softpjOS -> RE: A concern regarding my domination (10/13/2007 1:15:42 PM)
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Does he keep a journal? If so, do You ever read it? Do You respond to it? If not, perhaps it is something You could consider talking to him about. Some feel a journal is a very private thing, available for the Dominant to read if they so choose. Within my relationship, I write in my journal Monday-Friday, Saturday I summarize the week past, my thoughts, feelings and include any comments/questions I have concerning the week or our relationship. Mistress reads my journal on Sunday and responds to what I have written. She also lists anything She wishes me to give special attention to in the upcomming week. I am free to write anything in my journal, am expected to include the "bad" as well as the happy points. It is a communication tool and my only "restriction" as to what I may write is.. it must remain respectful. No out and out rants about what a mean rotten *&%$! She is being LOL. Nope, that will earn a punishment every time. roflol...been there..done that! Now, if I disagree with something She did/said, thats fine; just do so in a respectful tone. (something I'm stilll working on) I can write in there if I wish She would do (insert activity of choice) more or really didn't like when She (____) giving Her insight into what I'm thinking/feeling/wanting on a weekly basis. No, this does not replace actually sitting down and TALKING, I believe it actually opens the lines of communications and we talk about more then we did before we started doing this. With Your relationship being so new and this being Your first 24/7, communication is vital and this may give you both insight to the other by sharing things in writing that maybe you wouldn't feel real comfortable "saying" otherwise? *braces for the attack of...... if you can write it, you should be able to just say it........* yea yea yea. Some of us are just wired different, personally this works very well within our relationship.
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