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MissIsis -> RE: sissys (11/2/2007 4:07:36 AM)

Count me as one of those who do not.  I wish them well.  I hope they find what they are looking for. 

As to Mistresses looking for sissy men, judging from the amount of email I get from them, I would say that you have a very wide selection to choose from. 




MsLilac -> RE: sissys (11/2/2007 4:49:00 AM)

As Lashra said, that would really depend upon the sissy, and more importantly, the person.

Also, the term ‘sissy’ is pretty much an umbrella term for everything from feminization and ‘adult babies‘, to effeminate men and bull busting. The only ones that I have passing interests in are feminization, (I have a soft spot for effeminate men also). The rest to me personally very much have an ick factor.

As a kink within itself, I have mixed feelings towards it. I like having a plaything to very occasionally dress up when the mood takes me. I wanted to be a make-up artist when I was younger, so I find it fun. But I wouldn’t call it a kink of mine, and it has to be on my whim. I certainly don’t get turned on by it in the least, actually, depending upon the male and how well it is done, it can be a HUGE turn off factor.

But on the flip side, I see the point of view that ‘sissydom’ is quite offensive. It’s a parody of a repressive female stereotype, I rarely see dominant C/D’s. Also, for a lot of sissies I have come across, they seem fixated upon their fetish, which is all well and good for them, but I not something I am interested in. If I wanted to have a partner who was fixated upon their own desires, and was high maintenance, I’d go vanilla! Only room for one Prima Donna in my house! Lol.

A ‘manly’ submissive male, whose feminisation fetish wasn’t a motivation for their ‘submission’, or wasn’t a huge fixation for them, I would theoretical be open to if I were still looking.




iwearpanties -> RE: sissys (11/3/2007 3:54:27 AM)

thank you all for the great info as for my slef i havent realy figured out what i realy am . i dont fully dress nor seek too pass as Female but i have had Mistress'es  make me over fully form wig and to clothes and make up how ever i more enjoy the fabrics and there softness and the craveing for Domination and all that can go along with a session or realationship  with either a Mistress or Domme , Master or Dom.   i agree its pleaseing the Mistress frist then worry about your own needs if ever




MissAndry -> RE: sissys (11/4/2007 7:53:49 AM)

love sissies, they seem to enjoy feminisation and I do like a man with ambition lol
reminds me of that quote 'women who strive to be equal lack ambition' hehe
joke
dont shoot me please :)




mistresscandamy -> RE: sissys (11/4/2007 11:59:43 AM)

My husband is my submissive sissy. He serves me well. I love his submission and sissyfication. He knows women are his superior and worships me. I do not allow masculinity in him nor does he want any. 




sissyshelley0076 -> RE: sissys (11/10/2007 2:04:50 PM)

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ORIGINAL: catleggs

ok, other then saying, "I'm in"  lol   I'll elaborate a bit.
Having been married to my sissy for the past eight years, I can clearly say I enjoy him more and more each day.

Now, in saying all of that, I will explain what his service is to me, in short, and with the understanding that this is MY take on how I want my sissy to serve me.  As well as it is HIS offering of service to me.

He is very much a 'sissy husband'. What does that mean?  He is my husband, of course but at my discression I have him dress in specific articles of clothing to further cement his possition with me.  He sometimes wears simply a bra underneath his business suit, or maybe just stockings, or any small token to remind him of who he is and who I am, to him.
There are occasions where I feel full dress for him MAY be in order, but that would depend what I wanted to do with him.
I also have him in cuckold, so he knows his possition is simply 'the sissy husband'.  I can and will take on 'dates' with 'butch' men when I choose and feel like I want that type of company.
He does get certain sexual gratifications and it can include things like 'forced bi'. For those occasions I will have him in full dress to intensify the experience.

Keep in mind this is HIS offerning to me.  It isn't something I forced him to do, we simply share in each others 'kink' and enjoy them mutually.  He is extreamly loving and will worship the ground I walk on, he has for many years.  He will tend to my needs and personal comforts.  This further adds to enhance his 'kink as it puts him in a lovely possition of being so close but yet so far.

Do we go out in a 'vanilla' context?  Of course we do, he is my husband. But he is always reminded of his position with me and and always will be... because that is the way WE want it.

As I said already but will again, this is one interpretation of it and as we all know there are many and varried takes on every kink out there.  But I hope this further explains why I enjoy mine.

Cat



my Mistress is in the process of femme training me to be Her sissy maid.   Her goal is to make me Her wife.

Respectfully,

sissy shelley




KindLadyGrey -> RE: sissys (11/10/2007 6:26:28 PM)

I've met some very cute sissy boys, but I've also met some pushy self serving ones.

For me it really depends on the person in question. I like playing with the kink itself, but many of the men who pursue it don't really seem that interested in submission but sell themselves as submissives, which can set both the Domme and the boy up for disappointment. If you're not submissive, just ask if I want to go shopping with you. That's okay too!




MistressRouge -> RE: sissys (11/11/2007 11:10:22 AM)

Ooo I adore all My sissys, sluts and girly gyrls :)




CruelMistrezz -> RE: sissys (11/11/2007 11:18:49 AM)

I enjoy sissification but I agree with a few of the ladies here that it depends on the submissive and if there are other interests we share.

MsPatty




unforegvn -> RE: sissys (11/11/2007 12:14:27 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: ScottishRose

Just wondered how many mistresses enjoyed having a sissy around?

ME, My Self and I




DiannaVesta -> RE: sissys (11/11/2007 1:41:07 PM)

I’ve posted this before on my sites forum & others. I love sissies. I didn’t always but the more I began to understand them the better I learned to control them. Sissies need strict boundaries or they will make you crazy. They also need to be on a short leash, so to speak & handled emotionally. If you can do this, learn to enjoy it and also learn how to motivate a sissy they are wonderful.

Of course you have to carefully select a sissy.  I’m not interested unless they are truly into female domination and I feel that chastity training helps keep them focused. You always need some type of device or training to help keep them grounded and focus.  They can make wonderful companions and great slaves if you can accomplish this.

We have a sissy forum at femsupreme but its new and moving slow. Recently I’ve spent a little time at chastitylifestyle.com  and that seems to cater to a lot of sissies. The best way to learn about sissies is to go where they are and just talk to them. Many are highly intelligent and able to balance their femininity/kinks if taught how to do so.





Najakcharmer -> RE: sissys (11/11/2007 1:58:16 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: ScottishRose

Just wondered how many mistresses enjoyed having a sissy around?


A sissy cross dresser was one of my best friends for years.  I loved having him around.  Not because he was a sissy, but because he was himself, and because he was my friend.  And yes, we also played together.  It was great good fun.

I've run across other sissies I wouldn't give the time of day to, because they're not good friend or play partner material. They are really only interested in themselves and their desires.  You could easily substitute any other word for "sissy" and the answer would be the same.  If he's a cool person and genuinely willing to be a friend and to spend friendly time with me when he's not immediately getting his fetish needs met, then absolutely yes, I like having people of that caliber around.  If he's a jerk who only wants to play sissy (or any other specific fetish, I don't care what it is) with someone he doesn't care about and otherwise doesn't want to bother spending time with or talking to, then hell no. 




pinksissyPA -> RE: sissys (11/11/2007 2:44:35 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DiannaVesta

I’ve posted this before on my sites forum & others. I love sissies. I didn’t always but the more I began to understand them the better I learned to control them. Sissies need strict boundaries or they will make you crazy. They also need to be on a short leash, so to speak & handled emotionally. If you can do this, learn to enjoy it and also learn how to motivate a sissy they are wonderful.

Of course you have to carefully select a sissy.  I’m not interested unless they are truly into female domination and I feel that chastity training helps keep them focused. You always need some type of device or training to help keep them grounded and focus.  They can make wonderful companions and great slaves if you can accomplish this.

We have a sissy forum at femsupreme but its new and moving slow. Recently I’ve spent a little time at chastitylifestyle.com  and that seems to cater to a lot of sissies. The best way to learn about sissies is to go where they are and just talk to them. Many are highly intelligent and able to balance their femininity/kinks if taught how to do so.




Goddess Dianna, it is always a treat to see Your posts.  May i ask why sissys need to be in chastity more than other male subs?  Also do sissys need to be disciplined more often?

Respectfully,

pink




DiannaVesta -> RE: sissys (11/11/2007 3:34:52 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: pinksissyPA

quote:

ORIGINAL: DiannaVesta

I’ve posted this before on my sites forum & others. I love sissies. I didn’t always but the more I began to understand them the better I learned to control them. Sissies need strict boundaries or they will make you crazy. They also need to be on a short leash, so to speak & handled emotionally. If you can do this, learn to enjoy it and also learn how to motivate a sissy they are wonderful.

Of course you have to carefully select a sissy.  I’m not interested unless they are truly into female domination and I feel that chastity training helps keep them focused. You always need some type of device or training to help keep them grounded and focus.  They can make wonderful companions and great slaves if you can accomplish this.

We have a sissy forum at femsupreme but its new and moving slow. Recently I’ve spent a little time at chastitylifestyle.com  and that seems to cater to a lot of sissies. The best way to learn about sissies is to go where they are and just talk to them. Many are highly intelligent and able to balance their femininity/kinks if taught how to do so.




Goddess Dianna, it is always a treat to see Your posts.  May i ask why sissys need to be in chastity more than other male subs?  Also do sissys need to be disciplined more often?

Respectfully,

pink


In my opinion I feel chastity is great for all slaves, not just sissies.  I should have clarified that. In my training all slaves are chastised - after all it IS my property and they have no business touching it without my permission, however  many have a difficult time doing this. Training is hard but its also exciting and easy to have accidents.

In the case of sissies I believe that a device not only prevents accidents but keeps the sissy mindful that she is property and that her little clitty no longer belongs to her. This mindfulness keeps them on their little ballerina toes and secures the feeling of being property. Even if the sissy isn’t a chronic masturbator   the device and ownership of the clitty keeps the sissy focus on whats important, ME!

Do I feel sissies need more discipline? Well that really depends on the sissy. Some can get unruly and try and stretch the boundaries.  When this happens then they need to be firmly and surely put back in line. Punishment could be a spanking or taking something away from the sissy that they really love. That’s the other part of training, to create addictions, so to speak, like giving a new toy or a special pair of panties. Sometimes a sissy would rather get spanked to welts then to have something special taken away… however we all know the worse punishment of all is denial.





TenderMistress -> RE: sissys (11/11/2007 4:58:31 PM)

A man should be a man, whether he's submissive, switch or Dominant. He should be strong and confident, even when he's kneeling at my feet. To each their own, and I know there are women out there who enjoy sissy boys or get a thrill out of humiliating them... but I'm not one of them!




balletsissypa -> RE: sissys (11/12/2007 5:48:05 AM)

Like with any Master, Mistress, sub or slave, it depends on the individual and what their particular twist on the fetish is. Speaking from the sub side, i have found Dommes that love cd/tvs but we didn't hit it off because their ideas of what it was and my ideas where very far a field of one another. They saw it as a form of humiliation and wanted me to dress like a whore. Well thats not my thing. i love women and want to be a girl, not a whore. We were not compatible. (Please, a quick aside here for anyone who is thinking of jumping down my throat about topping from the bottom or any of that nonesense....If i was with Her and trying to force my ideas on Her, then you would be correct. i am not. Just because i am a sub or slave, does not mean that i am compatible with every Dom/Domme. Nor does it mean i should submit to any Dom/Domme regardless of my needs. Like i said, everyone has their own twist. There is always a compromise. i just don't think it should be on big things) We do seem to have a huge percentage of DIVAS who are more into the dressing, posing and look at me then they are in serving and submission. As discussed in other threads, many of these people may not even be into bdsm but rather are using it as a forum to be able to dress. It makes it very hard for those of us who are sub cd/tvs, but what can you do.
     I realize that after a while Dommes/Doms tend to lump us togther because they get tired of weeding through the pile looking for that needle in the haystack. i also realize that there are many who just are not interested in cd/tvs and thats fine too. Unfortunately, like in any group, you have those who despise something and instead of just ignoring it and doing what they enjoy, they feel the need to attack it. Oh well. What can you do.
lauren
xoxox




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