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Acer49 -> RE: Consensual Blackmail and Third Parties. (11/29/2009 1:31:34 PM)
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ORIGINAL: LadySonelle
Just thought I'd add My opinions on involving third parties in the BDSM discipline of Consensual Blackmail.
To enter into such play requires the utmost trust on the part of the consenting blackmailee and the utmost dedication to ETHICS on the part of the blackmailer, the Mistress or Master. This is edgeplay of the highest order and carries potential for severe harm from embarrassment through loss of livlihood, depression, to potential suicide! It is DANGEROUS unless handled like the dynamite it is.
The threat of "exposure" is the kick in the scene, the danger that drives the submissive. Whether it's a "confession letter" a photograph (or several) in dresses, fetish attire, bondage, etc or simply the information that the person is a submissive and is playing with a Mistress.
The danger is to the Mistress equally, in that blackmail is illegal and if the submissive turns on the mistress, can send her to jail! Trust must exist on both sides.
I feel that involving others in the Mistress / slave consensual blackmailing dyad is difficult to do, but not impossible. Each person has several circles of people they know, from next-of-kin to strangers.
The closest circle includes parents, spouses, children, siblings. This inner circle has the most "stake" in the central person. They love and/or depend on the central person. They have an emotional and probably physical connection. Involving *them* in blackmail is not consensual (unless specific consent is given BY the third party!). Their reaction is likely to be shock, profound unhappiness and estrangement from the blackmailee. The blackmailee stands to lose a major portion of their life and emotional support.
The second circle is friends. Some ex-lovers or ex-spouses etc. They have some emotional ties and involving them in consensual blackmail is a greyer area. Their reaction would tend to be shock, possibly anger, some laughter possibly ridicule. The blackmailee stands to be severely embarrassed and possibly lose a portion of emotional support.
The third circle out from the center includes business associates, co=workers, bosses, employees, acquaintances. They have little emotional stake in the central person and have less to lose if involved in consensual blackmail. Their reactions tend to be shock, some laughter, ridicule and possibly even joining in with the blackmailer in the fun. The blackmailee stands to lose employment and also to lose status and be publicly embarrassed.
The final circle is the public at large. Unless the blackmailee is a famous figure, they are far less likely to suffer emotional harm, although embarrassment carries its own pain. The public's reaction ranges from laughter to outright echoing the sordid details to others. The blackmailee suffers embarrassment and humiliation.
While I will not involve the first circle of persons (unless given explicit permission BY that person!) the second third and fourth circles are (depending on circumstances) fair game!
Anyone else have ideas on this topic?
Lady Sonelle
It would seem theat the blackmailer has more to lose then the blackmailee, for if he or she does indeed send the information out, they have taken it from roleplying fantasy to reality and while the blackmailee may suffer some of the events as suggested, the blackmailer would face not only legal sanctions but also civil ones as well.
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