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WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Safe sex ? (10/12/2007 4:37:52 PM)
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I don't understand the bawl after sex thing, but I had a friend of mine who came to visit. She had sex several times with my boyfriend, during her stay. Since I was in bed with them during the act, it would seem self evident that I was ok with it. Still, she cried each time afterwards. She kept apologizing to me, for some reason. I finally told her I didn't care how many times they fucked, but if she cried one more damn time I was kicking her outside to sleep.
So, that said, I think its pretty self evident I don't really get the emotional risk from sex thing, either. However, I can understand if someone has a monogomous mindset and a monogomous agreement with another - if one person betrays the boundaries of that agreement, how it could be emotionally damaging and a selfish act on their part. But, that falls under integrity and trust issues. The same can be said for any act that betrays trust, not just infidelity.
PS: I'm not a total heartless bitch. The first time, I was all hugs and comfort. The second time, I tried to be understanding but after the third and fourth time I was of the mindset, "If it upsets you so much, stop climbing on top and fucking him."
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