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valleyslave -> needs advise (12/9/2007 3:16:10 PM)
why is it my Master tells me he can not inflict pain on me for punishment cause he loves me

Surrenderwithin -> RE: needs advise (12/9/2007 3:20:57 PM)
Perhaps this is a question you should be asking him. Only he can truley explain his own feelings. We could guess at where he is coming from or judge this statement or read between the lines,,,, but none of those things would help you or him. Do you like pain? How does punishment play a part in your power exchange? Do you feel the need for the control that comes from punishment? Do you see punishment as acceptance? Is it punishment or discipline that you crave and need? Do you realize that pain is not the only type of punishment there is? What is it that he is denying you.... pain, control, discipline, or dominance in general? Sounds like you need to figure out what it is that you are really asking of him and if it is a realistic expectation and/ or need.....

angelslave77 -> RE: needs advise (12/9/2007 3:21:40 PM)
This is a very very common problem my advice would be if you enjoy pain, use pain as a pleasure not a punishment and think up other things such as corner time as punishment.

MistressTaboo -> RE: needs advise (12/9/2007 3:27:11 PM)
Without knowning more of what's going on I can't really say...but I have a few ideas. 1. In my case if there is a punishment in need...I'm pissed off and I won't play while I'm pissed...too much temper not enough control. 2. He may feel that you are asking for a punishment beating to get attention...that old How do you punish a masochist? Just say NO!

laurell3 -> RE: needs advise (12/9/2007 9:09:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: valleyslave why is it my Master tells me he can not inflict pain on me for punishment cause he loves me How does it make sense that you don't want to go back to him because he might give you punishment (another thread started by you), but here you appear to be whining bc he doesn't give punishment?

intro2submissive -> RE: needs advise (12/9/2007 11:05:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressTaboo Without knowning more of what's going on I can't really say...but I have a few ideas. 1. In my case if there is a punishment in need...I'm pissed off and I won't play while I'm pissed...too much temper not enough control. 2. He may feel that you are asking for a punishment beating to get attention...that old How do you punish a masochist? Just say NO! Speaking the TRUTH!

IamJustMe2C -> RE: needs advise (12/10/2007 5:39:39 AM)
Are you that bad that you need to be punished? Are you that new to this? Havent you been properly trained? Or do you just push his buttons to be punished? Every slave I have ever known or had under my care has never wanted to be punished. It happens at times but it is not what they look for. If you seek this kind of treatment ask him for some harder play so you wont feel the need to be punished anymore.

littleone35 -> RE: needs advise (12/11/2007 4:10:08 PM)
I wonder if you Master really loves you. I know my Master loves me and he does not like to inflict pain on me. Still I have been punished 2 times and displined a few times and he did that because he loves me and knows if he lets me get away with murder it would mean he was just in it for fun and did not care as long as he got his "fix ". So even thought i don't like displines or punishments i love that Master loves me enough to give them to me. Matt's littleone

beltainefaerie -> RE: needs advise (12/11/2007 9:20:01 PM)
Punishment involves doing things someone doesn't like to deter them from an undesirable behaviour. It doesn't need to be physical, though often is. It is possible that your Master does not wish pain punishment, if you are a masochist, because he loves you enough to want to do something effective. It is also possible that he is too upset whn punishment is required and does not was punishment to go too far fueled by anger or turn into abuse. It is possible that he doesn't like physical punishment and does not find it effective. It is possible that he thinks you want pain and will become a brat to get it if he uses physical punishment, rather than learning proper behaviour and getting sensatios you wish to experience as a reward. Really, those are my top suggestions, but you would need to ask your Master to really know what he meant by the statement.

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