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ORIGINAL: ShaktiSama

Pet peeves...well, all the usual things.  But I have also noticed a trend among some submissives that I've come to call "Looking for Mistress Right".  Essentially, when you start talking with a man, you discover that he is looking for someone "worthy" of his submission.  There are all sorts of things this woman has to be, but overall it's understood that this female paragon is expected to be physically, mentally, emotionally, financially, politically and sexually perfect, and to meet his exacting standards in every way.  She's the embodiment of a fantasy, not a human being.

Initially it might be flattering to be mistaken for such a woman, but in general once a man hints at this mindset, I take it as a warning flag.  As time goes by I will probably take it as a reason to punch out of the conversation.  It could just be that these men are paragons of perfection themselves, and are seeking what they offer--but I'm repulsed by that kind of narcissism anyway.  And I must observe that having such a high standard is a very effective defense mechanism against having to really face and explore your submissive feelings in real life.

It's also a very effective defense mechanism against having real love in your life.  Love seldom arrives in the expected packaging, in my experience.  Unless the only love you're capable of feeling is for shiny wrapping paper.

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ORIGINAL: shootingstar67

What is your greatest pet peeve dealing with submissive men?

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ORIGINAL: rubberpet

I feel ya.  There are so many "submissives" out here that ruin things for the ones who are ligitimately looking for a complete relationship with a dominant woman.  Dommes are already outnumbered 100-1 by subbies to start with.  No wonder it is so difficult to get their attention because they keep getting approached by those sending form letters to everyone they see, those who use cheesy lines, those who are just looking for wank fodder, and those who are are just wasting time.  The dommes get jaded and fed up with the bullshit...it's as simple as that. 

You might say these men create "noise" that's added the messages sent to Mistresses from men that are genuinely seeking D/s relationships with them.  As a result, the great amount of "noise" or volume from those additional messages may be causing the legitimate messages to be overlooked.  Thus your 100:1 number is proabably far less when you exclude the men who aren't actually submissive or men the ladies here would consider appropriate candidates for a D/s relationship.

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ORIGINAL: pixelslave

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ORIGINAL: rubberpet

I feel ya.  There are so many "submissives" out here that ruin things for the ones who are ligitimately looking for a complete relationship with a dominant woman.  Dommes are already outnumbered 100-1 by subbies to start with.  No wonder it is so difficult to get their attention because they keep getting approached by those sending form letters to everyone they see, those who use cheesy lines, those who are just looking for wank fodder, and those who are are just wasting time.  The dommes get jaded and fed up with the bullshit...it's as simple as that. 

rubberpet,
 
I abhor using the word "real", so I'll state my response a bit differently.  I have to wonder if a large part of the 100:1 you mention are all legitimately submissive men.  Perhaps many of them, including the "poofers" frequently mentioned on the boards here are actually fantasy seekers, wankers, men just looking to get laid, or those who are perhaps looking for a new experience (or to explore one) that aren't genuinely in their hearts submissive material. 
 
You might say these men create "noise" that's added the messages sent to Mistresses from men that are genuinely seeking D/s relationships with them.  As a result, the great amount of "noise" or volume from those additional messages may be causing the legitimate messages to be overlooked.  Thus your 100:1 number is proabably far less when you exclude the men who aren't actually submissive or men the ladies here would consider appropriate candidates for a D/s relationship.
 
Just a bit of food for thought...
 
 
 - pixel
 
   Collared to Majik
 

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ORIGINAL: ShaktiSama

Pet peeves...well, all the usual things.  But I have also noticed a trend among some submissives that I've come to call "Looking for Mistress Right".  Essentially, when you start talking with a man, you discover that he is looking for someone "worthy" of his submission.  There are all sorts of things this woman has to be, but overall it's understood that this female paragon is expected to be physically, mentally, emotionally, financially, politically and sexually perfect, and to meet his exacting standards in every way.  She's the embodiment of a fantasy, not a human being.

Initially it might be flattering to be mistaken for such a woman, but in general once a man hints at this mindset, I take it as a warning flag.  As time goes by I will probably take it as a reason to punch out of the conversation.  It could just be that these men are paragons of perfection themselves, and are seeking what they offer--but I'm repulsed by that kind of narcissism anyway.  And I must observe that having such a high standard is a very effective defense mechanism against having to really face and explore your submissive feelings in real life.

It's also a very effective defense mechanism against having real love in your life.  Love seldom arrives in the expected packaging, in my experience.  Unless the only love you're capable of feeling is for shiny wrapping paper.

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ORIGINAL: MystressDream

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ORIGINAL: pixelslave

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ORIGINAL: rubberpet

I feel ya.  There are so many "submissives" out here that ruin things for the ones who are ligitimately looking for a complete relationship with a dominant woman.  Dommes are already outnumbered 100-1 by subbies to start with.  No wonder it is so difficult to get their attention because they keep getting approached by those sending form letters to everyone they see, those who use cheesy lines, those who are just looking for wank fodder, and those who are are just wasting time.  The dommes get jaded and fed up with the bullshit...it's as simple as that. 

rubberpet,
 
I abhor using the word "real", so I'll state my response a bit differently.  I have to wonder if a large part of the 100:1 you mention are all legitimately submissive men.  Perhaps many of them, including the "poofers" frequently mentioned on the boards here are actually fantasy seekers, wankers, men just looking to get laid, or those who are perhaps looking for a new experience (or to explore one) that aren't genuinely in their hearts submissive material. 
 
You might say these men create "noise" that's added the messages sent to Mistresses from men that are genuinely seeking D/s relationships with them.  As a result, the great amount of "noise" or volume from those additional messages may be causing the legitimate messages to be overlooked.  Thus your 100:1 number is proabably far less when you exclude the men who aren't actually submissive or men the ladies here would consider appropriate candidates for a D/s relationship.
 
Just a bit of food for thought...
 
 
 - pixel
 
   Collared to Majik
 

I believe you have hit the nail on the head with this post, pixelslave.  If the odds were really 100-1 in favor of Female Dominants, then none of us would still be seeking.  What I have encountered are a huge number of "bedroom submissives" (my personal definition of these men NOTE THE MY, is they are simply men who like kinky sex.  Period.), or men with profiles detailing out everything they want, how they want it, and (in many cases) how the woman must look while doing their laundry list of activities.  IMO, These men are NOT submissives. 
 
I will add my voice to the women on here who stated one of their pet peeves being the "no show" or "disappearing" men.  It is why I require a face to face meeting quickly.  In my experience, the ones who immediately state they wish to be my "slave" and will do anything and everything I want to "make me happy" are the ones who will cut and run as soon as I say, "Meet me for coffee and we will talk".  <chuckle>
 
 

Thanks MystressDream

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ORIGINAL: shootingstar67

What is your greatest pet peeve dealing with submissive men?

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ORIGINAL: pixelslave

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ORIGINAL: rubberpet

I feel ya.  There are so many "submissives" out here that ruin things for the ones who are ligitimately looking for a complete relationship with a dominant woman.  Dommes are already outnumbered 100-1 by subbies to start with.  No wonder it is so difficult to get their attention because they keep getting approached by those sending form letters to everyone they see, those who use cheesy lines, those who are just looking for wank fodder, and those who are are just wasting time.  The dommes get jaded and fed up with the bullshit...it's as simple as that. 

rubberpet,
 
I abhor using the word "real", so I'll state my response a bit differently.  I have to wonder if a large part of the 100:1 you mention are all legitimately submissive men.  Perhaps many of them, including the "poofers" frequently mentioned on the boards here are actually fantasy seekers, wankers, men just looking to get laid, or those who are perhaps looking for a new experience (or to explore one) that aren't genuinely in their hearts submissive material. 
 
You might say these men create "noise" that's added the messages sent to Mistresses from men that are genuinely seeking D/s relationships with them.  As a result, the great amount of "noise" or volume from those additional messages may be causing the legitimate messages to be overlooked.  Thus your 100:1 number is proabably far less when you exclude the men who aren't actually submissive or men the ladies here would consider appropriate candidates for a D/s relationship.
 
Just a bit of food for thought...
 
 
 - pixel
 
   Collared to Majik
 

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ORIGINAL: MistressDolly

Submissive men - men who submit.

What's there to complain about in a man who's dominant in the outside world yet submissive to that one Female he finds lovely, adorable and worthy of servitude and worship?

Men who find delight in submitting to female authority (particularly beyond :) the bedroom) are a.o.k in my book.

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus
the dominant who is 5'8', 36DD, size 2, l

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ORIGINAL: sensubmaybe
I wish there was a way to break the cycle. If I read a profile and I don't meet the requirement I don't write. Again, it's too bad, I read any number that seem like we might actually be a great fit but rather than expect someone to consider flexibility, I just say "next."

On another topic...I like your photos, especially the black and white. Always been a fan of b&w.  

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ORIGINAL: rubberpet

In other words, I don't agree with your post the least bit.