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Aerixski -> What do you get out of it? (10/14/2007 10:29:22 PM)

Simple Question, not so simple an answer:

What, as masters, do you get out of being a master/being dominant?

I mean that in more than strictly sexual terms. You obviously put alot of time, energy, effort, and patience into what you do, so what, on a deeper level do you get out of it? So far, it seems to me that some just crave power and control, although too it seems it's those same people that either don't last very long or make good masters. Is it the feeling of hard work paid off?  Elevating someone special in your life to a place of high honor (this may sound contrary to some, but it seems to me so far that the amount of work that goes into "grooming" a submissive requires a high level of attention and commitment to that person; what superficially is shown as abrasive or rough behavior is in reality a deep affection for the well being of that person and the fulfillment of their needs). What's your opinion? Am I way off base or what?



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: What do you get out of it? (10/14/2007 10:35:39 PM)

Really it's just fulfillment of self.

You're not off base, but what you observe is not universal or necessary.  All relationships take work and grooming and growing together over time if they are to be fulfilling.

Exactly how that is expressed or how the people involved work together is just personal preference.



SixFootMaster -> RE: What do you get out of it? (10/14/2007 10:49:56 PM)

It is nourishment to my heart and soul, something I need to live and breathe. I can't really express it better than that.



obis -> RE: What do you get out of it? (10/15/2007 2:04:28 AM)

I get a wonderful relationship where I never have to hold back my passion for that person. I don't have to pretend to be a modern, civilized man when the animal in my amygdala wants to get out. And what is more valuable than finding someone you can be completely honest and open to, who loves you all the more for it?



RRafe -> RE: What do you get out of it? (10/15/2007 2:26:28 AM)

I'm a top, the D/s stuff matters very little to me. I can do control without the foo fora.

I guess I'm just too reality based to go off into la la land-and I never did care for castle realm.



Focus50 -> RE: What do you get out of it? (10/15/2007 3:18:15 AM)

D/s is the only relationship dynamic that fulfills and contents me - where I can just be me.  I'm not so much into kink sessions as overall relationship control; something of which vanilla (or egalitarian) relationships left me frustrated and generally unhappy.  I'm happiest in charge but it only works with a partner who's happiest being taken charge of.
 
Nature's Balance is everywhere but it's not always easy to find that complementing opposite....
 
Focus.



TotalState -> RE: What do you get out of it? (10/15/2007 7:33:55 AM)

I get to unleash my kink, and be as my instincts tell me to be, without being worried of judgment or hurting anyone.  I get fulfillment of my sexual fantasies and desires with the object of my desire (and incidentally, the person I love the most in this world). 

It turns me on.  It makes me feel right.  It makes her feel right and happy too, and I love making her happy.



PrettyOHDomme -> RE: What do you get out of it? (10/15/2007 9:23:04 AM)

- I get to let the "beast" out to play, in a safe and controlled environment.

- I get to see that look. You know, "I'm not sure I want to do this, but I trust you and want to make you happy." The brief lowering of the lids that makes me feel like a goddess.

- I get a sweet, embarassed thank you.

I'll admit it; the complete adoration aspect is a plus, too.

Plus, I don't know any vanilla guys that would let me near them with my feeldoe, and the orgasms from that are FANTASTIC.

I know I'm a Mistress rather than a Master, but you got my two cents anyway. I think the experience is similar for male and female Dominants.

-Miss Ellen



labrat18610 -> RE: What do you get out of it? (10/16/2007 9:07:56 PM)

I'm not sure a Master "gets" anything. Somwhere deep down inside, there's a need. Just as I have a need to be submissive. I've often wondered what was going through  my Master's head, as He sat, sprawl out in an easy chair, while I shined His shoes.We were both fulfilling a deep need.
Rick



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