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RE: Do you know your kinky "appetite" - Can y... - 8/10/2005 9:09:43 PM

mossy

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Everyone is right this is an excellent question,,,because it makes a person think. Even if You/you already have it all figured out,,,it's feels good to say it out loud and know it. Especially if you're like me,,,and you have just discovered this.

Oh i'm sure there are more layers in here,,,but for now Your question has helped me realize something important. First i used to look only at the "Dominant's appetite" then Their's and a bit of "mine". Mostly though it was about how "i" would fit into "Their world". Eyes bigger than stomach,,,because i wanted so badly to please. As we all know it wouldn't work.
Submissive know thyself,,,became my goal, and You are right, next to overcome embarassment, to say it. Perhaps i do need micromanagement, and most see that as a pain in the tush. Yet,,,,,there are Those that will not. If this is indeed my need? my appetite? Then to "pretend" any other way,,,to be too embarrassed to say, to ask, for what i need? Would be a lie, and unfair for all concerned. Whether it be hard to find this kind of Dominant or not,,,is not the point,,,my true appetite,,,and honesty IS. Thank You AAkasha...and as far as compromise? Hopefully the proper Dominant? Can lead me on a path where less and less micromanagement may be needed. my compromising spirit,,,is my willingness to work hard and obey, and listen,,,doing my very best,,,and taking leaps of faith as my Dominant may request of me.

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RE: Do you know your kinky "appetite" - Can y... - 8/11/2005 7:50:52 PM

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ORIGINAL: JohnWarren

[laugh] You know, if you keep sticking your tongue so far up that cheek, it may stick that way,

Well, you know, I've gotten so used to it that it's become rather comfy

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RE: Do you know your kinky "appetite" - Can y... - 8/14/2005 4:17:14 AM

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AAkasha.... I don't know you... but your little icon there looks kinda intimidating to me... but I like it...kinda.....

any chance you can ask your question in like....one sentence?

Some of us are not as smart as you are.... or may be a bit tipsy.

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RE: Do you know your kinky "appetite" - Can y... - 8/14/2005 5:18:32 AM

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Dominating out of obligation isn't domination at all. The submissive might as well give a list of their wants/needs -- why not go see a pro? Now, a dominant doing something out of obligation even though they are not experienced is downright unsafe (why not be up front with the sub and say you don't want to/don't know how/don't care to learn).

Akasha

i agree, but i also thing the relationship becomes better if the Dom somtimes indulge the sub and do what he or she wants to, but never out of obligation and never over the Dom`s expertise, that would just be unsafe.

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RE: Do you know your kinky "appetite" - Can y... - 8/14/2005 5:25:33 AM

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i agree, but i also thing the relationship becomes better if the Dom somtimes indulge the sub and do what he or she wants to...

That would be a reward for service. If a slave pleases me with her service, with how she has made my life better, I'll reward her with by indulging her desires... whether that be spending a day cuddling or doing things she likes to do, taking her shopping for some new clothes, or maybe just engaging in some forms of play that she especially gets turned on by.

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RE: Do you know your kinky "appetite" - Can y... - 8/14/2005 5:29:32 AM

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sounds nice Padriag, definitly not a bad way to do it. It depends on the relationship ofcourse. if you have a D/s relationship where both are suposed to get equaly mutch out of it, you might want to do that more often, but if you have a D/s relationship where one is the servant, what you do sounds nice.

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RE: Do you know your kinky "appetite" - Can y... - 8/14/2005 6:13:59 AM

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I was still to new to make my sub happy for long.
I was not sadistic enough,yet, for his masochistic (sp, b4 enough coffee) need for pain.
He loved the strap-on but I didnt fulfill his need for the pain.
I am too gentle and nurturing of a person.
He had been in the lifestyle all his adult life.
I pushed my limits far more than his.
In the emotional/mental department we4 were equals out of the bedroom.
He is just a pain slut and not a true sub.

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