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sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Question for all you non-believers (10/10/2007 6:55:23 AM)

to me it seems high school-ish to put an emphasis on how many dates before getting to first, second, and third base with someone.  personally i don't have sex on the first date and/or one-night stands because i'm looking for something more than "right here and now" with a man.  i want to be sure we (the guy and i) are both on the same page in what we're seeking in a relationship before moving into the bedroom. call me old fashion or whatever however with STDs and AIDS, i'm not one in favor of hopping from bed to bed until i find the right guy for me.




LotusSong -> RE: Question for all you non-believers (10/10/2007 8:49:55 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: ravenor
 I think Making love is defined by the look... if your with someone and you're doing whatever you're doing... and your eyes meet.. and in that moment there is an unspoken conversation that lasts a lifetime, that says you are all I want and more, you are everything I could ever have dreamed you would be. In that perfect moment, that fragile perfect moment, where hearts lay open... then you are making love 


Well said :)




RCdc -> RE: Question for all you non-believers (10/10/2007 8:59:29 AM)

You are confusing the issues of love and sex and infatuation.  They are all different issues that can be put together and combined, or can exist on their own.
 
You can't compare them to each other only with each other.
 
the.dark.




GoldStallion -> RE: Question for all you non-believers (10/10/2007 9:14:32 AM)

I agree with LA, NorthernGent and thedark on this.

As for love at first site - I do believe in it, as it has happened to me once.

OK. Twice. But the second time was without looking in the mirror.




pahunkboy -> RE: Question for all you non-believers (10/14/2007 4:25:46 AM)

the 5th date is fine




julietsierra -> RE: Question for all you non-believers (10/14/2007 4:44:21 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: FullCircle

Love at first sight doesn’t exist; you confuse love and lust I think.


Well, my parents were engaged after three coffee dates. Married less than a year later. And this past July, celebrated 49 years of being together.

Oh yea...that would be 49 years of swooning and laughing and loving and talking dirty to each other when they thought no one could hear, and my mother never leaving my father's side when he was hospitalized and my father refusing to leave even for nurses to do their jobs when my mother was in the hospital.

Oh, and there's my father's parents who ran away to marry 3 weeks after he moved to her town and 3 days after they met. And they were married for over 60 absolutely love and laughter filled years.

My family seems to have this "thing" about threes.

And then there's my brother who met some girl online...went to another state to meet her and came home long enough to sell his house and pack his belongings. They've been together now for over 10 years. Between them they've weathered a Brady Bunch existence (5 Yours and Mine kids. Two of those are in college at the same time with a third to join them next year) They are giddily in love still.

And then, there's me. Met my Master on a Friday night at a munch. We drifted apart that evening. I spent the next two years watching for him to show up at an event where I was. Two years later, I met him for the first time a second time on a Saturday night. We went out the following Thursday. I knew then that I'd never be going anywhere again. I knew by the end of that night just who I belonged to and that no matter what, I'd be here till he told me to go. I've loved him the entire time.

Just because it doesn't exist for you does not mean it doesn't exist at all.

juliet




FullCircle -> RE: Question for all you non-believers (10/14/2007 4:51:32 AM)

Just because it exists for you doesn’t mean it exists for everyone else. So you looked at him and knew all about him at first sight?
You knew he would stand by you in every situation?




Celeste43 -> RE: Question for all you non-believers (10/14/2007 5:54:02 AM)

I'm capable of feeling the spark but not acting on it until I know enough about him. The chemistry just means all systems are go, it doesn't mean I have to launch the rocket.




Rushemery -> RE: Question for all you non-believers (10/14/2007 7:38:11 AM)

I believe in love at first sight, I have had only 2 long term relationships the first made me wait 6 months and and it lasted 4.5 years and she was my HS sweetheart if that counts,  my second was my ex and that was around a ten year relationship this one didnt wait more that a couple hours all the rest were 1 evening to three months and there wasnt any waiting for a second date, now my life is really busy and I can only bring people home 2 nights a week so my dates tend to be old girlfriends contacting me and comming over which sucks because ive already done that been there and there isnt any romance or excitment of something new, but Im also starting to not like this online stuff because you dont really know who your talking to and you waist a lot of time, but here i am anyway go figgure




julietsierra -> RE: Question for all you non-believers (11/16/2007 12:16:17 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: FullCircle

Just because it exists for you doesn’t mean it exists for everyone else. So you looked at him and knew all about him at first sight?
You knew he would stand by you in every situation?


Well, others were saying that it doesn't exist at all. That would imply for everyone. I simply told my views. (I'm allowed y'know) And, I never said that I knew he'd stand by me. I said that I'd be there till he told me to go. I don't presume to make decisions for him. I made them for myself. I knew I'd stand by him.

The rest has been a fun exploration and discovery process.

Sorry it took so long to answer this. It got lost in the thread shuffle and I just found it again this morning.

juliet




meatcleaver -> RE: Question for all you non-believers (11/16/2007 1:21:46 AM)

If a woman wants to be fucked o the first date I'm not going to be the one to say no. I have no intention of any serious relationship arising in my life at the moment and its all just fucking to me. That doesn't mean I don't enjoy the woman's company, I do or I wouldn't be fucking her. But hell, a fuck missed can never be regained.




meatcleaver -> RE: Question for all you non-believers (11/16/2007 1:23:00 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Celeste43

I'm capable of feeling the spark but not acting on it until I know enough about him. The chemistry just means all systems are go, it doesn't mean I have to launch the rocket.


Oi! I'm the rocket!




eyesopened -> RE: Question for all you non-believers (11/16/2007 2:13:39 AM)

Probably one of the reasons i'm the way i am.  While i am from an older generation my "talk" with my mother went like this "Honey there is only one reason to have sex, and that's because you want to."  i've wanted to on a first date and i've wanted to on third dates and sometimes i didn't want to at all.  i don't believe in love at first sight.  i believe in attraction at first sight.  i don't have to be in love to want sex.  For me, the difference is, when i am in love i want to have sex even if i'm not in the mood.




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