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toservez -> RE: Explaining kink (11/6/2007 8:38:15 AM)
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ORIGINAL: bipolarber
TNstepsout,
I think that's probably one of the most common misconceptions people have. That somehow, we're all "broken" and have to resort to this "perversion" as a means of compensating. All nonsense, of course.
I counter that sort of thinking with the opinion that a lot of people into BDSM have found that adding the contrived drama, and intense sensations (I don't like using pain in mixed company, it has some rather nasty emotional baggage attached to it) of BDSM, they find the whole experience of sexuality much more gratifying.
Isn't it odd that, as Americans, we seem to admire people who are into "extreme" activities? Extreme mountain climbing, extreme skateboarding, extreme skiing.... etc. But, the moment we take sex or interpersonal relations to the "extreme" to make it more pleasurable, suddenly it becomes "beyond the pale?"
I was going to just agree with TNstepsout as well but you wrote that as well as you did. I could not do better.
I also agree with LA’s definition. In the public world kink is anything a person would not admit to doing.
Sex is way up on the personal scale if not at the top. So naturally any insecurities or projections of ourselves get magnified in this area. For most instead of embracing differences and enjoyments of these it too often becomes public scorning for the usual reasons, insecurity, jealously, fear and simple ignorance.
Edited to avoid confusion.
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