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Focus50 -> RE: What is the difference between discipline and punishment? (11/3/2005 2:29:45 AM)
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Discipline forms many of the "fun" things of a D/s dynamic or relationship. I've always preferred a playful sub with some mischief about her but when she goes too far, I'll rein things in with some form of discipline - a look, a slap, push her to her knees, a nipple tweak, hair pull etc or something more formal such as having her bend over, lift her skirt and counting strokes etc.
And what's relevant is that we both enjoy when I assert my authority this way - it's a physical expression of who's the Dominant and who's the submissive. It reinforces respective "roles" (I do hate that word, though - actors *play* roles....). And most subs wanna know that they're not in charge, even if it physically hurts!
Punishment is the opposite for me. It's a consequence of her actions disappointing me in some serious way. I punish by not allowing her to please me for a specific amount of time; there'll be no physical contact and certainly no form of BDSM play. The difference basically boils down to my mood because of her actions. If I'm genuinely angry, she gets punished but if it's just about attitude and going a bit too far, I love pulling her into line - we BOTH do.
In my D/s relationships, we've both enjoyed discipline and both hated punishment. By not allowing her to please me through punishment, we are both punished because I'm also denied her use or service for the same prescribed time. Fortunately, discipline is ongoing at all levels; is a founding basis of the relationship and punishment is something that may only be necessary once a year or less....
Focus.
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