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daddyncherry -> RE: crossing legs (11/22/2007 2:15:54 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Focus50
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ORIGINAL: daddyncherry
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ORIGINAL: kyraofMists
Some of the small things that we are not allowed to do... cross our arms over our chest, .......... put our hair behind our ears
Knight's Kyra
The first thing there would be difficult for me...i do that ALL the time without even thinking.
The second...LMAO...would be a hard limit for me LOL...cause my hair HAS to go behind my ear or it would look goofy and there is soooo much of it that i have to have it somewhere so that i can see.
While the crossing of legs under furniture is neither here nor there for me, folded arms is a whole other matter - a mega no-no! lol
I'm not a shrink so pardon my clumsy attempts at explaining this.... What I am is observant and I learnt from a young age (teens) an interesting difference between women who liked me and were comfortable around me and those who weren't, including total strangers.
The ones who weren't comfortable "protected" their breasts.... lol That is, they'd do assoted things like stand a little further back, fold their arms (including even folding around their handbag like a shield), start fidgeting with an unbuttoned blouse button, close an open jacket and maybe fasten a button or two etc. In contrast, someone who was drawn to me would stand a little closer than normal, had no self conscious feelings about visible cleavage etc and her hands/arms were usually well out the way at her side. There's also a huge difference in where their respective eyes focused, but that's another matter.
So back to the topic, if there's one thing my girl is expressly *forbidden* to do, it's protect her breasts around me - clothed or naked. Unless in use, her hands generally belong at her side or behind her back when interacting with me. Folded arms will draw a reflex corrective response from me, as would having her hands on her hips (looks bossy.... lol).
I love these light-hearted kind of topics....
Focus.
Traditionally this is a sound concept. It is one of basic body language and makes alot of sense.
my situation is a bit different. i have extremely large breasts (DDD at the least) and there for i have grown quite accustomed to covering them up in many public forums because if i don't i am stared at in a very uncomfortable way. After many years of being told specifically to "cover up" it is now a habit.
So, with me, it is not a typical body language response as it might be with others, for me it has become a way of getting by in vanilla society without becoming something to gawk at or be rude to by other women.
Still and all it is something that i am trying to stop because i know that it gives the conotation that i am unapproachable and blocking others.
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