Interesdom
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Joined: 5/24/2004 From: England Status: offline
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I agree with the advice about getting out in real life and meeting people for real. Even so, the Internet is one avenue and can be put to good use. (Please excuse typos, I'm currently on a tiny laptop keyboard.) You might find that a review of your profile will pay off well. Stop thinking about your desires and concentrate on those of the man you seek. What will he be looking for that he will find in you? Make sure that your NEEDS are covered in a straightforward, non-agressive manner (if you find it hard to separate wants from needs, here's a clue: needs can be expressed in one sentence). I have marketing skills as well as experience with personal adverts. Here's your current profile, which I'm going to give some objective ctitism on to try to help you: quote:
i am intelligent, honest, witty and bold! i am relatively fit, i work out 3-5 times a week. i desire a tall, attractive, intelligent, honest, caring Dom who will lead me and respect me. i don't take myself too seriously and i have no desire to settle for less than exactly what i am looking for. The first part is quite good: "i am intelligent, honest, witty and bold! i am relatively fit". It would make a snappy intro and would be better as a seperate paragraph. Put the bit about working out into a later sentence/small paragraph to do with your favourite actitivities and hobbies. "i desire a tall, attractive, intelligent, honest, caring Dom" just is not good! Firstly, get rid of 'honest' - not only is a word that attracts the dishonest but it's a given (ever see or hear anyone say they want a cheating liar?) Is tall and attractive really a need? Can't you imagine falling for a guy who is about the same height as you, or who does not think of himself as attractive (most men don't)? If these things really are necessary, define them better; e.g. "i like men over 5'9" with chiseled features". Most doms are intelligent so you're not cutting down there and it's safe to leave in (though of course you rule out over half the standard male population). Is there a better word than 'caring'? Could you be more explicit: after all, most sadists care about the girl who's skin they are flogging, most strict owners care about the food they allow their slave so what kind of caring do you need? 'Caring' is almost as bad as 'honest' (yes, I use it in my profiles but I'm dominant). If you can't define it, leave it out - it's something you'll just have to work out when you get to know the man. I think "who will lead me and respect me" is good - it targets the kind of relationship the man you are looking for is seeking to have. Then there's that dreadful last sentence! "i don't take myself too seriously..." yet you continue in a manner that indictes quite the opposite. "...and i have no desire to settle for less than exactly what i am looking for." Exactly what you're looking for? It's expected that you are going to be choosy so you don't need to say that but there's no way I'd approach someone who was telling me that I must match some tight definition of theirs - especially when that definition is not even being fully explained. I would say you need to take the first part of the sentence and work it into a lot more about your personality and character. Take the last part of the sentence and think long and hard about what it is you NEED for your next relationship to work and state it clearly and openly. You also need to think about what your ideal man will be attracted to. What makes you unique? Why write to you and not the next girl, or the previous one? I guess now I'll have to go and brush up on my own profiles! Don't take my comments harshly but I hope I've given you (and others) some help. I was going to address tana's profile as well but I'm out of time: if anyone else wants some tips, you may write privately and I'll respond when I have some more time. Douglas.
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