterwards while he holds me.
He also enjoys me fighting back on occasion, struggling to get away while he tickles me or pokes me. Struggling in a time like that is what he does want me to do. By doing it, he gets what he wants, and I do what he wants. If I didn't struggle then I would be refusing to obey.
Hell, he enjoys a certain amount of brattiness, mostly physical. If I did the kind of stuff you look for, I would not be doing what he wants. In order to please him, my list of stuff to do is totally different than your sub's.
Of course there's a major assumption there, that you indeed have one. If you don't you may want to reconsider the fact that if all you want is a sub to do things they don't like, and don't enjoy, they will leave sooner and not later in order to get their needs met.
My grandmother was neither boring nor a breeding cow, and your put down of anyone different than you is neither wanted nor appreciated.
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