Padriag
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People respond to various stimuli in specific ways. So, figure out how an individual responds to specific stimuli and then control that stimuli and presto... control. When people talk about earning respect, being dominant, being themselves... that's all any of that really boils down too. When you earn someones respect you are in fact doing nothing more than fulfilling certain of their expectations in a very specific way... that is you are stimulating them in specific ways which result in their treating you with respect. Being dominant is a behavior that stimulates other people in certain ways, some individuals respond to that stimuli with submissive behavior. If you are "being yourself" and have some respond to you with submissive behavior, its only because whatever behavior you exhibit when you are "being yourself" happens to stimulate them to behave submissively... which is no guarantee that will be effective with anyone else. People are individuals. The range of behaviors they are capable of is amazing. The range of behaviors you can elicit from them is amazing. Being astute enough to observe all those stimuli, understand the relationship between stimuli and response behaviors, and then deliberately manipulate specific stimuli to get specific behaviors... that's the tricky bit. Didn't say it was going to be easy.
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Padriag A stern discipline pervades all nature, which is a little cruel so that it may be very kind - Edmund Spencer
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