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sabis -> RE: A General Question for submissives (9/11/2005 7:38:06 AM)
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The issue is the implied statement female bisexuals good, and male bisexuals bad. Would any care to comment on this seeming discrepancy?
Touching on another element of the bisexuality question... as i stated in an earlier response, i'm a female submissive bisexual with a very hetero Dominant male. I've had the experience of a previous long-term partner suddenly decide to explore that aspect of his sexuality, and it was a deal-breaker.
I didn't understand WHY it was a deal-breaker at the time, and reading this thread has helped me to really clarify why.
I need my partner to be fully dominant. That's part of why all my long term relationships in the past weren't fulfilling. I was practically the boss, and it drove me nuts. *FOR ME* (standard disclaimers apply), seeing my partner in a submissive posture to another man, broke any illusions I had built. It made him less masculine in my eyes, and the relationship started to end at that point, dying a slow painful death over the course of the next two years.
[[Insert further disclaimers that YES I am certain there are very masculine homosexual and bisexual men. I just haven't met any personally. Working in LA in the fashion business with some of the men there, and the example of my brother are the only direct examples of homo- or bi-sexual men I have had. They have all had a degree, to one level or another, of feminization or submission to their demeanors and personalities.]]
*For this subbie*, I cannot have a sense of safety in submitting to someone who is not, themselves, completely dominant. I could not and would not submit to a 'switch'. For me, dominance and submission is completely tied to our sexuality as well, and a relationship with very clearly and rigidly defined gender roles is vital.
~ sabis
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