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RE: Can you help me? - 10/7/2007 4:13:09 AM

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I am 24 and I wear glasses, and the color combo is still offensive to my eyes. so there goes your old fuckers who need glasses statement
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. Who gives a damn about the color. Let the old fuckers get glasses if they can't see it well enough.

HEY, HEY, HEY!!!! I might be one of those old fuckers....I cand read it just fine..now pass me my viagra please..........

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/7/2007 5:28:38 AM

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Hm pretty interesting because in a post you made in April you said you were being trained in orgasm control.

So perhaps it is time to update your profile and certainly take out the "nor have I done anything sexual". Not sure about you but I usually see orgasms as something sexual.

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/7/2007 5:49:28 AM

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You should write it any way you want that explains about who you are and what you seek.
All I get from your profile is that you are 19 year old virgin seeking Dominant men for vanilla meetings in a coffee shop who will then take you shopping.
What is it you want and why are you here?

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/7/2007 5:56:04 AM

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ORIGINAL: youngirl4oldrguy

Well, many people have e-mailed me and basically said my profile was crap that it wasnt very "submissive" or i sounded way to demanding and i would just like to know how i should write my profile .

I am sorry for any incorrect spelling or grammer because i am not that great at that type of stuff.

Thank you for reading :)

Lol, I just love that your profile specifically says you're vanilla and NOT submissive yet you say these hornbag rocket scientists email to tell you you're not very submissive.... More proof that males don't read profiles beyond "female"....

But I do hafta agree with many others - the biggest problem with your profile is that it's apparently on the wrong site. You see, there's a very sound and simple reason why you won't find my profile on a gay site - I'm <drum roll> ....... NOT gay!

I'm not being mean, just curious - why are you at CM?

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/7/2007 6:04:11 AM

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In regards to the OP:

Who gives a damn about the color. Let the old fuckers get glasses if they can't see it well enough.

This "old fucker" doesn't need glasses 'cause he's way too clever for anyone whining about font or background colours. See, I've got this magic trick where I click and drag over offending colour schemes and guess what happens....?

Tah dahhhhhh!

Takes a bow....

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/7/2007 7:03:58 AM

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Bravo! Bravo I say! Well done!

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/7/2007 7:37:57 AM

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A profile is just that, a "profile" individual. It is what you choose it to be, not what anyone else does. If you want it the way it is, keep it.

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/7/2007 7:40:17 AM

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added to that after reading it: Why are you on a BDSM site looking for vanilla only?

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/7/2007 8:02:33 AM

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ORIGINAL: InkedMaster

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i would just like to know how i should write my profile

Well Cindy, how did you write it for every other free dating site you're on?

ok my name is cindy......can we call her isabelle maybe?

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/7/2007 11:17:07 AM

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ok my name is cindy......can we call her isabelle maybe?

My bad...lol...how bout Esther or Gertrude, perhaps Mabel ohhhhhh I know Eunice!!!

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/7/2007 1:12:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: dcnovice

-- It's a little puzzling why you'd post a profile on a BDSM site and then be adamant about wanting just vanilla.

Yea this puzzled me as well since i had to reread it a couple times to make sure i was reading it correctly. Also it seems like it's all about you and nothing else.

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/7/2007 5:03:33 PM

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Hello

Thanks for all your wonderful repleys to me, but i think iam submissive as i told people when they e-mail me that i want vanilla first because i have had no sexual experince before, just because i posted about orgasm conrol before doesnt mean i dont play with my self. i just seek someone to teach me i am still very new at this and i dont know how to word my profile the way someone should i dont know how i sound demaning if i dont put my wants people complain that i dont put them so i put them and people say i sound demanding i have changed my profile so many times and got nasty e-mails saying my profile is crap, well i got fed up with it just said i wanted vanilla well there are Doms on this site that are willing to start vanilla first then progress in to someone more fun lol. and the people that said i should write my profile any way i want is right ,,, iam just asking for advice iam not asking for someone to write my profile for me. i need help i really want to learn and iam very shy i wish someone could teach me what i need to know go nice and slow for me. i wish i could find someone.

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/7/2007 5:10:03 PM

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And my name is christine and i am 20 i need to update the part where it saids 19 ,,, and i wear glasses( and ia i cant see for shit with out them ) and i can read the pink/black writing, so i thought anyone could read it and no one has ever complain about it before ,,, but since it hurts peoples eyes i will change the colors just to plain black i just wanted to try something differnt i thought it would be sexy lol

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/7/2007 5:37:00 PM

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Dearest youngirl ........
i concure with "almost" every response that has been given to You.

~Profile You, plain and simple.~

That being said ......... lol ........ You did ask, soooooooo the flip to this coin IMO goes as follows (and by NO means is this meant to offend Your delicate sensibilities, remember ..... You asked darlin'!!):
Many here balance quite nicely being vanilla and D/s ..... it is called having a basic respect for the rest of the world.
Your color scheme was diffcult for my eyes to take in ......... lmao, yet i am old compared to lil ol' You!!
You speak of only YOU....... i chalk that up to Your lack of life experience ......... or quite possibly it is the very fiber of who You are .......... either way, as an introduction, it is insulting that You come across so narrow-minded.
As a reader of Your profile, i was affronted that You took so little time with general sentence structure ........ spelling and the like. It told me that the little things mean ....... well, very little to You. If Your intention is to serve another in any capacity, i can only assume that there may be some level of detail said Dom or vanilla man would like You to pay attention to.
As for those who give You "unwanted" advice ......... keep in mind that the bottom line is ........... no matter if You are sub/slave or vanilla chicky-poo looking to explore a tad of kink ......... the choice is Yours dear child ........... how You present Yourself, what You say, and the choice You end with .......... all on You Lady.
Yes well .......... lol .......... just my two cents!!!
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RE: Can you help me? - 10/7/2007 6:32:10 PM

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ORIGINAL: youngirl4oldrguy

Hello

Thanks for all your wonderful repleys to me, but i think iam submissive as i told people when they e-mail me that i want vanilla first because i have had no sexual experince before, just because i posted about orgasm conrol before doesnt mean i dont play with my self. i just seek someone to teach me i am still very new at this and i dont know how to word my profile the way someone should i dont know how i sound demaning if i dont put my wants people complain that i dont put them so i put them and people say i sound demanding i have changed my profile so many times and got nasty e-mails saying my profile is crap, well i got fed up with it just said i wanted vanilla well there are Doms on this site that are willing to start vanilla first then progress in to someone more fun lol. and the people that said i should write my profile any way i want is right ,,, iam just asking for advice iam not asking for someone to write my profile for me. i need help i really want to learn and iam very shy i wish someone could teach me what i need to know go nice and slow for me. i wish i could find someone.

Having looked at your profile, and having read through this thread, this is what I would offer:

If you're really concerned about your profile and wish to revise it, grab yourself an old-fashioned pen and piece of paper. Think about who you are, what you want, and how it will complete you as a person. Take your time. If you get frustrated, put it down and go watch a movie or something, come back to it later.

When you're done writing it, read it out loud to yourself. Edit it if you want. Then use the results as your profile.

Spelling and grammar aside [as you noted, you're not trying to be perfect here...], what I've seen from your profile and your commentary here indicates to me that you need love, attention, and to be part of something more than yourself. I could be reading into it, but that is what I got. *shrugs*

Your frustration seems to come from not knowing how to express what it is you need. I say that because everyone needs love, and most everyone needs attention in some shape or form. If you want to be accepted for "what you are", you have to put "what you are" out there for people to see; and if you don't know exactly what you are, and need guidance, then you will have to be patient. Even the perfect person for you will need to get to know you and understand you, that will take time and patience on both sides of the fence.

This is only what I'm seeing from your profile; I freely admit I could be way off base.

It gives you a little more to consider, though. Hope it helps.

PS: If you're bothered by people trashing your profile, don't be. Part of letting people have free speech is sometimes giving people the right to speak gently OR like jackasses. Ultimately, all you're being offered is opinion, which is free, and worth every penny.

Take the commentary for what it is, and then do as you like. It's your profile.

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/7/2007 7:17:23 PM

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ORIGINAL: youngirl4oldrguy

Well, many people have e-mailed me and basically said my profile was crap that it wasnt very "submissive" or i sounded way to demanding and i would just like to know how i should write my profile .

I am sorry for any incorrect spelling or grammer because i am not that great at that type of stuff.

Thank you for reading :)

I looked at your profile and read through the responses thus far. I disagree with many of them. In no way do you mention that you only seek vanilla. You say that you want to start out vanilla and progress from there to d/s. That is in no way demanding or a lack of submissiveness. It simply means that you want to get to know someone first to develop trust. If you're ultimately seeking a relationship, as opposed to a casual play partner, in my opinion you're using the best approach. You're not on the wrong site. Not everyone here is looking for a friend with benefits, as I have seen many post on these boards that have been in a relationship for some time, some even live together. I seriously doubt that those who are long term (especially those who live together) have never engaged in any vanilla activities together.

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/7/2007 7:30:44 PM

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:::::applause::::::::::Her, Here, lumus::::::::applause::::::::::::Braveo!

Of course I read your profile and it's like a flipped coin, hmmmm
very interesting, hell you make me want to move to Mass to dominate you.
hot/cold your missing something, went from one extreme to the other
who are you? Who do you think you are? Who do you think you want to be?
now you don't have to tell everything about yourself, set bait out for the dom
you want to serve. don't give everything out, what would you and the millions
of doms that e-mail you would talk about. I hear your fear/want/need to go slow.
very good, smart. I keep rereading your profile, and I appreciate it more and more.
It's a lovely profile, and your probably getting thousands of e-mails daily.
so have patients and be smart. you have control till you give it away.

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/7/2007 7:34:24 PM

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Ok I'll put my two cents in also. You won't need a sugar daddy after we've all put our two cents in, you'll be independently wealthy, anyways, bad sense of humor sorry.

There's nothing wrong with stating what you want in your profile imo, however I think what comes across as demanding is that you start several sentences with "I want", it's not what you're saying it's how you're saying it. I would suggest just mixing up your sentence structure so it doesn't start with I, you still get the point across but you sound less demanding. You could try something like "Looking for someone who treats me right and..." by doing little things like that you can avoid it.

And this "iam just looking for vanilla sorry but iam not a submissive and i know that by now so please if your not willing to be vanilla i will not reply to you" makes very little sense to me, if you know you're not submissive then why are you here? If you are just looking to start vanilla then progress to kinky I would clearly state that so people viewing understand.

Best of Luck,

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/7/2007 7:46:28 PM

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And this "iam just looking for vanilla sorry but iam not a submissive and i know that by now so please if your not willing to be vanilla i will not reply to you" makes very little sense to me,
This is not what the OP states at all. I looked at her profile both before your post and after and neither time did I see such a quote. When someone changes their profile, it has to be approved. This takes awhile. I know this for a fact because I've made several changes to mine since I've been on this site.
If you are just looking to start vanilla then progress to kinky I would clearly state that so people viewing understand.
Now this is what the OP is saying and she expressed it very well. I had no problem understanding it at all.

Best of Luck,

Vi

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/7/2007 9:36:01 PM

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I looked at your profile and read through the responses thus far. I disagree with many of them.
ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

She updated it since then, much better starting point now BTW youngirl4oldrguy

And yes the quote: "iam just looking for vanilla sorry but iam not a submissive and i know that by now so please if your not willing to be vanilla i will not reply to you" was in her orignal profile.

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