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RE: What does a Domme look for in a submissive? - 12/3/2007 9:43:30 PM

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For me personally, I look for someone who would fit into my lifestyle and who enjoys the same things I enjoy, specifically fantasy RPG gaming, larping, Ren Faires, SCA, medieval re-enactment, etc. Intelligence is paramount, as is emotional stability, maturity, honesty and generally having his shit together. He should be generally happy and fun to be with rather than depressed, angsty, bitter, angry, bad tempered, etc. Emotional and mental health is important, as is taking responsibility for his own life choices and the consequences thereof. He doesn't need to be rich but he does need to be a responsible, self supporting adult paying his own bills and driving his own vehicle. And he needs to be sincerely interested in friendship with me as the basis for any other relationship.

Do electric skateboards and mopeds count? <_< >_>

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RE: What does a Domme look for in a submissive? - 12/3/2007 9:55:30 PM

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Do electric skateboards and mopeds count? <_< >_>

Not particularly, but since you meet the rest of my criteria very nicely, I might want to do bad things to you with a kick-start vibrator.

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RE: What does a Domme look for in a submissive? - 12/3/2007 10:02:24 PM

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The first thing that grabs my attention is manners. How they approach me, and how they conduct themselves. After that, intelligence, maturity, a good sense of humor, employment, stability.... a strong desire to serve and please. Our compatibility is crucial, but the M/s or D/s is much more important to me than the BDSM activity interests.

Oh, and if he has a Harley or other big touring bike, it's a huge plus... <grin>

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RE: What does a Domme look for in a submissive? - 12/3/2007 10:07:13 PM

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I am finding myself imtimated by some of the subs that have contacted me.Many are obviously smarter and better educated and have it more together then myself.

I am not like the other ladies on this thread...I am a service dom and one with NO experience, having just decided to start switching a week ago.

What I am looking for is friends..and someone to show me the ropes,but first friends. .

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RE: What does a Domme look for in a submissive? - 12/3/2007 10:59:25 PM

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In male subs i first look at their experience cause since i like heavy plays and i dont really want to wait till theyre ready. Since girls subs are hard to find around here i dont look for experience in a girl but for clear ideas , i mean not the cyber thing or the "convince me" attitude, but the real thing.
I think a proposal is serious when includes a photo (totally block those who take a shot of their cock) and also description of himself, likes and dislikes. I look for mental stability, experience, manners and heavy pain tolerance.
Also totally block those who cant talk comfortable and specificaly about what they want or dont want, "im shy" doesnt work for me. I preffear totally asuumed people who are confortable talking about all aspects of themselves.

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RE: What does a Domme look for in a submissive? - 12/4/2007 9:12:49 AM

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Do electric skateboards and mopeds count? <_< >_>

Not particularly, but since you meet the rest of my criteria very nicely, I might want to do bad things to you with a kick-start vibrator.

I'll get the J-Lube and crash helmet.

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RE: What does a Domme look for in a submissive? - 12/4/2007 9:17:14 AM

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I can promise you that if aiden were jusssst a bit older..... he'd be it.

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RE: What does a Domme look for in a submissive? - 12/4/2007 9:19:25 AM

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Yes, if he were say, 35...you ladies would have to duke it out with me for first crack at him!

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RE: What does a Domme look for in a submissive? - 12/4/2007 9:26:00 AM

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I guess it's nice to know there's things to look forward to in life. ;-p

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RE: What does a Domme look for in a submissive? - 12/4/2007 9:26:51 AM

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Funny how, then, i used to get bashed and trashed for being what They considered to be an attention seeker.....in chat rooms, i mean. Sub male, here, btw....which might explain the issue. Sub females could get away with it, though. The double standards strike again.

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RE: What does a Domme look for in a submissive? - 12/4/2007 11:31:16 AM

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Chat rooms, IMO, Do Not Count.

Best chat room experience I ever had: I was chatting online to one of my pals, and she said hey, X opened a chat, let's go. So a bunch of us ladies (who know each other IRL) yapped away about.....chicken soup! How we make it, what kind of noodles we like, are the feet essential? The males in the room spoke NOT ONE WORD. THAT is real dommes interacting!

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RE: What does a Domme look for in a submissive? - 12/4/2007 11:37:09 AM

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What initially attracts me (on here) is a man willing and eager to make an effort, not one that just wants to be pursued. I have no problem pursuing men and have done it here; but if he is the one contacting me, it's refreshing if he's obviously making an effort.

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RE: What does a Domme look for in a submissive? - 12/4/2007 11:50:21 AM

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I tend to go for men who are obviously incredible people. Good self esteem and general competence at life are my minimum requirements. There is nothing more erotic when a man of high character chooses to submit to me. That submission means something.

A person who believes they are no one, or not good enough, or is just too overwhelmed by their NEED to submit. . .well, what are they submitting to me? Nothing. They may offer acts of service, but there is no value in their submission if they themselves feel they have no value.

I do not speak for all Dommes when I say this, however. Some are really into Female Supremacy and the like and tend to prefer their men humble and dependent. I don't like humble. I like confident and independent.

But that's me.

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RE: What does a Domme look for in a submissive? - 12/5/2007 10:15:58 AM

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Pass the question is too difficult.

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RE: What does a Domme look for in a submissive? - 12/5/2007 12:57:32 PM

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I've done my upmost best, to make my profile as honest, well mannered, and informative about what/who i wish to seek. If a miss stands out, i will message them with a polite paragraph explaining why i have written.
Unfortunately even following these steps, plus posting on the boards, i find it hard to sustain a decent interest from any Dommes.

Only time will tell though, i suppose.

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RE: What does a Domme look for in a submissive? - 12/5/2007 12:58:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: exoticmale

Funny how, then, i used to get bashed and trashed for being what They considered to be an attention seeker.....in chat rooms, i mean. Sub male, here, btw....which might explain the issue. Sub females could get away with it, though. The double standards strike again.

Not particularly a double standard, darlin'. Do not try to apply my feelings about people who interact with me personally with the standards of conduct in a large group.

I am not a "They". I am an "I". And I am not charmed by someone who wants EVERYONE's attention. I am charmed by someone who wants MY attention. That's true of males or females, especially if they can get across the "notice me" vibe in a charming or intriguing way.

As for the rest--not not everyone enjoys the "notice me" game. I'm a dominant voyeur--of course my tendency is to find submissive exhibitionism cute! Not to mention useful to create my art.

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RE: What does a Domme look for in a submissive? - 12/5/2007 6:22:44 PM

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ORIGINAL: MystressDream
The first thing that grabs my attention is manners. How they approach me, and how they conduct themselves. After that, intelligence, maturity, a good sense of humor, employment, stability.... a strong desire to serve and please. Our compatibility is crucial, but the M/s or D/s is much more important to me than the BDSM activity interests.

Oh, and if he has a Harley or other big touring bike, it's a huge plus... <grin>

Yes, what she said!

We already have a Harley in the family (my mate's) and I have a Vulcan Classic...so I'm not as much fixated on the Harley...but having a motorcycle so we can all ride would be great!

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RE: What does a Domme look for in a submissive? - 12/8/2007 4:18:00 AM

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I look for honesty. This is most important to me. Frienship is another. If I can't relate to a submissive and have commucation with B/both of us then nothing is there.

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RE: What does a Domme look for in a submissive? - 12/8/2007 12:00:14 PM

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I like a Sub that is intelligent, polite,and willing to do anything I tell them to. A little disobedience can be fun, but for the most part I want the slave to do what I tell them to no questions asked.

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RE: What does a Domme look for in a submissive? - 12/9/2007 8:26:45 PM

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When I am looking, I look for subs who respond in an educated curious tone. I do not want a doormat but I also don't want another dom. I want someone who is capable of explaining their lifestyle choices and not obessing because of my age. I am very much aware of the fact that I am young. I do not need someone reafirming that in my mind.
Anyone who cannot treat me with respect does not get another chance. Anyone who can not use some form of legible english without a resonable excuse - such as not speaking english often- will not get a second chance. People who shove the sexual side down my throat will not get a second chance.
But hey that's just me.

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