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phoenixinchains -> this one's for the bi's... (10/12/2007 2:54:31 AM)





curious, do Yyou find Yyou're more inclined to want to submit to one sex and to dominate the other? most switches i know say it's the other's personality more than the gender, but still curious i am...
phoenix





Bryghteyez -> RE: this one's for the bi's... (10/12/2007 7:53:58 PM)

Personally...not really...it is the personality and chemistry that drives it for me.



laurell3 -> RE: this one's for the bi's... (10/12/2007 8:27:01 PM)

I've never had any interest in having a female as a submissive, although I can't honestly tell you why.  It's just one of those things I pondered for awhile and said doesn't work for me.

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DiurnalVampire -> RE: this one's for the bi's... (10/12/2007 8:31:00 PM)

The one switch I kept would only dominate men, she had no interest in dominating women. She could, however, be sub to either gender.
Dont know how that figures into things, if it personality or what...

DV



YourhandMyAss -> RE: this one's for the bi's... (10/12/2007 9:02:24 PM)

Actually yes. I am more sexually agressive towards women. The thought of dominating them gets my motor running, and while I like sex with men, women, mmmmmmmm they just bring my inner preditorial animalistic cat behavior out. btw being bi sexual doesn't automatically make you a switch.

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ORIGINAL: phoenixinchains





curious, do Yyou find Yyou're more inclined to want to submit to one sex and to dominate the other? most switches i know say it's the other's personality more than the gender, but still curious i am...
phoenix






Tigrita -> RE: this one's for the bi's... (10/12/2007 11:11:58 PM)

Primarily I get sexual gratification out of submitig to a dominant man, and potentially dominating women (I'm just starting to explore both bi and switch tendencies).  I've always had a pretty dominant personality, and usually actually feel dominant towards most men who approach me, but I don't want to be; these are the ones I reject.  I'm only interested in a dominant male primary partner.  Once that is fulfilled I can enjoy the idea of dominating men and women sexually.  It takes a very strong man to inspire my submission, so there are very few circumstances where I'd feel submissive to a woman, but those exceptions do exist (ex. I'd totally submit to Mila Jovovitch ;) or to my totally sexy, hard-ass, young female professor).



Stephann -> RE: this one's for the bi's... (10/13/2007 6:07:38 AM)

While not being bi, I enjoy dominating both sexes and don't feel inclined to submit to either.

Stephan



Lashra -> RE: this one's for the bi's... (10/13/2007 6:37:24 AM)

I am also bi and have no desire to submit to either gender, but I love to dominate men and hopefully one day will find out what it is like to dominate a woman.

~Lashra



laurell3 -> RE: this one's for the bi's... (10/13/2007 4:49:16 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Stephann

While not being bi, I enjoy dominating both sexes and don't feel inclined to submit to either.

Stephan


 
 
This is always an interesting comment to me Stephann.  Is it still sexual for you to top them even if they aren't the preferred sex?  What if it is for them? (not criticising, just curious).
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charlotte12 -> RE: this one's for the bi's... (10/14/2007 7:20:55 PM)

Nope.  Domination is rarely a sexual activity for me, with either men or women.  I enjoy dominating someone who is sexually attractive; but I don't link the two together anymore than I link enjoying pasta, with a romantic dinner and sex.  On the other hand, thinking about where a romantic dinner might lead is erotic for me; so too with domination.  I don't get aroused at the idea of topping either a man or a woman; I enjoy it on a very primal, "this is my domain" level.  That easily bleeds over into sex.  I wouldn't likely be driven to have sex with a man, though.

Stephan



phoenixinchains -> RE: this one's for the bi's... (10/15/2007 4:54:48 AM)




Thanks for the responces, i just wanted to know how it varied person to person. -phoenix





LadyLynx -> RE: this one's for the bi's... (10/15/2007 12:01:16 PM)

though I wouldn't mind having a female sub, I am more inclined to dominate males, and submit to females.



toservez -> RE: this one's for the bi's... (10/15/2007 2:39:00 PM)

My personal experience and reactions to being owned by both genders is that I did not see a difference in feeling one gender was better or more dominant for me. Who I choose to be owned by was not based on one gender being more so in this area.

It has been my experience dominance in a relationship is something the person either has or does not that I would respond to. Not saying it is automatic, natural and any other term that inspires thoughts of instant servitude, but a core thing in their being with time and nurturing blossoms into a dominant for a power exchange relationship.




Jinger -> RE: this one's for the bi's... (10/15/2007 5:14:06 PM)

I suppose the personality could come into play...but...I have yet to meet a boy that wasn't just another boy.
Being a boy, I know what most males want. I know how most males think. I know why most males act the way they do.
How could I submit to something so predictable? What's the fun in that? I find it's much easier to dominate them than anything else.

Girls on the otherhand. I can actually relate a lot to girls. Like, moreso than you think...but even still they are full of surprises (in my experience).
Coupled with the fact that I find them superior to boys, I really don't think I could submit to any other gender.

I dunno about transexuals though...haven't given them a go.



violentlilangel -> RE: this one's for the bi's... (10/15/2007 6:02:41 PM)

is it rong if i have PTSD from ass play?



phoenixinchains -> RE: this one's for the bi's... (10/16/2007 4:06:55 AM)




not sure if that is relevant to the question, but you're not alone[:D]





MiladyJade -> RE: this one's for the bi's... (10/22/2007 7:23:51 PM)

I tend to submit more easily to men, but I can dominate either gender effectively.



ShadowsLap -> RE: this one's for the bi's... (10/22/2007 11:16:50 PM)

Hello all,

I've dominated both males and females (actually TGs, too) and been submissive to both (not TGs) and for me, it really is all about the personality moreso than gender alone.  I must spend some time talking to someone who expects to serve or be served by me.  If you don't know anything about me, how can you possibly meet my needs - or I meet yours?

Attractiveness is nice, but more often than not, it is not as high on my list as intelligence, compatibility and trust.   Those are the things that excite me ... always have ... always will.

ShadowsLap



Android -> RE: this one's for the bi's... (10/23/2007 4:14:15 AM)

I can dominate or submit to either gender, it all depends upon the personality and the dynamic of the scene.

I'm reletively new to the concept of switching, I have just started to explore my bottom/submissive nature after a long time of always needing to be in control. If someone makes me feel safe and trusting enough, I will submit...without trust there is no submission.



zindyslave -> RE: this one's for the bi's... (10/23/2007 6:28:37 AM)

I at one time thought that the only gender I would be able to Dominate would be females but I have found my first submissive since I have decided that I would like to try that and its a male and well I guess it is because of his personality. So, I guess I would have to say to this that for me its based on there personality not gender at least not anymore.



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