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making a good first impression - 11/7/2007 4:06:21 PM   
sissymaid2use


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Joined: 12/21/2005
Status: offline 		what am i doing wrong. i can only find cruel(clearly and coldly)Women who want money more than me in person. i must be doing something wrong. help!
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RE: making a good first impression - 11/7/2007 4:38:01 PM   
HottLicks


Posts: 174
Joined: 9/21/2007
Status: offline 		Hello,

I'm sorry that you are having a rough time and I hope things get better.  If you really want to know what some of us think, you are sure to get it now! lol 

What I see that might be a problem to me is your name.  Anyone for use might suggest that you want to be used and abused in a sense.

I would like to suggest that you post on the boards more often and become known to others and get to know some.  It might be easier if people get to see who you are. 

Good luck to you!

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RE: making a good first impression - 11/7/2007 4:41:24 PM   
beeble


Posts: 799
Joined: 5/25/2005
From: UK
Status: offline 		Well, your nick says you want to be used, which is kind of asking for it.  And your profile doesn't say who you are or what you're looking for so any Domme who isn't cold and cruel has nothing at all to go on.

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RE: making a good first impression - 11/7/2007 4:45:53 PM   
MissMagnolia


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Status: offline 		You need to tell potential Dommes what you have to offer. I'd also take the "prefer older, but not required" bit off. It sounds as if you can't get that picky for now.

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RE: making a good first impression - 11/7/2007 4:49:04 PM   
MamaDomme


Posts: 283
Joined: 12/28/2006
Status: offline 		Awe sweet boy, come to Mama~~

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RE: making a good first impression - 11/7/2007 4:53:03 PM   
SolangeRichards


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Status: offline 		I don't know that you are doing anything wrong sissymaid.  Why be so quick to assign blame to yourself?

Perhaps it has been the people contacting you who have been "wrong".

It is always going to take time to meet the right person and there are no guarantees on the WWW, nor any that it will occur on this site.  You may want to consider joining some of the other sites out there as well as a way to maybe raise your profile a bit.  Journal writing and blogging are also good ways to meet new people and show them who you are.  Something else to consider is being open to friendship with Ladies as well.  Friendship can be a seed that grows into something else sometimes and as always, a friend is something pretty special too if it does not turn into a romance. 

Pro-dommes are a fact of life on this site as well as all the others I know about.  Since you are not interested in them, just subtract them from any sort of consideration and don't give them further thought.

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RE: making a good first impression - 11/7/2007 5:50:52 PM   
TNstepsout


Posts: 1558
Joined: 8/3/2005
Status: offline 		This question is asked almost weekly, sometimes multiple times a week. It seems to be a pretty common theme. There have been some really wonderful threads about this topic in the past. Even some with a lot of detail about what kind of pics to use. Do some searching through the old threads using the search function. Look up such things as "how to write a good profile" "profile advice" "what does a Domme look for" "how to get noticed" etc...

Good Luck

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RE: making a good first impression - 11/7/2007 6:12:14 PM   
gcarlos


Posts: 98
Joined: 8/29/2007
Status: offline 		Just a subbie peeking in......don't doubt youself, remain confident.  There are real, down to earth people here, you just need to be very patient and you will find them.

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RE: making a good first impression - 11/7/2007 8:10:21 PM   
MsSonnetMarwood


Posts: 1898
Joined: 2/10/2005
From: Eastern Shore, Maryland
Status: offline 		My standard advice is go get involved in your local scene - go to munches, go to lectures, volunteer, make friends with everyone.   Don't troll around, dress/behave inappropriately for the venue, or be anti-social.  Learn about the lifestyle, translate that into learning about yourself, and make some friends along the way.

Yep, your profile definately needs some help.  You need to be more specific (specific does not equal pornographic) about what kind of relationship you're looking for (non-pro isn't enough - looking for a life partner?  occasional kink partner?  what?), about yourself as a person, and what you have to offer in a potential relationship.   Understand that seeing a non-pro domme doesn't mean "free" - a point some who have frequented prodommes in the past don't always distinguish - you need to bring something to the table that is unique, interesting, and appealing.

Labeling yourself as "sissymaid" is kind of a loaded thing to do - what you'll find is that it's not the most popular subgroup of the lifestyle for a couple of reasons.   Bottom line - some Dommes will be into it, some won't.   You need to be clear what being a sissymaid is to YOU so you can communicate that.  Is that the only role you see yourself in as a submissive?  How would that work with the kind of relationship you are seeking?  Are you only submissive when in that role?   Are you interested in no strings housework so long as you get to wear your uniform?   Are you looking for more interaction?  

Good luck to you.

< Message edited by MsSonnetMarwood -- 11/7/2007 8:12:57 PM >

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RE: making a good first impression - 11/7/2007 8:29:08 PM   
LadyLegs


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Status: offline 		You have received some excellent advice.  You may also want to reconsider the maid picture as your primary or only photograph.   No, not te one with welts on your back either.  <grin>

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