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Travlain -> Help in Training. (10/18/2007 2:00:57 AM)

Hi
I am a new master. I have always been dominant and into BDSM for a long time. I have dateing Subs before but never an actual slave. My currect gf however wants to be trained as a slave and im not really sure how to go about it. I have some idea's of course but was wondering if anyone know a good reference site for "standerd" training. I "" as I know there is no real standerd. I guess Im just looking for any advice or idea's. Thanks in advance for the help.



TotalState -> RE: Help in Training. (10/18/2007 4:31:52 AM)

First piece of advise I have for you is to steele yourself against the inevitably snarky responses you will get.

Secondly, I suggest reading this forum for a while before posting.  There's a lot of questions that have already been asked, and answered, in detail.  There's a very nice little search function in the menu in the upper right corner.  Good luck!



SimplyMichael -> RE: Help in Training. (10/18/2007 5:08:33 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Travlain

Hi
I am a new master. I have always been dominant and into BDSM for a long time. I have dateing Subs before but never an actual slave. My currect gf however wants to be trained as a slave and im not really sure how to go about it.


Use your long experience with BDSM to train her first as a good sub, should serve you both well.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Help in Training. (10/18/2007 10:11:58 PM)

Why don't you ask what SHE means?  Relationships require two active partners.  Maybe that's the first lesson for you both- slave does NOT mean just lay around and get taught to all day.

If she suggests that's not the job of a slave, then she either doesn't need training because she knows everything already, or has more lessons to learn :)



Rule -> RE: Help in Training. (10/18/2007 10:52:13 PM)

A slave is a part of and an extension of her owner or master. He commands, she obeys, like my hand obeys and closes when I command my hand to close. Make sure that you command wisely. Do not waste her talents and abilities with inanities. She is an instrument, a tool. It is up to the owner to develop the full potential of that tool. The possibilities are only limited by the imagination of the owner and the innate abilities of the natural slave. You may waste her on cleaning the dishes, while she might have the potential to be an astrophysicist.
 
Even more important than training her is training yourself. You have to assume full responsibility for her, like you are fully responsible for all parts of your body. You decide and you are her protector in all things.



IamJustMe2C -> RE: Help in Training. (10/19/2007 6:26:15 AM)

Rule,
I agree with everything that you have said. You have said everything so gracefully and elegantly it was a real pleasure to read.

There is a difference between being a Master and being into the kink of the BDSM lifestyle in the bedroom. As Rule said she is a extension of you so don’t waist it. As you look at her and she says she need training to become your perfect slave look inside your self and ask your self do you need training as well. What do you need to be taught? You say that you are new and in the same sentence you say you have been into this lifestyle for a while. We have all be taught how to do this and how to do that. We were born with the natural Dominance inside of our selves or the natural submissive inside. But to use some of the instruments we use takes time and learning. No one wakes up one day and knows how to properly do needle work or knife work if that was the case I want to wake up knowing the lotto numbers for tomorrow not yesterdays numbers.
There are many books and references out there. You can always ask questions and with luck where ever you are you might even find a mentor who is willing to show you different techniques. Just remember the only stupid question is the one not asked.



CelticPrince -> RE: Help in Training. (10/19/2007 6:53:07 AM)

Travlain,

In my opinion Rule and Just me have said it best so I offer a "ditto"

CP



Travlain -> RE: Help in Training. (10/19/2007 9:02:34 AM)

Thanx for the advice..I know I have things to learn about being  master hence asking for advice in this. I wouldnt want to waste her potential or hurt her unneedfully. I do know I have alot more to read about and look at before I give her an answer.



Vanatru -> RE: Help in Training. (10/20/2007 7:22:05 AM)

first thing is, being a master is about what YOU want, so first off, do you wanna really be a master and train her? if she really has a "slave heart" she'll want to please you and be what YOU want her to be. that's what being a slave is about after all.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Help in Training. (10/20/2007 7:53:31 AM)

That's what being a slave is about TO YOU.  While most people can stretch a long ways for the right motivations and training, there's a reason we encourage free consent in these relationships and that's because we realize that no matter how "slavely" a person may be, they just might not be right for a particular master.  If every slave could simply become "whoever" a master wanted, then there'd be no reason to court or choose, there'd just be a registration list.



MadRabbit -> RE: Help in Training. (10/20/2007 7:34:42 PM)

Step 1 : Figure out what exactly you want
Step 2 : Teach her how to do it.

And thats all training is...at least in my world.



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