Focus50
Posts: 3962
Joined: 12/28/2004 From: Newcastle, Australia Status: offline
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If the "unattached submissive" is yourself, I'd suggest you forget about so-called protocols and go with whatever works for you.... It's *your* relationship so to hell with outsider's rules.... If you're like me and looking for a monogamous relationship, the last thing I wanna be doing is talking to two or more fem/subs at once.... It gets too confusing and I've learnt not to end up a slave to my own keyboard etc so I concentrate on the first one I find some connection with. But I still keep some options open. For instance, I won't actively look for another sub while I'm preoccupied with my primary choice but if a sub finds me, I tell her honestly that I have someone I'm talking to but if she wants to check back at a later date, she's welcome to. It depends what you seek but, again, if you want an exclusive relationship, the thing to remember is that you'll need more in common than just the BDSM. So talking to a prospective Dom should include outside interests, hobbies and even some reference to family etc. Personally, I'd think it a red flag when a dom (or sub) only wants to talk about the lifestyle. I'm a lifestyle Dom every second of every day but I'm not always in Dom "mode" - my life has many facets like everyone else. A dom that only wants to talk kink with you is only seeing the sub inside you rather than ALL of who you are - not a good start for long-term prospects. Focus50.
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