Stephann
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Joined: 12/27/2006 From: Portland, OR Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: snapdragon9 I know this question has probably been asked numerous times, but I'm still looking for advice. My sub and I are looking for another sub/slave. But the way I see poly is a "live-in" situation. This second sub would spend time with both of us simultaneously quite a bit, and the relationship would be one between all of us and not just between me and them. There would be some exclusive time, but this would not be the majority. We would probably invite her to come and live with us as well. The problem is, I have no idea how to look for someone like this. Any suggestions would be nice, and of course you thoughts on our version of poly would be awesome. Thanks everyone. If I were you, I'd be really...really patient. I figure there's about ten couples looking for a 'third' for every single female interested in a relationship with a couple. Understand that it won't just be a matter of finding 'a sub' but rather finding a woman who's interesting to you, and who is interested in you. Online, do searches for women who live nearby. This isn't to say you'll never meet someone a distance away; only that you shouldn't focus your efforts in trying to lure a woman from LA or New York or Tuscaloosa, Alabama. I'm not saying it never works, but I would say the odds are very bad. Efforts in meeting people locally, meeting people in your local community, and generally just being a likable, interesting person will make things much more likely. Also, dating 'vanilla' women is a good route to go; women from work, school, etc. After one or two dates, you can explain that you're involved with another woman, who's also interested in women. The worst that can happen that route is that she's not interested and you had a great meal. The point is you're probably going to have a lot more success in attracting a third by meeting and getting to know women first, rather than seeking a woman who claims to be looking for a couple. Addtionally, I'd strongly suggest spending some time on these message boards. I met both of my girls through them. Regards, Stephan
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