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RE: From a submissive point of view - 11/16/2007 7:31:41 PM   
juliaoceania


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ORIGINAL: briska

It took me a while to get used to the Daddy thing, too, in that way. I just seperated the two in my mind. Obviously, incest play is one of those more-taboo topics. But, if you think about it, calling an older male lover "Daddy" is fairly common - you see it in pop-culture in sex-scenes, and the other day I saw it on Girls next Door. It just denotes a role of nurturing & loving to the girl in the relationship.

Also, I'm never his "daughter", rather just his "girl".


We never age play in my dynamic ... there is no incestuous thoughts on my part, nor his. His children never called him Daddy.

edited to add.. he and I are pretty close in age, so it has nothing to do with him being a father figure as an older man

< Message edited by juliaoceania -- 11/16/2007 7:33:32 PM >

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RE: From a submissive point of view - 11/16/2007 7:32:57 PM   
LadyLynx


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Status: offline 		Like Cali, for a long time I saw the Daddy/Daughter thing as ewwwwww! and it squicked me out. (I too have a close relationship with my father,who I call Papa, but oh ewww that close?*shudders*) But over time I began to accept it and to understand it. and talked to quite a few people online and off about it.  I am even into the idea alittle bit......2 guys that I like, I think I could get into calling Daddy. *lol* whether they want to call me daughter/lil girl........have no idea. 

sambaman'slilgirl, the idea of your Daddy walking you down the aisle at your wedding sounds so romantic!! I am a romantic mush.

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RE: From a submissive point of view - 11/16/2007 11:00:33 PM   
hisdevotedtoy


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Status: offline 		Master is 'Daddy' to me when i want something... giggle, and when the word 'Master' is falling from my lips so well, and when i am a bit whiny. 
i am His girl, slave, slut... and a host of other things whenever He wants.   We don't really do daddy/daughter play per se, but quite a few people do get into age play, i think it is more about that.  But, thats just a guess.  i don't consider myself his 'daughter' and He doesn't either... more of a 'girl'

From what i have read, being a 'daughter' doesn't necassarily mean being submissive or being into bdsm... the daughter could be bratty and rather controlling, maybe even spoiled to the core... some relationships even have ages for the daughters, young, teenager, whatever, it depends on the relationship though.

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RE: From a submissive point of view - 11/17/2007 10:46:29 AM   
juliaoceania


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For those of you who find the Daddy Dom thing squicks you, I can understand completely!

I have an aversion to calling a man "Master" or "Sir" because it feels like it is devoid of intimacy to me. I do not want to be submitting to someone that I do not address in an intimate way. I called my first dom "Sir", and after knowing the difference in the feeling of saying "Sir" and "Daddy", I can tell you, I would never call a man "Sir" again. It is just that to me it puts them so far above me to refer to a man that way as to cause me to feel somewhat disconnected.

Now please do not be offended, because it is just how I feel, and I am not saying your relationships lack intimacy, it is just that words have power between people... and the vibration of Daddy is warmth to me, the other terms just lack it in comparison

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RE: From a submissive point of view - 11/17/2007 10:50:12 AM   
juliaoceania


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We don't really do daddy/daughter play per se, but quite a few people do get into age play, i think it is more about that.  But, thats just a guess


that would be an incorrect guess... people age play without having a Daddy Dom, and they do not necessarily age play because they do..

Again, I am never anything but a full grown adult woman when we play... ever

< Message edited by juliaoceania -- 11/17/2007 11:44:02 AM >

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RE: From a submissive point of view - 11/17/2007 10:18:21 PM   
briska


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Status: offline 		My Sir is about 7 years older than i am, and we've always had a D/s type relationship - we're both part of the same coed fraternity, and i pledged as a freshman in college when He was an alumni who hung out alot because He lives close by the house.  While I'm never a "little", i'm still younger than He is.  I guess that's one way to defend against the age-play thing... if it needs defending? *shrug* I'm not saying that if He were the same age, or younger, and acted similarly, we wouldn't have a D/g relationship, it just made it easier to slip from a vanilla to a D/s, D/g relationship. 

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RE: From a submissive point of view - 11/18/2007 1:06:50 AM   
Mercnbeth


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ORIGINAL: OFFICERT

To all of the submissives of D/s and the daughters of Daddy/daughter to you what is the difference between submissive and daughter? I am curious what the difference is from both points from the submissives and the daughters/lilgirl. I am new to this but I am having a hard time figureing out the difference any opinons or advise is more than welcome. Thank you in advance.  


before becoming aware of BDSM, D/s, M/s or Leather-styled relationships, folks referring to someone they were having sex with (or a non-sexual intimate adult relationship) as a family member (Daddy, Mommy, Grand-Pop, etc.) never crossed her mind...and frankly, the first time it did, it was repulsive.
 
this slave was trained early and often to consider nurturing, guiding, protecting and cherishing one's partner to be something that a mature, decent MAN(or woman) does within a relationship...not just something only a Father(or Mother) Figure would do, and therefore would need a special distinction of "Daddy" or "Mommy".  the religious instruction this slave received did not label anyone"Father", either, other than the One Heavenly Father and the one biological, earthly father.
 
in this relationship, it would be an incredible mind-fuck for Master to require this slave refer to Him as "Daddy", or for this slave to be considered His "daughter".

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