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Sub cums too much to get Dom off Help! - 10/4/2007 12:10:16 AM

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I'm multi-orgasmic and particularly so with my dom. It's great for me, but because I cum so often and not far apart it's more difficult for my dom to cum because he (or I) breaks while I orgasm. Well, I'm convulsing and making my "O" face-- so even if he pins me it's still breaking up his rythmn too much. Is there a way to train myself to *decrease* my sensitivity? Or perhaps a way to increase his? More foreplay beforehand? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

RE: Sub cums too much to get Dom off Help! - 10/4/2007 12:13:01 AM

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make your 'O' face on his cock; you doughnut hole. I am sure this is not the end of the relationship.

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RE: Sub cums too much to get Dom off Help! - 10/4/2007 12:16:22 AM

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greetings amber,

i also am multiorgasmic (to an extreme sometimes), but the amount of foreplay and His control over His own body keeps that from being a problem with His orgasms most of the time. my suggestion would be to increase foreplay. :)

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RE: Sub cums too much to get Dom off Help! - 10/4/2007 1:23:26 AM

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I should clarify, foreplay beforehand is typically extensive ... trust me. I don't mean to come across as some sex-idiot either. It's not the easiest question for me to raise as I consider myself to be a damn good slut, but it bothers me. He does sometimes get a kick out of it -- his control in contrast to my utter submission, which Annabelle helped remind me of (thank you.) But there are also times when it genuinely interferes.

To better understand, we typically have sex for several hours, with maybe twenty minutes or so before that devoted to foreplay. He's very much ready, willing, and able, so to speak, after that point. He's trained me to not dismount when I'm on top, but after a person has cum 18 times they're just going to put up a good fight which is where it interferes. Not that I'm any match to him -- he's 6'5 and I'm 5'3. He may let me stop and blow him until I am ready to go again or he may flip me over into some other position where he has more control but then I'm cumming even more. So something like that scenario continues out over the course of several hours... and like I said it's not always problematic, but enough for me to ask.

I realize guys may think this is not a valid issue, but imagine how screwy it would be if I were a guy who came too much and too hard to get his girlfriend off. You should see why I care. So, if any guys have some kind of great method for the big release, or if any women know some tips for toning down extreme orgasms, (Annabelle?), please help.

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RE: Sub cums too much to get Dom off Help! - 10/4/2007 2:15:17 AM

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Do you think you can learn, be trained, I mean, to control your orgasms? Many slaves are not allowed to orgasm without permission.
By the way, when you hold orgasm back, if you end up packing several orgasms you would normally have, need to have, are begging to have, into one orgasm, trust me when I tell you, it is a fucking mindblowing one.

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RE: Sub cums too much to get Dom off Help! - 10/4/2007 2:24:19 AM

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Is this really a concern to him? or are you just feeling like you are getting more than him?
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RE: Sub cums too much to get Dom off Help! - 10/4/2007 2:33:22 AM

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Had a similar situation with one lady I used to go with, she would orgasm almost continuously, but it turned out not to be a problem. She/we just continued on as if nothing happened and sooner or later I came as there was no pressure either way. Don't make an issue of it and it should work out OK!!! Keep the rythm as best you can and he'll eventually climax ok.

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RE: Sub cums too much to get Dom off Help! - 10/4/2007 3:43:54 AM

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I don't know if this would work, but what if he put you in very restrictive bondage before he fucked you? If he bound you in such a way that you could not thrash about and convulse when you climax, then maybe he could just keep going right through your orgasms. He would have to be ruthless enough, however, to continue using you for his own pleasure...regardless of whether you keep coming or not, and regardless of how his continued stimulation affects you.

If he's having difficulty letting go because your orgasms distract him aside from the convulsing, he may be able to blindfold and gag you. Just make sure you have some kind of safe signal left in case anything goes truly wrong.

I know the above sounds kind of harsh, but to really accomplish what you're wanting to, it might work...

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RE: Sub cums too much to get Dom off Help! - 10/4/2007 3:53:34 AM

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I don't know if this would work, but what if he put you in very restrictive bondage before he fucked you? If he bound you in such a way that you could not thrash about and convulse when you climax, then maybe he could just keep going right through your orgasms. He would have to be ruthless enough, however, to continue using you for his own pleasure...regardless of whether you keep coming or not, and regardless of how his continued stimulation affects you.

If he's having difficulty letting go because your orgasms distract him aside from the convulsing, he may be able to blindfold and gag you. Just make sure you have some kind of safe signal left in case anything goes truly wrong.

I know the above sounds kind of harsh, but to really accomplish what you're wanting to, it might work...

lol this is a great idea!

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RE: Sub cums too much to get Dom off Help! - 10/4/2007 4:12:04 AM

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dear annabell
I have three possible solutions
#1 tyry slow anal it tends to be tighter and after 18 orgasms you should be relaxed enough to go there
#2 after that many orgasms you might become loosa as you relax so i would try keegling to controll your muscles for his pleasure
3 if foreplay is a problem perhaps it would be a good idea to have the the first orgasm delayed as long as possible to make it more intense and arouse him much more
these are ideas that have worked for me in the past

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RE: Sub cums too much to get Dom off Help! - 10/4/2007 6:01:57 AM

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He needs to stop making it all about you and start making it all about him. You do to, for that matter. Personally, I don't care how many times my bitch cums if she cums at all, we stop when I'm done.

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RE: Sub cums too much to get Dom off Help! - 10/4/2007 6:10:16 AM

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I'm multi-orgasmic and particularly so with my dom. It's great for me, but because I cum so often and not far apart it's more difficult for my dom to cum because he (or I) breaks while I orgasm. Well, I'm convulsing and making my "O" face-- so even if he pins me it's still breaking up his rythmn too much. Is there a way to train myself to *decrease* my sensitivity? Or perhaps a way to increase his? More foreplay beforehand? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

My guess is that you don't need more foreplay. Probably less. One of the great myths of life is that both people have to be having a great time for sex to occur. We prefer it that way, but it doesn't have to be that way. Trying have sex when you are less aroused and think about things that aren't sexy. Like what groceries you need to buy, a new book you are planning on reading, changing the car's oil. Tip: Because you will be less aroused, you may need lube.

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RE: Sub cums too much to get Dom off Help! - 10/4/2007 6:20:05 AM

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I can actually see where this could become a problem. I've experienced that sort of thing before, where the girl was hypersensitive. If it comes down to it, you could try some numbing cream... but that would be a last resort, I think. The best solution would probably be, like HollyBlue suggested, some restrictive bondage... or perhaps some rear entry positions, or maybe a combination of both... that way his rhythm won't be disrupted, and it really doesn't matter how many times you cum... he can just keep fucking you until he's satisfied.

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RE: Sub cums too much to get Dom off Help! - 10/4/2007 6:26:39 AM

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I personally play with a pup that is always orgasmic at touch and at word. Due to the extensive use of my mouth on her cunt and my choking/slapping her.. she cums on command and is always wet. It sometiems is hard to keep myself from sliding out of her as she is very very wet. But Again, this is not a bad thing. It just means you have to find an alternative way to cum. Weather its in her mouth or her ass...

I feel that you are worrying he is not being pleased. Unless he has complained about the amount of times you have cum, I dont think he has an issue. I personally enjoy seeing a woman climax multiple amount of times, but thats because I know I'm doing what is necessary to keep her on edge. It also means that she is a slave to her body.. and that I am just plucking the strings that are necessary to keep her strumming. However, if you feel that your cumming is interfering in his pleasure.. have him deprive you of reaching your orgasm. The few times I have forced the issue with the pup, she is hotter than hell but after I cum, she will lose it.. and I mean LOSE It. I once played with a sub (one who I still play with on occassion).. and flogged, cropped, spanked and paddled her for a good 90 minutes, depriving her of her orgasm.. only to fist her and then she came.. over and over and over.. losing control of her body and her bladder. It is all recorded and it was beautiful.

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RE: Sub cums too much to get Dom off Help! - 10/4/2007 7:11:37 AM

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Yup, like others here I'm not understanding the "break" thing or the "until I'm ready to go again" thing. I'm extremely multi orgasmic, but I've never had anyone take a break because of it. I would suggest you just continue right on through them.

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RE: Sub cums too much to get Dom off Help! - 10/4/2007 7:59:50 AM

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I'm multi orgasmic also but I need a certain rhythm or I have trouble reaching the first few orgasms. He needs you to stop having orgasms so he can keep thrusting at his preferred rhythm. Since this isn't going to happen simultaneously, how about taking turns. He could climax first and then stimulate you with toys or hands. Or he could climax through a bj after he's decided you had enough.

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RE: Sub cums too much to get Dom off Help! - 10/4/2007 8:04:53 AM

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Your Master can train you to cum on verbal command so you can only cum when he alows you to. Basically you have to ask permission from him before your body will permit you to cum. Ok I have said it diferent ways so as not to be mis understood.
    There are a few ways to go about doing this. As far as having to take a break I do understand why and for those who dont let me explain. One of my slaves was very orgasmic she would cum one after the other so many times she would start to have sevier cramps worse then PMS cramps. When this happened we would take a small break let the cramps subside and then continue.
    There are many women out there without this problem but there are still the few with it. Just like the few women who are out there that have yet to reach orgasm at all even by there own stimulation and there in there 50's and older.
    It is a proven scientific fact that the female orgasm is harder to documinent, evaluate, or understand then the atom. There have been case studies on the female orgasm done going back to the 1930's

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RE: Sub cums too much to get Dom off Help! - 10/4/2007 8:29:30 AM

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As far as having to take a break I do understand why and for those who dont let me explain. One of my slaves was very orgasmic she would cum one after the other so many times she would start to have sevier cramps worse then PMS cramps. When this happened we would take a small break let the cramps subside and then continue.

Yup, orgasms can hurt after you have 50 of them in a row. There's also that time immediately after an orgasm when it's so intense that you just don't want to be touched or stimulated. Thank goodness though that I've been with men who just overlook all of that and continue doing what they want to do, despite my crying, begging and pleading. Pretty soon those feelings go away and the tension starts to mount for the NEXT orgasm. Then the cries start to turn to "OMG, not another one, I can't take anymore....PLEASE!!!!". And thank goodness I've been with men who delight in those pleas and continue to do what they want to do....because it really isn't all about me....and GAWD that's what makes it so fricking HOT!!!!!!

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RE: Sub cums too much to get Dom off Help! - 10/4/2007 8:56:39 AM

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Get yourself a chastity belt and offer yourself to him as his oral and anal slave. Ask him to refrain from having vaginal sex with you until he has had 5 orgasms or so.

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RE: Sub cums too much to get Dom off Help! - 10/4/2007 1:43:40 PM

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greetings amber,

perhaps it is that our play is very much foreplay-focused, but 20 minutes of foreplay does not strike me personally as "extensive." what i meant by focusing more on foreplay is spending more (perhaps even a majority) of the time on foreplay and on other methods of getting him off, and drawing it out - alternating with handjobs, blowjobs, rimming (if that's your thing), mutual masturbation, whatever he enjoys (and you enjoy). unless the only way he can possibly have an orgasm is through intercourse, and he's not interested in even building up to orgasms during intercourse by more extensive foreplay, this will first of all slow YOUR multiorgasmic experience down (unless you are like me and can be multiorgasmic during non-intercourse activities - i am not normally multiorgasmic during intercourse - in which case it depends on what you're doing, hehe), and also draw out the experience for him and perhaps make it more focused on his pleasure and eventually his orgasm (either during the foreplay or during intercourse when the whole situation is less intercourse-focused).

just wanted to clarify that because i do not think that what i meant by "more extensive foreplay" was all that understood. this may not work at all for you two, since you seem to be much more intercourse-focused, but if it sounds at all appealing, i would say it is worth a try.

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annabelle.

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