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ORIGINAL: MHawk23

I seem to meet, and even attract, prospective submissives who claim they are seeking permanent relationships.  While I realize that the notion of PERMANENT in this day and age is different than what the dictionary might say, permanent is more than 2 weeks.  I do recognize that maybe it is me - in some way (too pushy, not pushy enough, too demanding, too old, too something or not enough of something) - but I don't think that's it.  I sense it is, for lack of a better word, fear at some level. 

Any input as to what might be going on?  Something of which I am not aware.  Y/your input and constructive criticism is solicited and welcome.

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ORIGINAL: TreasureKY

A response here in the forums would have been preferable, MHawk.

My question was not to imply that you are "stupid", but to illustrate that your lack of clarity leaves you wide open to be misinterpreted.  You cannot possibly expect complete strangers to give you input or constructive criticism when we have virtually no information about what it is that upsets you. 

You state that you attract submissives who claim to want a permanent relationship, but imply that they don't live up to that claim when they leave you after just two weeks.  While indeed there may be a difference of opinion as to what constitutes "permanent", we have no idea at what point your relationships are when things end or what exactly this two week time period  represents.

Are you meeting submissives, getting to know them over a long period of time... spending real time together in real world settings, and mutually deciding that you wish to establish a permanent relationship together... and then two weeks later, she bolts?

Or are you making initial contact via email, chatting back and forth, maybe talking on the phone... you seem to get along and want the same thing so you either assume or decide that each other is the "one"... and within two weeks she is gone before you have a chance to meet?

It makes a huge difference, you know.