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RE: One Night Stands - 10/16/2007 7:51:42 AM

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When one is seeking intimacy and love, and the other is seeking only sexual release, this will be the unhappy results.

In speaking to my male friends they tell me that this is often the case. For some reason, many women seem to attach implied commitment to the act of having sex. They tell me that often times they are just satisfying a physical need and even when they are VERY upfront about that fact, their women partners have a tendency to get clingy or assume that there is more "future" to their partnering than there really is. End result, hurt feelings, disappointment and bitterness.

If a guy tells you up front that he is just there for fun and you have sex with him in the hopes or expectations that he will want to develop a deeper relationship after the fact...it is you who has set yourself up for disappointment by having such expectations.

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RE: One Night Stands - 10/16/2007 7:54:41 AM

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It's just amazing where this thread went. How did we go from "Did you ever and did you enjoy it?" to calling people sluts and whores who don't care about themselves? Not to mention....I noticed the women were being called such things, but what about the guys? I mean if the women had a one night stand I would have to think the guy she did it with was having one too. Wow!

It really surprised me when I read what some posted. There was the outdated notion that women mustn't enjoy casual sex, that they must have low self-esteem & be on the way to whoredom. And yes, the double standard that men can do it but women cannot. Surprised me, disappointed me but.. it really revealed how some folks see things. A few reactions were so strong and irrational that now I am left wondering just what happened to them to cause such hostility and disdain to other women whoFUCK a one night stand. Sex is fun!! Be safe and enjoy it.

Aileen and Camille, exactly. Is there any wonder that women as a group do not feel free or happy, sexually, when even in a forum such as this, they are lectured and openly insulted, condemned and angrily reviled, for saying they enjoy it?

Just what I was talking about.

And mind you, those same people claim they want us to feel better about ourselves and have more self respect. Thanks for helping with that!

A person knows they're respected and valued when their desires are considered important and worthy of fulfilling, simply because they wish it, without having to cater to someone else, first, without having to explain or apologize or rationalize them.

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RE: One Night Stands - 10/16/2007 9:27:47 AM

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I'm trying to understand where morals come into play, in regards to one night stands. I consider myself to have a pretty high moral standard. I do not cheat, or steal, nor take advantage of others, and basically subscribe to the "do unto others..." golden rule. Hence...when I'm engaging in the occasional one night stand, i am all up on that golden rule...and enjoying giving great pleasure as well as receiving it.

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RE: One Night Stands - 10/16/2007 11:37:40 AM

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It's that old double standard.

exactly what I was attempting to point out IN GENERAL, unfortunately it's usually women perpetuating it against women.
However, here's a shocker, when you're past 40 amongst your peers, when you get laid, you're not a tramp, you're always very lucky.

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RE: One Night Stands - 10/16/2007 3:28:31 PM

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hmmm, one night stands...have had quite a few in my time, and am sure i'll have a few more. actually i don't recall all of my one-time encounters (or partners), some are just a blur, some are just completely forgotten until one day i walk into a place or smell an old familiar scent and the memory comes back like "oh yeah, this is where that guy with the moustache and uncircumcised cock screwed me in the alley"...ahh, good times. :)

personally i've always been a very sexually liberated person, and have never understood those who "catch feelings" purely from sexual activity or unable to enjoy casual sex for what it is. but we can't all be good little sluts.

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RE: One Night Stands - 10/16/2007 3:37:02 PM

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exactly what I was attempting to point out IN GENERAL, unfortunately it's usually women perpetuating it against women.

And more to the point, its usually unhappy, bitter, fearful and often jaded women, who pounce the hardest.

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RE: One Night Stands - 10/16/2007 4:08:17 PM

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I would take a one night stand as long as it is clear up front. . .so can I get your number?

~Ki

edited to add. It would be my frist One night stand. I had a few that were supposed to be girlfriends that were one week stands.

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RE: One Night Stands - 10/16/2007 10:21:08 PM

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exactly what I was attempting to point out IN GENERAL, unfortunately it's usually women perpetuating it against women.

And more to the point, its usually unhappy, bitter, fearful and often jaded women, who pounce the hardest.

Why is it the point to randomly cast aspersions on others? It doesn't help make a point, it just increases the animousity. Do you think that these remarks will make them any happier, less fearful, less bitter?

Besides, personally, I don't want to hear a man dump on women, as a group, for not being quicker to overcome the fear of being sexual that men have inculcated in them, for centuries. You can find plenty of examples of it, even right here, on this forum, despite the fact that it should, theoretically, be a bastion of sexual liberation; this thread is just one case in point. Easy for a male to sit back and say what women should do about sex. Next time you grow up female, in this world, you can share about that with some understanding of it.

How easy it is, to insult a female. Females are damned if they're sexy and damned if they aren't. We're made ashamed and afraid to be sexual, yet encouraged to feel we must be. If she's sexy and sexual, she's a slut, an airhead, immoral, inappropriate, "asking for it," a threat, a dirty secret, not worthy of respect or dignity; if she's not, she's a prude, bitter, fearful, cold, a b_tch. Either way, she's the object of scorn.

It is sad that women carry on the persecution, against each other. But this is what happens, in any group of people who are persecuted long enough; they begin to carry it out, against themselves and each other.

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RE: One Night Stands - 10/17/2007 1:27:52 AM

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I just calls 'em like I see 'em. Now if I were a male, you'd call me assertive.

No, if you were a male, I'd call you Pat Robertson.

*note to self.. do not drink my Iced tea and read this thread at the same time*

*wipes off monitor*

Gwyn,
Church going whore, who happens to be a Ordained Minister.. but not an uppity self rightious bitch who had to perminatly change her tagline because her wittle feelings got hurt. *Big Toothy Grin*

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RE: One Night Stands - 10/17/2007 1:35:23 AM

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Just popping in with hugs, kissuz and love for all the whores. MWWAAAHHHHH.

Please form an orderly queue and have a biscuit while you wait, you sexy gorgeous chickie babes.

Woot! *runs to the near front of the line.. trying not to hip check others* can I get a quick grope of the bum as well as I pass?

Incorrigible I know! I have always been a greedy lil slut.

Gwyn

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RE: One Night Stands - 10/17/2007 4:13:09 PM

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I may have to go out soon and pick someone up and fuck em.

Aileen:
Just tell me time and place.
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RE: One Night Stands - 10/17/2007 7:02:35 PM

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Been there done that

boring. My wife didn't dig the fact either... (now ex) child support is a bitch.

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RE: One Night Stands - 12/12/2007 2:50:28 PM

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Someone slipped me this thread thinking I would enjoy it, she was right, it was definitely a gem from the annals of CM history...

I suppose that like Merc, I too had a one night stand... but I will be heading down this Friday to do it again... I am such a slut, but I am Daddy's slut so its all good

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RE: One Night Stands - 12/12/2007 2:58:42 PM

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I LOVE this thread....but I miss some of these people. Where is Aileen anyway?

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RE: One Night Stands - 12/12/2007 3:15:30 PM

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She disappeared before I came back... I do not think anyone knows, but she is missed around here. Maybe she will come back again....

This thread rocks.... especially the claws that came out... man oh man I have always avoided the women that go around talking about how "Slutty" other women are... to me calling a woman names like that means the name caller usually as smaller boobs, is insecure because of a weight problem, can't keep their man from flirting with single women, or all of the above. I have been called that name a few times out of jealousy when I was younger, and a few of the women that thought that of me changed their minds once they got to know me. One admitted she hated me because her boyfriend looked at me...

Here is the thing, at this point in my life sex has morphed into something that I do not do with the intent of having a casual affair. It is something I engage in because I really want to express myself with that person in a spiritual way, even the first time I met Sinergy and we did the wild thing, I wanted to connect on more than just a sexual basis... and we did.

I have had a couple of one night stands, and to be honest it never hurt my feelings that they were such, it did not hurt my self esteem. I understand both sides of it, sex became deeper to me after having my son, but it does not have to mean a lot to everyone, nor should it.. and those projecting on to others how they should feel about themselves because they have casual sex... well it comes off as being insecure with their sexuality and they cannot understand other people feeling differently... and if they do they are "whores".

Not everyone defines morals by what they do with their genitals,... in fact I find name calling people and insulting them to be a far worse sin than "fucking on the fly"

I recommend Stranger in a Strange Land, that book brought up some interesting thoughts for me on casual sex, and even casual sex is not so casual when one considers it can be a Goodness to pleasure each other this way.

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RE: One Night Stands - 12/12/2007 3:15:50 PM

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I"ve had them, I've liked them....and if that makes me bad, Ican live with that....

Jeff

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RE: One Night Stands - 12/12/2007 3:16:59 PM

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You're very bad Jeff.

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RE: One Night Stands - 12/12/2007 3:18:36 PM

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I"ve had them, I've liked them....and if that makes me bad, Ican live with that....

And you tried to make us believe you are pure on the Other Side! I am appalled, Jeff! Simply Appalled!

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RE: One Night Stands - 12/12/2007 3:19:10 PM

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Oddly someone calling me a whore or slut doesn't offend me, it makes me laugh and say yeah? so what?

That's why I LOVE this thread. It's so humorous that people are trying so hard to be insulting and others are sooooooooo amused by it. I just find the entire concept that it's ok to have someone tie you up and beat your ass, but you're EVIL if you somehow have sex "too freely" or "give it away".

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RE: One Night Stands - 12/12/2007 3:21:01 PM

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ORIGINAL: Jeffff
I"ve had them, I've liked them....and if that makes me bad, Ican live with that....

And you tried to make us believe you are pure on the Other Side! I am appalled, Jeff! Simply Appalled!

I AM pure on the other side......on this side?...not so much

Jeff the slutty Dom

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