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FangsNfeet -> RE: a question about vanilla dating... (11/3/2007 7:13:33 PM)
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ORIGINAL: InnocentYoungSub
Well I am worried about it, yeah. Things are different in the vanilla world. As a guy you're expected to be alpha and all that...
I dunno I think I might just forget it. I don't think I can afford to date anyone. Even if she drives I'll need to put in on gas, and I'll still be expected to pay for dates. I just can't afford it. I barely make $100 a week.
Women can be very dominant, demanding, and controlling even more so in the Vanilla world than BDSM. You can still be yelled at, humiliated, called names, and be told what to do by a woman who has nothing to do with being kinky. Some of these women may even scream at you "You're not getting any untill after you do _____!" Even in a vanilla relationship, you can find yourself being a slave to someone.
Im the scheme of things you have laid out for us, I think you can pull off dating. It's being in a serious relationship that I don't see you ready for.
In "Just Dating" there's little you can do when it comes to being fancy. However, there's still much you can do with charm, humor, and politness. Those three things can be used on any type of date.
1. Walk in the park. Maybe a picnic with sandwiches, chips, and cola.
2. Ice Cream or Coffee shop.
3. A movie or two at one of your places.
4. The Dollar Theater. If you have not seen the movie yet, it's still just as good.
5. Attend a city event / display for the public. Something as simple as the Christmass Lighting Ceromony can be a fun date.
These are all fun things you can do with another person for as little as five to ten dollars. You are not asking her to marry you. All you're doing is asking someone to have a little fun with you. It's all simple, fun, and cheap without any pressure on either of you.
On the first date, don't worry about paying for gas. Don't even bother to say "I'm sorry, but I wish I could pay for the gas." If she's there, then she'll be okay. It'll be after the thrid date you may want to sneak in a five or ten dollar bill in her purse. After all, it's not often that a girl will accept the money. Instead of having some silly fight of "Take it!" "I don't want it!" "No, I want you to have it." Just sneak it in.
Good luck and be depressed. You'll be on top before you know it.
So who and where do you see yourself asking out? Someone in the neighborhood, work, or area by the internet? Yahoo personals have more than a few girls in your area. I'm not speaking of just Tyler, TX. I'm also refering to Chandler, Coffee City, and those other little small towns.
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