Focus50 -> RE: Undressing or being undressed (12/21/2007 12:36:55 PM)
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ORIGINAL: liminalRapture OK, I have a totally irrational thing (as opposed to the rest of my erotic life, which, of course, is totally rational ;). I adore being undressed by someone else. I feel like I'm this cherished and totally adored and appreciated being. I feel pretty. And I just hate having to undress myself--it feels (and I know this is irrational) like I'm not much valued--just something to fill time till someone better comes along. I tried to tell my ex how much it meant to me, but he only undressed me 2 times in a year! And it seems like it is pretty par for the course to expect subs to do that themselves. Anyone have similar reactions or relevant experience? I mostly enjoy having the girl undress herself under the the gaze of my stern but emotionless eyes - because it sets the headspace I desire as the one in control. And no, I don't particularly feel the need to undress my partners in a "civilised" manner, though, when in the right mood, I do enjoy a bit of rough manhandling where I rip (not literally) her gear off and have her do whatever I want.... That said, I also feel a responsibility and obligation to look after my property's needs, too. So if she did have a particular fetish or desire that doesn't impact on my own personal limits (such as yours), I would certainly accomodate it when she's been a good girl (and occasionally tease her with it, too) and a lot more than twice a year. But back to where I started, it's mostly a matter of control and setting head space - and that I enjoy her being self conscious about being the only naked person in the room, esp getting her that way. Focus.
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