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YourhandMyAss -> RE: Safe sex ? (10/12/2007 4:22:15 PM)

It's more safe, but birthcontrol's not 100p ercent safe. only absitance is, guarenteed safe.
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ORIGINAL: alittlebent

Is Sex really considered safe when using a condom or other protection,




CuriousLord -> RE: Safe sex ? (10/12/2007 4:29:32 PM)

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ORIGINAL: alittlebent

Is Sex really considered safe when using a condom or other protection, or should the repercussions of emotions enter into it also? Does anyone consider that it could wreck lives? The participants, their loved ones? i am very interested in your thoughts.


I've never seen sex as even potentially emotionally damaging to myself.  Blah.  I've seen some girls break down, crying.  Hell, I knew a nympth of a slave once who cried profusely as soon as she came out of utter guilt.

Since I'm the only male I know sexually, and I'm always just fine.. it seems like a girl thing to me.  Still, I guess other guys might have.. several emotional problems involving sex.. as.. ..weird.. as that sounds to me.




WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Safe sex ? (10/12/2007 4:37:52 PM)

I don't understand the bawl after sex thing, but I had a friend of mine who came to visit.  She had sex several times with my boyfriend, during her stay.  Since I was in bed with them during the act, it would seem self evident that I was ok with it.  Still,  she cried each time afterwards.  She kept apologizing to me, for some reason.  I finally told her I didn't care how many times they fucked, but if she cried one more damn time I was kicking her outside to sleep.

So, that said, I think its pretty self evident I don't really get the emotional risk from sex thing, either.  However, I can understand if someone has a monogomous mindset and a monogomous agreement with another - if one person betrays the boundaries of that agreement, how it could be emotionally damaging and a selfish act on their part.  But, that falls under integrity and trust issues.  The same can be said for any act that betrays trust, not just infidelity.

PS:  I'm not a total heartless bitch.  The first time, I was all hugs and comfort.  The second time, I tried to be understanding but after the third and fourth time I was of the mindset, "If it upsets you so much, stop climbing on top and fucking him."




sublizzie -> RE: Safe sex ? (10/12/2007 4:53:26 PM)

~~fast reply~~

For me, personally, sexual intimacy of the insertion kind generally makes me feel very, very submitted to someone. This is one reason I almost never have sex with someone unless there is already a strong connection with them. I can't have casual sex. I'm just not wired that way.




WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Safe sex ? (10/12/2007 5:07:09 PM)

Casual sex really isn't MY thing either.  I think I've already made the confession on another string that my sum total of sexual partners comes to about 8 people [:)].  But what I lack for in quantity and experience, I usually make up for in enthusiasm. 




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