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Now What? - 8/5/2005 4:00:34 PM

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Being a submissive that has been "throw back into the pond" so to speak....... now what? What happens now? It's like a culture shock... being in a safe environment... being His, then all of a sudden everything changes and He's gone.
Now what...... it's the loneliest feeling i have ever known.

~~~~~~nienna~~~~~~~

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RE: Now What? - 8/5/2005 4:13:39 PM

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Well - it does depend how you were (for want of a better word) released.

The most constructive and productive thing that your previous Master whould have done, is given you something to follow through. Contacts, places to go - so you can meet others and feel secure. But by the way you are speaking it sounds more like he has abandoned you to your own devices.

Its a really lonely time, and right now you need to be your strongest when you are probably feeling really weak. I would suggest you take some you time and try to focus on the positive. Have a look at all the things you have to give and work on something you would like to be able to offer. Take up something you would have always liked to have done. Explore 'you' again. Don't feel pushed or rushed into serving someone else - your certainly beautiful and your profile reads wonderfully. If your mentor was not your Master, might I suggest contacting him for advice? Make contacts with some submissives and slaves to open yourself up to meeting others. This might introduce you to something and maybe someone new! Attend a munch - eat chocolate - and don't feel alone because there are many who have been through the same and you have alot more to give yet...

Peace and Love

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.dark.

...i surrender to gravity and the unknown...

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RE: Now What? - 8/5/2005 4:18:01 PM

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one small step at a time.
first you must do is to heal and refind YOURSELF, who and what you are ,What you want.
Do not jump back in the pool check out the water first.
Take each day as it happens

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Phil Moulton
A Sensual Touch
Locopony Racing
Portland Oregon

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RE: Now What? - 8/5/2005 4:48:36 PM

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Same thing a vanilla person does, establish yourself as a single person, live life, pay bills, re-learn the steps, be secure in yourself.

Try not to rebound.

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RE: Now What? - 8/5/2005 5:32:55 PM

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I agree with Dark Angel..cept..don't eat TOO much chocolate..lol
Its hard to deal with breakups but they happen everyday. The thing to do is take a deep breath..let it out..take a few more.. let them out..then take into concideration all the beautiful things about life. Don't dwell on the negitave aspect of it. Learn from the loss and move on. Its easy to say hard to do.

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