hisannabelle
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Joined: 12/3/2006
From: Tallahassee, FL, USA
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greetings kinkyrn,
i have many health conditions that i am trying to learn how to manage better which means i spend a lot of time at the doctor's office. i think having a friendly bedside manner and just generally being open-minded and talkative are the best things - not freaking out when patients tell you weird stuff, and being open to talking about stuff that is going on besides health for them. being responsive to us lessens the feeling that you are judging us - and this goes for all sorts of issues, not just being kinky.
for me, because most of my problems are either chronic pain or mental, the few doctors who have reason to know about my bdsm activities get a little weirded out. my psychiatrist was convinced for awhile that i'm submissive because i was raped at 15 (except that i felt submissive long before i was ever raped) - i think she's over that now, though. one of my counselors used to say over and over again how the reason i'm in such a large age gap relationship is because i have daddy issues (i do have daddy issues, but i don't think the two are overtly related). the fact that i can be in ridiculous amounts of pain 24/7 and not like it, yet crave being flogged or caned, really weirds people out, too. i love marks, which is not conducive to doctors visits. he tries not to bruise me too much before i have to visit any doctors where i have to gown up, only because he doesn't want me to have to deal with the abuse allegations, etc. like camille mentioned.
i think a lot of it is just being willing to look beyond what YOUR personal associations with pain or kink or whatever are, and know that they're not your patient's associations. it's very hard for a lot of doctors to understand what i go through day in and day out because my situation is pretty unique in terms of what problems i have and their severity, and then on top of trying to get them to understand my condition and respect the fact that i actually HAVE tried pretty much everything they're suggesting as a quick fix, then trying to get them to understand that there are situations where i actually ENJOY pain and not judge that is really difficult. most of the time i don't bring it up except in mental health situations because it's more pertinent there, so thankfully i don't have to deal with it as much with my physical doctors.
another really random thing is also radiology technicians, etc...when getting exams like that, kink comes up in the oddest ways. i consider my piercings and body mods to be part of my kink, for me, at least, and i literally had to have ten minute discussions with like five different people at the radiologist's office over my nipple and hood piercings because, despite the fact that my piercer (who is an rn who has had mris with the same kind of jewelry in) and one of the radiology technicians said it would be fine, everyone looked at me like i was nuts when i said i had body jewelry in and wouldn't take it out. forget the fact that this was my third mri, or that i did my homework. not letting your mouth drop open with shock when youf ind out a patient has nipple piercings is always a good thing. and not treating your patients like they're idiots helps (although i can sympathize with the fact that some of us really ARE idiots and that might be difficult to deal with after awhile).
respectfully,
annabelle.
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