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MsLilac -> RE: Profile advice sought (10/21/2007 10:52:46 AM)
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Hi
Okay, you need to understand that this is just my perspective, and may or may not be conducive to your search.
I assume your name is Geoff? Is your nickname ‘G’? I am not sure if this is your nickname, or you being elusive. If it’s not your nickname, I politely suggest that you fill it in as Geoff, as it looks evasive, which would put me off. Admittedly, this is just me being nitpicky though.
Generally, it is ok. I would try and make it flow a little more. I like that you talk about your interests, and not just kinky interests. For me, there is a touch of negativity, I’m guessing you were in a relationship where you felt stifled, if so, it is apparent, to me at least. You don’t need to say “I want One who will feed the flame in my soul, not try to extinguish it”. I don’t know many people looking for a relationship who actively seek to extinguish someones ‘flame‘. People who are like this will make themselves apparent pretty quickly. I would possibly omit the second half of that sentence.
I like that you state what you seek, this is obviously important, but what do you have to offer? Maybe you can find a balance that you are comfortable with between the to.
I would talk about yourself a little more, not in a rambling way, but large portion of your profile is taken up with obvious, or needless statements.
The biggest hurdle when I was looking, was seeking someone with compatible expectations. Of course you can only really do this by getting to know someone. But a good way to filter is talk a little about what ‘the lifestyle’ etc, means to you personally. It means so many things to different people.
You also don’t mention what you actually seek. At the moment, it is looking opportunistic. If you are open minded for all kinds of relationships and commitments, then say so.
As for the ‘p.s’, there really is no need. It just comes of as defensive and negative. If you really feel the need to stress that financial submission is a limit, then there are far more constructive ways of doing so. It currently sounds sarcastic and aggressive. Depending on the context in which you mean it, then something along the lines of ‘I request that I am not petitioned for financial gifts’. Or ‘within a 24/7 relationship and household, I feel the financial burden should be equally divided’. I wouldn’t use this directly, but I am sure you see what I am getting at. You are making your point (if you feel that strongly about it) without being aggressive, and alienating potential interest.
Anyway, good luck with your search (you are doing well by this post alone [;)] lol). I give you my personal view, take it for what they are worth to you.
Best wishes.
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