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Switch? Or someting else? - 10/27/2007 10:07:27 PM

RabidBoi

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I was told in the chats that I am a switch. Though I think that leaves to much to interpretation. Why? Because I do not truely switch. I am exclusivly dom to females and submissive to males. I do not go any other way. I cannot be dommed by a women or dominate a male. So is this truley a switch situation or something compleatly new?

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RE: Switch? Or someting else? - 10/28/2007 12:12:26 AM

LadyLynx

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you see, like with alot of things, switch has alot of different interpretations, depending on who is talking about it. For me, I prefer submitting to females and dominating males, (yet I am ok with being dominated by certain males, and would dominate a female.) But that is just me, what I feel comfortable with. I call myself a switch because that is what is convient to me. Some don't care for the term at all. You decide what you are comfortable with, and thats that.

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RE: Switch? Or someting else? - 10/28/2007 6:04:00 AM

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Switch generally refers to someone that can be both dominant and submissive in any capacity. I personally would not (of course it's possible I could, I just have no interest in it) top a female, although I would submit to one. I still identify as a switch.

But call yourself whatever you think fits for you. Honestly, these labels mean almost nothing as they have various significance to almost everyone you ask. Look around on the forums on the various threads attempting to define the labels sub/slave/dom(me)/master etc., you will find labels have no real overall general accepted definition amongst us.

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RE: Switch? Or someting else? - 10/28/2007 9:15:28 AM

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quote:

you will find labels have no real overall general accepted definition amongst us.

nailed it, imho...people love to be able to define things discretely, many can not handle a vague concept or the idea you can understand but not explain (the old 'if you understand, no explanation is needed, if you don't, no explanation is possible' cliche/truth...)

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RE: Switch? Or someting else? - 10/28/2007 6:02:44 PM

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In my opinion, if you can be Dominant to another and submit to another that makes you a switch. I dont think it makes any difference if you you can only Domme to females and submit to males. You are actually able to switch from a Dominating role to a submissive role in general. Some aren't able to do that period. Some are JUST Dominants period and some are JUST submissives period.

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RE: Switch? Or someting else? - 10/28/2007 9:06:32 PM

erebus

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You are what you are. You describe yourself completely in your profile. I wouldn't say you are a switch. I'd say you are a dom and a sub, depending on the gender of the person you are with.

Ignore those who try to label you. Don't give them that power.

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RE: Switch? Or someting else? - 10/29/2007 6:46:53 PM

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funny how others like in a chat room think they have you pegged and say what you are .. you know you best .your explaination of what you like in your question sounds like your general Switch person as you like to both Top and bottom .Though personaly i am just me and i have found i check most of the boxes , guess that just makes me a greedy bdsm freak LOL

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RE: Switch? Or someting else? - 11/3/2007 4:38:27 PM

DCroommate

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Switch, just by the definition of the word means moving from one position to another.. so someone who can be a Dom in one situation and a sub in another is usually called a switch.. someone who can bottom in one situation and top in another is also called a switch. Sometimes it is a combination of the two or as in your case with limits or within boundaries..

it sounds like for you.. you do switch from being a sub in one situation to being a Dom in another. But if the label does not feel right for you, then do not use it..

you are able to explain what your roles and relationships are.. that is the real key, being able to express your interests so that you can talk with someone and be on the same page with them.. the problems come up when we talk and use a label but we have two different interpretations, we have to be able to describe and explain our terms.

Subbing to men and doming women is normal for you. Normal. How's that for a label?

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RE: Switch? Or someting else? - 11/22/2007 6:55:16 PM

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I have topped both male and female, and been known to take the strap-on and get fisted by women

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RE: Switch? Or someting else? - 11/24/2007 12:34:38 AM

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For some, it is. For you? Who knows? If it's you, go with it.

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RE: Switch? Or someting else? - 11/24/2007 7:03:21 AM

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I don't think I could switch roles in the same relationship. i would get me both a dom and a sub

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RE: Switch? Or someting else? - 11/25/2007 3:00:55 PM

TheInstrument

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Switch doesn't necessarily mean you wish to switch roles with the same people. I think it just means you've the ability to be both Dominant and Submissive.

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RE: Switch? Or someting else? - 11/26/2007 12:08:22 PM

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I agree with "The Instrument" in that I think that it is your ability to be both that makes you a "Switch" if you feel the need for a label.

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