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Orgasm question - 10/16/2007 3:54:43 PM   
onesweetsubbie


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Status: offline 		I had to have a hysterectomy 4 weeks ago.  I am really too young to have had to go through this, but that is neither here nor there.  I have tried looking around the 'net but haven't really found an answer to this question.... "Are orgasms going to feel different".

I asked my doctor and he gave me the "technical" answer of maybe and explained the anatomy & physiology.  He then remembered my training and said "never mind you know how it works". 

If any women out there can give me their experience, I would greatly appreciate it.  I was given the green light to go ahead and "give it a whirl".  Funny thing is, I am so nervous about this not feeling the same, that I can't bring myself to masturbate (I know, TMI).  Is being nervous normal?

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RE: Orgasm question - 10/16/2007 4:09:39 PM   
kajiramre


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Status: offline 		When I had my hysterectomy, I found the site hystersisters.com to have a lot of helpful information.  I just went there and searched orgasm.  There are several discussions about it.  Some say it is better and more orgasmic, while others say it's worse.  Guess you are going to have to find out for yourself.  For myself, I wasn't orgasmic before and haven't found that to have changed.  Good luck!

Here's a link to one conversation on hystersisters.



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RE: Orgasm question - 10/16/2007 4:29:11 PM   
onesweetsubbie


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Status: offline 		Since you experienced this, did you ever have the feeling of not being a woman?  That you lost your femininity or sexuality?  I am on HRT with testosterone added.  Just curious, hope I am not too nosy.

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RE: Orgasm question - 10/16/2007 4:50:52 PM   
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Here's a link to one conversation on hystersisters.





ditto!....hystersisters is an amazing site and all your questions can be answered very easily.

dream well,
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RE: Orgasm question - 10/16/2007 4:57:47 PM   
onesweetsubbie


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Status: offline 		I will check it out.  Thank you.

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RE: Orgasm question - 10/16/2007 10:41:15 PM   
calicowgirl


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Status: offline 		I also found the hystersisters site and thought it extremely helpful. To answer the OP's original questions though... to me yes, it does feel differently... Not bad different or good different, just different. I have never felt less a woman though. It was the best decision for me and I am much healthier with a much better quality of life because of the surgery. It is very hard to live in pain every single day and for me a hysterectomy fixed that.

Good luck to you.

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RE: Orgasm question - 10/18/2007 9:10:42 PM   
nmcuriousmiss


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Status: offline 		onesweetsubbie,

i had a partial hysterectomy 5 years ago for medical reasons. They took my uterus, but left my ovaries. i can tell you that i have felt so much more sexual since, knowing that i will never again have to deal with the bleeding./pain/pms/anemia/insert symptom here. i am sure that the people in my life do not miss the mood swings either...lol

i am FREE!!!

One of the unexpected (but soooo welcome) side effects is that i finally have an accessable g-spot. i had never had a g-spot orgasm before, but now that part of my anatomy is no longer in the way i have experienced the most powerful explosions i have ever had, and now squirt and spray when i cum. For the first 40 years of my life i didn't know i had it in me! (imagine my surprise the first time it happened) It did take me a while after the procedure to allow my body to settle into it's new shape inside, so don't feel like you have to rush anything.

i never felt like less of a woman, although it is sorta sad to know that i can never have another baby, but then again i am 43 and do i really want another one? Someone reminded me that although they took out my baby-maker, they left the play pen

Hang in there sister. It is different for all of us, just as we are all different and beautiful and female in our own way.

miss

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RE: Orgasm question - 10/18/2007 11:02:46 PM   
babygirl005


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Status: offline 		i had my hysterectomy at 26.  It was a partial, but in my 30's my ovaries quit working.  i will say, that when i first had the surgery, i did feel sad that i could no longer have anymore children.  i already had two wonderful kids, but it took my choice away.  And for some strange reason, i even missed having periods, even though they were very painful, long and with excessive bleeding.  Yes, i felt somehow less a woman.  i had to deal with those feelings and get past them.  It took time, but i did it.  It was a loss, or death of a sorts, and i went through all the emotions of that.  And then my hormones were doing flip flops.  Your uterus does play a part in that.

Now to the orgasm part.  While i was in the "grieving" process, it was hard to think about sex or orgasms.  But once i was done dealing with that part, i did not find it any different.  But as others have said, we are all made differently.  My suggestion is to not put any pressure on yourself.  Somehow we always think there is some timeline we have to measure ourselves by.  If you don't pressure yourself, you are much better able to deal with the emotions and get pass them much quicker.  So just relax.  You will be back to your old self in time.  i'm sorry your Doctor wasn't very helpful, but most of them are that way.  As a nurse, i deal with them day in and day out.  4 weeks in not very far out from your surgery.  Don't push it.  Rest and give your body and mind time to adjust.

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RE: Orgasm question - 10/19/2007 7:34:46 AM   
IamJustMe2C


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Status: offline 		     My late wife once told me that after her surgery she did not feel like the woman she once was. She didnt feel sexy or femanine. Over time this went away granted this was with the help of the drugs that the doctors put her on. She did have a hard time with her O ofter the surgery. She said it felt different and for the longest time she really didnt want to even have sex. It took a little time but with the hormone pills and some love and attention (not shoving or prodding) she finally started to feel like a woman again (her words not mine) She had always been one to squirt but after she felt better and felt femanine again the volume was vastley larger. I realise this is a case by case thing and it is not going to happen to all women but it might be something to look forward to.
    It might be to early for you to think about it yet. You might want  to give it more time you did just go threw a very tramitic surgery. But you are just as wonderful and sexy and desirable now as you were before you had your surgery.

   

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RE: Orgasm question - 10/19/2007 10:40:53 AM   
MiladyElaine


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Status: offline 		When I had Mine, I had stitches on the inside that kept coming out ever so often as the doc said they would - they were plastic dissolving kind.  So I was nervous as to what might happen in there as My muscles contracted with feelings from the outside.  I would say to go slowly and see how it feels.  If it seems to hurt up inside when you masturbate, stop.
Pain is nature's best way of informing U/us to stop what W/we're doing or else suffer the consequences.  When I did finally experience an orgasm it was more intense with a higher plain of pain as previously experienced.
Have fun readjusting!


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RE: Orgasm question - 10/19/2007 11:06:00 AM   
onesweetsubbie


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Status: offline 		I was given the OK for sex at my 4 week post op.  I am spending the week with someone I am dating (he is a Dom) and we gave things a try.

I was able to orgasm before, but this time, it has happened so fast and it feels like one long orgasm.  We think he is hitting the g-spot which wasn't that difficult before but now, no problem.  I don't know if because extra equipment is out of the way or what.  I do know that the doctor did a tightening of the vaginal canal, but it is better than before.  I was amazed.  I told him that I need to write a thank you note to my doctor for what now happens in bed.

Thank you for posting your experience because I thought that I was weird.  I was also afraid he thought that I would be faking because of my reaction and the frequency.  I will let him know I am not the only one.




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RE: Orgasm question - 10/19/2007 11:08:06 AM   
onesweetsubbie


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Status: offline 		Thank you everyone for your input.  It has really helped.

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RE: Orgasm question - 10/19/2007 12:03:20 PM   
calicowgirl


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Status: offline 		Wooo hoooo... yay for you. I am happy to hear all is well.

cali


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RE: Orgasm question - 10/20/2007 9:31:44 AM   
nmcuriousmiss


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Status: offline 		i am so glad to hear that things are getting better for you!!!

When mine was done, my Doc tightened things up too and i ended up with it being a little too tight, so she gave me a set of "dialators" which were, in reality, a set of dildos that went from small to large. She told me to use them twice a day for 20 minutes until i had stretched myself back out. my Doc is a bit of a kinkster, i suspect...

Have fun with the prolonged and squirty orgasams!!!!

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RE: Orgasm question - 10/21/2007 5:35:39 AM   
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Status: offline 		There was one sad case on the news where a lady discoverd that certain nerves had been severed during her hysterectomy. She no longer had feeling from her clit. The situation caused a big change in her marriage.

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RE: Orgasm question - 11/26/2007 5:37:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		Some women experience uterine contractions when they orgasm. After a hysterectomy, this obviously won't happen, which would be some difference.

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RE: Orgasm question - 11/26/2007 5:56:18 PM   
Sabella


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Some women experience uterine contractions when they orgasm. After a hysterectomy, this obviously won't happen, which would be some difference.
Yes that would be a big difference for me. I went thru something similiar after having my tubes tied. It was a mourning period with a severely decreased sex drive. I think now perhaps it's perfectly normal but at the time it really sucked. As I had been on Depo for 5 years & had my 1st period in 5 years months later my hormones were INSANE. I'm pretty sure that helped alot too. Not!

Hope you get to feeling like yourself again soon, just go slow!


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