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Advice sought. - 10/14/2007 9:28:23 PM   
cuffnspankme


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Status: offline 		Hello Ladies.
 
I have recently been handed the best gift ever. I have a young male friend, we have known each other for 3 years now. He was totally vanilla when we met and I was ok with that. Well through knowing me and talking with me about this life he discovered that he likes to be controlled, at least by me.
 
He very much enjoys anal stimulation and reaching orgasm that way. I was wondering if he can wear a butt plug during intercourse and have the same effect? I was also wondering what a good lube would be. I bought some Wet Light and it does not last long at all. I had to keep adding more and it became dry and painful for him a few times. Would it be best to buy lube designed for anal play?

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RE: Advice sought. - 10/14/2007 9:46:42 PM   
LaMistressa


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Status: offline 		Go for a thicker gel lube that is still water based. Astroglide makes a gel, and it works well for me.

Hope this helps!

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RE: Advice sought. - 10/15/2007 11:18:55 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LaMistressa

Go for a thicker gel lube that is still water based. Astroglide makes a gel, and it works well for me.

Hope this helps!


Yep, astroglide. Great stuff.

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RE: Advice sought. - 10/15/2007 2:36:54 PM   
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 I was also wondering what a good lube would be. I bought some Wet Light and it does not last long at all. I had to keep adding more and it became dry and painful for him a few times. Would it be best to buy lube designed for anal play?


personally, I've found probe thick/rich (they two kinds) to be the best I've used.


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RE: Advice sought. - 10/15/2007 7:21:23 PM   
cuffnspankme


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Status: offline 		Thank you for the advice on the lube question. Now I need the butt plug one answered. He loves to cum while being anally stimulated. Would a plug have somewhat the same effect during intercourse if he was on bottom?


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RE: Advice sought. - 10/15/2007 8:13:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've always used KY Jelly for anal play.

As for plugs during intercourse I strongly recommend the Njoy stainless steel plugs. My spouse enjoys the medium size Pure Plug (http://www.njoytoys.com/products/pureplugs.php) quite a lot during intercourse and otherwise. The very tapered base means it won't accidentally come out and the weight of it seems to rock his world... so to speak. You can find them at better prices elsewhere online. I don't know if it's ok to post such links on here, but I can point you toward a site that offers them for a better price, if you're interested.

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RE: Advice sought. - 10/16/2007 1:22:46 AM   
ocilla


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Status: offline 		You might try a vibrating bullet instead of a plug.  My former boy is a seriously into his butt.  After a lot of trying different and expensive plugs we got a 4in long stainless steel bullet that has a very strong vibe which works best - and it was cheap like 10-15 bucks if I recall.  I think it came from blowfish - I'll send ya a link if I can refind it.  Also, you might ask bear what he thinks.  I know he advocates the aneros for straight anal play but that takes some manipulation.

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RE: Advice sought. - 10/16/2007 5:35:40 AM   
LaMistressa


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ORIGINAL: cuffnspankme

Thank you for the advice on the lube question. Now I need the butt plug one answered. He loves to cum while being anally stimulated. Would a plug have somewhat the same effect during intercourse if he was on bottom?



Yes, more than likely -- hey, there's one way to find out!

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RE: Advice sought. - 10/16/2007 11:02:38 AM   
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ocilla wrote: My former boy is a seriously into his butt

Is that the same as being too far up his own ass?   *cough*

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RE: Advice sought. - 10/16/2007 10:00:27 PM   
ocilla


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ocilla wrote: My former boy is a seriously into his butt

Is that the same as being too far up his own ass?   *cough*


Most definitely. lol

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RE: Advice sought. - 10/17/2007 8:37:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		My boy bought himself an Aneros, and we've used it occasionally during sex. Altho I think he tends to prefer the feeling of movement, i.e. me in a strap-on, I do know that he experienced a very heavy orgasm with the Aneros and sex. Its not very big, its all about the shape. whereas once or twice we've tried a plug, and it seemed to be.....too big? during orgasm. was great for a feeling of fullness while being stimulated elsewhere, but different matter during orgasm. 

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RE: Advice sought. - 10/17/2007 7:33:33 PM   
pixelslave


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Status: offline 		I'm inclined to agree with belljar and Ocilla that an Aneros, vibrating bullet, or small vibrating plug would be the way to go.  A large plug would seem cumbersome to me, more likely to inhibit free movement and reaching an orgasm.  Ditto for the recommendations on either KY Jelly or Astroglide.  However, since the insertable device isn't intended to be slid in & out like a strap-on, for the OP's purposes, I'd suggest she save her money and just use KY Jelly instead of the more expensive lubes that have been recommended.
 
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