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RE: Submissives Teaching/Guiding Dominants - 11/18/2007 6:22:14 PM

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My guess is that they are distracted by your "sweet eyes".

lol... it must be.....

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RE: Submissives Teaching/Guiding Dominants - 11/18/2007 6:32:28 PM

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As a contrast to the Fixer Uppers thread, how many submissives/slaves are comfortable with helping their dominant/master be a better person, learn new skills or guide them along a particular path?

I am a teacher by nature.. it is just who I am. I love to teach people things. I am happiest when I feel as though I imparted information to others and that they got something from that... so it would make sense that I would enjoy being a source of information for my Daddy. I feel valued when he asks my opinions about things of a personal nature, when he seeks my advice. It is up to him whether or not he takes it, but he would not ask me at all if he did not value my opinion about things.

He has great respect for my mind.. I do not feel I am "fixing" him that he avails himself of that mind... I feel as though I am serving him in that capacity.

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RE: Submissives Teaching/Guiding Dominants - 11/18/2007 6:33:44 PM

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Honestly, KOM, I have been reading self professions regarding your personality for a few years now...and you know what my grandmother says (grandma forgive my language)...If you have to tell someone that you are an asshole, you are not.

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RE: Submissives Teaching/Guiding Dominants - 11/18/2007 6:36:13 PM

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...If you have to tell someone that you are an asshole, you are not.

mmmmmmmm Ok... so you found me out.... I am a Wannabe!!!

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RE: Submissives Teaching/Guiding Dominants - 11/18/2007 6:39:03 PM

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I think that every human being has a lesson to teach every other person that they interact with in their lives.

I try to teach everyone that I interact with that I am an Asshole.... with some I have been rather successsful... but others not so much, guess they are not the brightest of the class.

I've never met you, but I suspect (and keep in mind we have several testimonials here about you from others) that the one would have to be really really stupid to buy this story.

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RE: Submissives Teaching/Guiding Dominants - 11/18/2007 6:55:52 PM

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As a contrast to the Fixer Uppers thread, didnt read it...how many submissives/slaves are comfortable with helping their dominant/master be a better person, learn new skills or guide them along a particular path? When Sir found my profile on an alternative site, I had written I need these things you mention.
Yes, I can run a self employed business, tell the mechanic what is wrong with my car, fix a leaky faucet, but I had a need to give this up. Sir has had more experience than I ever had in relationships with subs. I dont need to to teach him anything, except tell him about me openly and honestly.

Sir knew I was not into pain in our sexual activity; he also knew I saw a counselor regularly. But he soon learned I had a fondness for the flogger, his hand on my ass (discipline and erotically) and some other yummy stuff.
My counselor was not a threat to him....infact, we joke about why I pay my therapist when they both repeat each other.
How many dominants are comfortable with a submissive teaching, guiding or helping them? I would not have agreed to be Sir's property if this was not part of what he gave.

Does it conflict with the authority dynamic within your relationship? Why or why not?
NO! I submit to my Sir. He recognizes that the employment authority is necessary and helps me with balance. He knows it is necessary for me to see my therapist and does not dis the authority she has, but rather encourages it and compliments it.

Curious minds would like to know

I like your curious mind....I have one too....
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RE: Submissives Teaching/Guiding Dominants - 11/18/2007 8:18:55 PM

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how many submissives/slaves are comfortable with helping their dominant/master be a better person, learn new skills or guide them along a particular path?

Does it conflict with the authority dynamic within your relationship? Why or why not?

It is desirable and even necessary to lend support to each other in any relationship that is going to last past a few years.

Inside a D/s dynamic, it is all about how and when it is said. It is essential to avoid even the appearance of topping from the bottom.

Two specific techniques have worked for me in D/s relationships:

1. A written journal: hers to peruse if she wants, when she wants, and do with the information what she pleases. The understanding is that the journal is under "standing orders" to be frank, and so there is no challenge to her authority. I'm just obeying orders.

2. In the military, we had a standard phrase to use when we felt it necessary to speak with a superior officer in a frank manner: "Permission to speak freely, Ma'am." Ma'am can say yes, no, or "later" at her complete discretion, leaving no challenge to her authority.

The second method is handy when time is of the essence. The journal is better for exploring a topic in depth.

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RE: Submissives Teaching/Guiding Dominants - 11/18/2007 10:46:17 PM

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I try to teach everyone that I interact with that I am an Asshole.... with some I have been rather successsful... but others not so much, guess they are not the brightest of the class.

*** Turns on a lampshade****.. it is a bit dark at this side of the room *S* but those of us over here know the truth.. but we won't let your secret out... promise

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RE: Submissives Teaching/Guiding Dominants - 11/19/2007 2:51:20 AM

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Sure, there is nothing wrong with someone lending her skills to her Dominant. On a broader note, many submissive types are extremely smart and capable people who find submission does not have to mean they give up their leadership ability.

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