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"Extreme" turn ons... - 11/13/2007 5:59:35 AM

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Has anyone else here ever watched a video clip or read a story and become turned on by something they consider so "extreme" that they are fairly certain they'd never really want to have the experience happen to themselves in real time...yet after viewing and/or reading it are left totally turned on (and wondering why)???

And before i get the "what does it matters" and "why ask whys", i'm really just wondering if this is a fairly regular experience for other people...?

Oh, and it just dawned on me that what i said could be perceived in any number of ways. What i'm specifically referring to is "extreme" torture/pain or things that may be "unsafe."

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RE: "Extreme" turn ons... - 11/13/2007 6:37:37 AM

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Yes, it is typically how one's limits expand over time. Things that were once in the i'll NEVER do that category are now things that i routinely do and greatly enjoy.

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RE: "Extreme" turn ons... - 11/13/2007 6:46:42 AM

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I know I have had similar experiences with that. I read erotic/fetish fiction and watch extreme rubber and bondage clips, so naturally my mind hits the gutter and fantasies come alive. Some are actually achievable while others are better left as a fantasy. I think it is always fun to imagine if one can handle their deepest, darkest fantasies.

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RE: "Extreme" turn ons... - 11/13/2007 6:51:43 AM

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yes...but i have figured out a compromise....but its better left unsaid cause ya'll think i am crazy enough already...but it turned the Dom i am talking to on too when i told him about it, so it is all good....

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RE: "Extreme" turn ons... - 11/13/2007 7:07:48 AM

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Yes, and it was a mistake to tell my ex about it. We tried it, he got too into it, it was dangerous to my health and he wouldn't stop doing it despite me telling him not to and a trip to the hospital.

Of course, it was 50% my fault for a. telling him and b. consensually trying it the FIRST time.

Just one of the many reasons he is now my EX.

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RE: "Extreme" turn ons... - 11/13/2007 7:39:06 AM

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sexyred....the minute you said you didn't want to do it again was when you stopped giving him concent. Please don't blame yourself for him not understanding the word "no".

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Yes when I first got into BDSM I read some stuff that is complete edge play, or felt it was morally wrong. I was lucky that the Dom I was talking to at that time I trusted completely and showed me that it was ok to imagine. That they can be done in a way that is safe, and to imbrace my inner kinky self.

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RE: "Extreme" turn ons... - 11/13/2007 7:52:27 AM

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Yes, but when i really thought about it, they were usually, if even abstractly, linked to things that already turned me on

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RE: "Extreme" turn ons... - 11/13/2007 8:03:07 AM

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Yes i have to admit to being turned on by some pretty sick shit....but I won't say what!

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RE: "Extreme" turn ons... - 11/13/2007 9:03:35 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: shellzbythesea

Has anyone else here ever watched a video clip or read a story and become turned on by something they consider so "extreme" that they are fairly certain they'd never really want to have the experience happen to themselves in real time...yet after viewing and/or reading it are left totally turned on (and wondering why)???

And before i get the "what does it matters" and "why ask whys", i'm really just wondering if this is a fairly regular experience for other people...?

Oh, and it just dawned on me that what i said could be perceived in any number of ways. What i'm specifically referring to is "extreme" torture/pain or things that may be "unsafe."

I could not say if it is a fairly regular experience or not. For myself, I have always been attracted to the extreme. The more extreme it was, the higher the attraction.

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RE: "Extreme" turn ons... - 11/13/2007 9:24:07 AM

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Yes i have to admit to being turned on by some pretty sick shit....but I won't say what!

I echo that thought.

Whether just pure fantasy, not done because it crosses my or my Master’s safety threshold and some things we do that some might call extreme are definitely things that can get me aroused by thinking about them or just the mention of them in a certain way.

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RE: "Extreme" turn ons... - 11/13/2007 9:59:28 AM

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Yes. After a month or two into my relationship I figured out my brain was masochistic and body was definitely not! My fantasies are far more 'extreme' than I would probably ever be willing to go. But I think that's probably the nature of fantasies.

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RE: "Extreme" turn ons... - 11/13/2007 11:13:32 AM

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Greetings,

In general, I share with him any fantasies I have, no matter how far out or extreme they might be. He does ask me "Is this something you actually want to experience or something you want to keep as a fantasy?". Sometimes the fantasies continue to develop and I let him know what has been added or erased or strengthened or diminished. It is gratifying to know that he wants to hear these thoughts and furthermore that he wants to explore them with me. I love curling up in bed with him at the end of a long day and telling him about a dream or fantasy - it's a very special time for me. Then he is mean and cruel - it works...

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RE: "Extreme" turn ons... - 11/13/2007 1:15:03 PM

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Yes i have to admit to being turned on by some pretty sick shit....but I won't say what!

Ditto. There are plenty of things that are hot to fantasize about that I'd never do in real life.

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RE: "Extreme" turn ons... - 11/13/2007 1:59:32 PM

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I have a mild castration fetish, but I certainly wouldn't want to enact it for real! Now role-playing it, that might be interesting.

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RE: "Extreme" turn ons... - 11/13/2007 2:08:18 PM

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Definitely yes, and we have done most of them; the others are still on the to-do list.

Except he still won't agree to taking that chainsaw to me....damnit!!

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RE: "Extreme" turn ons... - 11/13/2007 4:56:06 PM

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For me it's because it relates to some emotion or concept that I already find hot- not the actual particular fantasy. I get turned on by actual rape videos, but I don't want to be actually raped.

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RE: "Extreme" turn ons... - 11/13/2007 6:27:50 PM

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Yes when I first got into BDSM I read some stuff that is complete edge play, or felt it was morally wrong.

Could be worse... when i first got into BDSM, i couldn't find anything about consensual S/M, so i had to satisfy myself (uhhh... strictly as a figure of speech, naturally) with things like books about the Spanish Inquisition... So, yeah, unrealistic fantasies, you could say i've had a few

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Except he still won't agree to taking that chainsaw to me....damnit!!

Aww... hood with no eyeholes, gas chainsaw with the chain taken off, close enough to feel the exhaust... he's gotta at least go that far for a girl, no?

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RE: "Extreme" turn ons... - 11/13/2007 6:32:05 PM

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*nods to LA* I also think rape is hot. I also have no desire to actually be raped(although a rape "scene" would be cool) I'm also liking the whole extreme torture while in bondage thing, that really trips my trigger.

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RE: "Extreme" turn ons... - 11/13/2007 6:42:08 PM

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Aww... hood with no eyeholes, gas chainsaw with the chain taken off, close enough to feel the exhaust... he's gotta at least go that far for a girl, no?

Ohhhh you are wicked!!!

And I love it!!! Made me shiver & everything!

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RE: "Extreme" turn ons... - 11/13/2007 6:55:10 PM

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To answer you succinctly: "Hell Yeah!!!"

I am a male sub, but my favorite website of all time was Insex. For the unfamiliar, Insex featured an expert sadist who called himself PD torturing women and forcing orgasms. His techniques would often include needles, breath play and electrical torture. These are things I don't wish for myself, but I sure enjoyed watching the reactions of his victims.

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