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Thinking Back - 12/9/2007 1:05:51 AM

CliarSiofra

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I remember when i first heard the word switch I felt a sort of weight lifted off my shoulders. It explained how I was at the time. Sure i started training and learning about the lifestyle as a sub, but I found myself more often than not. well not wanting to submit to most. Course at the time well there were a lot of people I saw were only in it for the kink in the bedroom.

Eventually I took on the role as a Dominate. Most people who didn't know me when i was a submissive never would have guessed i was one. Some said I was a natural, others that I am wise for my age.

But even when i was training people i felt inside that yearning on occasions to let someone guide me.

I was always hesitant to take on the title as a Switch cause I would hear some of the negative comments about switches. Which now its not as much. Occasionally I hear the comment "thats cause you haven't met a real Dom ...or so on and so forth.

Do you ever retrace your steps to see how far you have come. And find a smile on your face?

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RE: Thinking Back - 12/9/2007 2:04:42 AM

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Yes, but we never stop learning. Except for in profiles, I'm not sure it matters what label you don, or what others say about it, but how you feel. Many people are not truly d or s only.

You're a "natural" or you haven't met the right dom = I want in your pants and will say anything to get there.

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RE: Thinking Back - 12/9/2007 2:33:12 AM

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Don't I know it. Lucky i'm too damn picky for my own damn good.

I usally ended up in a loooooong verbal battle with them. which would end with either them telling me i'm wrong and walking away. Or me laughing and taking off.

I have actually had women tell me simalar things but not as much as the men do.

Best retort those i found was. "I don't see any here i'll let you know when i find one" ;)

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RE: Thinking Back - 12/9/2007 4:53:22 AM

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I have been told many times, "I am too picky".

Then I settled, 20 years passed, only to find myself walking the same path.
Perhaps it's not the tree I seek, but the forest.
Respectfully, LTP

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RE: Thinking Back - 12/9/2007 5:24:01 PM

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I've gone through a lot of different changes in perception about myself. At first I didn't really consider myself submissive at all, but I'd always had the driving desire to be dominated sexually (but not to actively submit). I listed as a submissive only because I was looking for a dominant. I later found that with the right person, I am actively submissive and have found beauty I never expected in that.

I never really considered myself as a 'dominant' either, because I'd never gotten sexual gratification from dominating others, though I typically use dominant behavior to weed out those who aren't strong, skilled, and confident enough to dominate me. But I do enjoy that interaction in it's way, even more so when I'm in a happy relationship with a dominant, so I've settled on taking on the label of switch. I very much enjoy being dominant towards the slave in our poly relationship.

So, yeah, lots of evolution, and I do enjoy thinking back on it.

< Message edited by Tigrita -- 12/9/2007 5:25:24 PM >

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RE: Thinking Back - 12/9/2007 9:29:27 PM

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Part of why I love my partner, he's a walking timeline for me and my progress :)

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RE: Thinking Back - 12/10/2007 12:18:54 AM

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all of your words are just awesome to hear. makes me tingle inside.

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RE: Thinking Back - 12/11/2007 7:12:40 AM

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it never pays to be one-sided. but some people need to feel decisive, in control. Not so much [in control of] the other person, but their own desires. I find my desires to be unpredictable and trying to control my medium of pleasure would only close off the infinite possible pleasures of the mind and flesh. Emotion is a spectrum and I seek to bask in all its color.

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