KiandPhoenix -> RE: Dear Kinky Abbey (10/18/2007 3:28:45 AM)
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Dear Kinky Abby I am a Dom with will power. To much will power. I am also almost always right. When I say almost always, I mean 99.999999% of the time. It isn't that I am not willing to hear someone else's side of things, it is that I make informed decisions based on facts, and can back up anything I decide on. I rarely say anything without thinking it through. This has the positive reaction that I usually inspire trust in my decisions. It also has a way of making my partners feel stupid. We handle our discussions in an open manor, and I do listen to the other side of things, but it is typically my partner who changes her view, not me. This tends to cause a two fold effect. First it makes my partner not want to discuss their opinions with me, because they feel like they will never be right, because I am never wrong. Second it makes them feel frustrated with me. My last relationship ended after three years in part to this. I am still friends with that ex, but she warns the people I date about me never being able to be wrong. I want to keep my partners happy, but I can not admit to being wrong if I am not actually wrong. Faking an argument to be wrong would hurt the trust put in me in several ways. How do I keep my partner feeling like her opinions are important to me, keep her from being frustrated, and not loose any respect or trust? ~Ki
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