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adoracat -> RE: Is he falling? (11/24/2007 1:06:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wonderingslave Ok, so I realize that this is the second post I have made, but I have yet again another question.... I read on here a while back about "Falling" for your Master.... now....if that were to happen, what if it happened the other way around too? I think that my Master believes in a poly-lifestyle (which I do not have objections to at all!) but I'm confused by some things that he does.... for example there was a brief period of time where we could not talk on the phone and he would tell me online that he missed hearing my voice....and little things about me....then when we were able to talk on phone again, litterally a min after his slave that he lives with, left the house to go shopping he calls me, and we talk and hes about to say something and then has to stop because she came in the house...... im confused...is what going on what i think is going on? i went ahead and read the entire thread before replying.... perhaps its as simple as the live-in slave and he were having a rough time of it that day, and he didnt wish to add to the tension by causing jealousy on top of it? i mean, D/s, M/s or not, we're all still people, and sometimes people have bad days in the relationship. i adore my Daddy and he loves me in return. but we've had a few times where things got tense. i love my husband. same thing. (we're poly also) if he's telling you that she's ok with the situation, and she is also, go with it. meet him/them in person, see how things go, and then if things are good work towards whatever goals you set. kitten, hopeful for you

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: Is he falling? (11/24/2007 1:22:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wonderingslave I am very aware life is not all about me thank you. And I still was on the phone when she came in too, she had no groceries by the way. Obviously opened up a can of worms here. Not gonna do that again. No can of worms have been opened...Based on the little info supplied most are responding as best they can..As with any posting you take what you will from it and go on..only you know the full circumstance of your life..And if you are reading things you do not wish to acknowledge or advice you do not wish to take..then so be it.....But you are right in one way..do not ask for advice that you may not wish to hear..Tempting

Sabella -> RE: Is he falling? (11/24/2007 6:49:21 AM)
Well you got your back up at what I posted but that's my fault for not phrasing what I said in a way you understood 100%. I'll take the rap for that. What I was TRYING to say was that people can and do react in ways around us that quite often may have absolutely nothing to do with us. It's something going on with them and their thought processes and something unrelated to us entirely. HTH ;)

Eurolymius -> RE: Is he falling? (11/26/2007 5:24:39 PM)
This doesn't sound all that unusual to me. Just because you're poly doesn't mean you don't like privacy. Maybe he just doesn't like having conversations other people can overhear. Hardly something to run away about. Obviously, he cares about you, so just focus on that. If he is the dominant one in the relationship, it is up to him to manage the interaction between the three of you and not for you to worry about. Just be happy.

Tigrita -> RE: Is he falling? (11/26/2007 6:00:04 PM)
Considering your raport with his slave, and the atention and affection he's expressed to you, I'm inclined to agree with those who have said that the phone incedent was just a random situational thing. Like someone said, maybe they were just having a stressful day, or she was having an insecure moment (happens even to the most poly friendly people), and he needed to give her his full atention for the moment or that he was afraid it would hurt her at that moment to know that it was you on the other line. If things have been fine since then, I don't see what there is to worry about. But the fact that this keeps eating at you is not good for anyone. I'd just bring it up. "So... what the heck was up that day when our convo came to a hault when slaveypoo came in the door? I just want to make sure everything is okay, is there anything we need to talk about?" Not so scary is it? Best of luck to you. And for the record, Stephan is trying to help you be cautious and I 100% agree with his advice, but he isn't really *that* cynical about relationships that start online and long distance ;) They can work out kind of okay.

wonderingslave -> RE: Is he falling? (11/28/2009 12:08:57 AM)
Not sure if any of you are still on here, but I assume that you are. Just wanted to give you all an update... My Master, Sis & I just celebrated our 2 year anniversary!! We have had our ups and downs but have worked through it all and are still going strong! We are real time now 100% When I first met them in person my Master and I surprised my sister and didn't tell her I was coming, it was seriously the cutest thing ever when we first met, she had been napping but just woke, and when we walked in she yelled OMG and jumped out of the bed, tripped over the sheet and wiped out lol got up and nearly tackled me to the floor! haha And for those of you wondering lol we (Master, sis and I) say I love you to each other every chance we get! lol I looked back on my post's and I can see how insecure I was being new to that part of the lifestyle (poly) but I have come a long ways, and thank you all once more for your advice!

DarkSteven -> RE: Is he falling? (11/28/2009 3:27:30 AM)
That's sweet!

KateyCaine -> RE: Is he falling? (11/28/2009 5:02:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wonderingslave Not sure if any of you are still on here, but I assume that you are. Just wanted to give you all an update... My Master, Sis & I just celebrated our 2 year anniversary!! We have had our ups and downs but have worked through it all and are still going strong! We are real time now 100% When I first met them in person my Master and I surprised my sister and didn't tell her I was coming, it was seriously the cutest thing ever when we first met, she had been napping but just woke, and when we walked in she yelled OMG and jumped out of the bed, tripped over the sheet and wiped out lol got up and nearly tackled me to the floor! haha And for those of you wondering lol we (Master, sis and I) say I love you to each other every chance we get! lol I looked back on my post's and I can see how insecure I was being new to that part of the lifestyle (poly) but I have come a long ways, and thank you all once more for your advice! i'm glad. i really am :):) Communication is key :) Never hide your feelings, even if they concern you not knowing where you stand. k xx

zephyroftheNorth -> RE: Is he falling? (11/28/2009 6:31:29 AM)
That's really awesome!!! It's always good to read about a happy ending, thanks for posting!

devilishpixie -> RE: Is he falling? (11/28/2009 6:44:59 AM)
That is wonderful! Remember we all get insecure sometimes but if we run from what scares us we may miss out on something wonderful.

antipode -> RE: Is he falling? (11/28/2009 8:18:54 AM)
quote: is what going on what i think is going on? yes

zephyroftheNorth -> RE: Is he falling? (11/28/2009 8:21:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: antipode quote: is what going on what i think is going on? yes Actually no. That was 2 years ago, if you read her update they have now been together for 2 very happy years [;)]

breatheasone -> RE: Is he falling? (11/28/2009 8:43:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wonderingslave Not sure if any of you are still on here, but I assume that you are. Just wanted to give you all an update... My Master, Sis & I just celebrated our 2 year anniversary!! We have had our ups and downs but have worked through it all and are still going strong! We are real time now 100% When I first met them in person my Master and I surprised my sister and didn't tell her I was coming, it was seriously the cutest thing ever when we first met, she had been napping but just woke, and when we walked in she yelled OMG and jumped out of the bed, tripped over the sheet and wiped out lol got up and nearly tackled me to the floor! haha And for those of you wondering lol we (Master, sis and I) say I love you to each other every chance we get! lol I looked back on my post's and I can see how insecure I was being new to that part of the lifestyle (poly) but I have come a long ways, and thank you all once more for your advice! Glad you are happy with the relationship you are in, all the best.

wonderingslave -> RE: Is he falling? (11/28/2009 9:03:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: antipode quote: is what going on what i think is going on? yes lol No it's not.... if you read up the dates of the post above mine happen to be 11/26/2007 ....not 2009 ... lol

wonderingslave -> RE: Is he falling? (11/28/2009 9:07:12 AM)
Thanks A/all :)

Acer49 -> RE: Is he falling? (11/28/2009 1:31:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wonderingslave Ok, so I realize that this is the second post I have made, but I have yet again another question.... I read on here a while back about "Falling" for your Master.... now....if that were to happen, what if it happened the other way around too? I think that my Master believes in a poly-lifestyle (which I do not have objections to at all!) but I'm confused by some things that he does.... for example there was a brief period of time where we could not talk on the phone and he would tell me online that he missed hearing my voice....and little things about me....then when we were able to talk on phone again, litterally a min after his slave that he lives with, left the house to go shopping he calls me, and we talk and hes about to say something and then has to stop because she came in the house...... im confused...is what going on what i think is going on? While you may know about her, it appears he does not want her to know about you. a relationship headed for disaster

crazyml -> RE: Is he falling? (11/28/2009 1:51:45 PM)
Congrats to you! Really good lesson in this for me, I initial reaction back in 2007 would probably have been to tell you to bail on the situation, and you've just demonstrated that I would have been wrong. Thanks for posting the update

zephyroftheNorth -> RE: Is he falling? (11/28/2009 2:01:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Acer49 quote: ORIGINAL: wonderingslave Ok, so I realize that this is the second post I have made, but I have yet again another question.... I read on here a while back about "Falling" for your Master.... now....if that were to happen, what if it happened the other way around too? I think that my Master believes in a poly-lifestyle (which I do not have objections to at all!) but I'm confused by some things that he does.... for example there was a brief period of time where we could not talk on the phone and he would tell me online that he missed hearing my voice....and little things about me....then when we were able to talk on phone again, litterally a min after his slave that he lives with, left the house to go shopping he calls me, and we talk and hes about to say something and then has to stop because she came in the house...... im confused...is what going on what i think is going on? While you may know about her, it appears he does not want her to know about you. a relationship headed for disaster That was two years ago (check the date). She just posted earlier today that they have now been together two years and couldn't be happier.

wonderingslave -> RE: Is he falling? (11/30/2009 2:06:39 AM)
Thank you zephyroftheNorth, I appreciate that!! :)

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