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RE: What goes first? - 11/19/2007 8:29:02 AM

BoiJen

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Body and service match for me as about the same.

I serve before anything else...I'll put my body on the line..it heals.

My heart and mind take so much longer to heal should things not go they way I'd hope. I can't just bandaid those.

And I'm chelle...my spiritual connection with the person has to come into play...for me that's the tie that binds. It's there all the time...it's just getting through the depth of spiritual connection the entire time. My mind is triggered differently and will allow a peek into it as thing develop and I learn things about them. Emotional level...the heart...that's a tough one and takes SO long for me...to me emotional connection is the "submission" part. And even after living with Her for a year and working on these things actively I'm only just getting there. Not something I jump into whole hog.

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RE: What goes first? - 11/19/2007 9:18:49 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: neloangelo1227
I find that my mind "goes first". My attraction to someone, and the desire to submit (or Dominate), often begins as a central core of intellectual respect and trust for someone. My body "goes" once I, as LA put it, hand over authority. My service "goes" once the Domme begins her play, and my heart "goes" if she's doing it right!

Beautifully put!

Regarding all the comments about trust, communication, authority, yes, I certainly agree they are vital. I was looking at the question more as, what gets won over first. I think my mind can be won over, and thus 'given', even before real trust. Flirtation is very intellectual for me. If they can use wit to get me eating out of the palm of their hand, get me curious and intrigued, trying to impress them, and opening my mind to them and what they want, that is how my mind is won. I don't have to trust them yet at that point, or have that important relationship style communication. Though, those things must come before I surrender any authority.

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RE: What goes first? - 11/20/2007 11:35:16 AM

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My Sir has a quote "If you Dominte the mind the body will follow, if you dominte the body, the mind will wander" guess He knows best because I am in a collar and He sure has my mind.....

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