LadyHugs -> RE: young Dom/Masters with sub/slaves (12/27/2007 12:23:38 PM)
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Dear SlavishStudent, Ladies and Gentlemen; Congratulations on your postings so far--its a bit nerve fraying in the beginning but, as with anything experiences teach you. I enjoy working with young Dominants myself. I think I grow a few years younger around young adults--must be because they remind me of myself and how all the hands up older Dominants gave me in my quest to be a good Master. In the system that I was involved with and learned in, the oldest and most senior Dominant taught and gave more rapid successes to things, due to not learning bad habits and having to relearn new habits. How to correct things before they became disasters and tricks of the trade if you will. Lessons these Dominants learned. But, from that system we were empty vessels. Every Dominant had a lot of information, knowledge, skills and the like they poured into my empty vessel. It was 'their' knowledge they gave to me--passing the torch to a new generation. But, what I did with other's knowledge is the key here --taking what you learn and using it and making it your own is the most important point I can stress. I'm a very intense teacher. I often overwhelm people with information. But, I have a lot to share and I'm more willing to part with my knowledge, skills and my lessons of life. I am investing in people when I teach. Just as those who taught me--invested in me. The attitude of those days was, what was taught might not be used for another 15 years down the road. However, it will be there when/if you need it. It will be a memory. Many Dominants and many ways of doing the same exact thing; gives so many ways to problem solve something, such as a whip technique. When something works for you --you're a success. Much like making a car out of many different people's parts--you'll have created the car which speaks of you --the person, an individualized dominant person. There are young and old Dominants who either gasps this or they don't and have to slug their way to success due to attitude and or behavior. I personally get really excited when I have young Dominants who haven't handled a whip or cane and tinker with techniques that work best for them and instant success and accurate strokes and can hit a match stick with a single tail, while a thick rope is swinging like an old pendulum clock swinging back and forth, to have timing down as well as aim. The happiness, the high...the giddy responses--priceless. They leave with more than what they came in with. Or, when I translate what they see and observe and change how they react and from a tense slave to a relaxed and near floating slave in service. Learning the art of observation and elevation. That said, not all seasoned Dominants are good teachers. Some not so skilled or knowledged Dominants are excellent teachers. And, there are every mixture in between. In taking a student Dominant on, rather new to the group. He asked why those Dominants wouldn't teach him anything. My observation was that what they knew was limited themselves. People only grow in skills and knowledged from those in their enviorment. I was fresh from the outside and had more time in applying my art and mastery. So, it was easy for me to surpass those there and still have much more held close to the vest. I think I have only shared 1/10 of what I really know and or my experience -- ever; even when teaching for an academy like group. So, within a short time, in teaching this excluded Dominant what I knew and how to; he suddenly became 'mr. popular Dominant.' My style of teaching isn't from a 'lecture' approach, although I do presentations and demonstrations however, when I am in a teacher-student role, mentoring role-- I really ask the students more how they come to their views, observations, perceptions and such. Then I carefully and purposefully ask for their consideration on whatever we're working on. I do want people to find how they operate and how they come to their role. Changes come from within a person -- I cannot change people through force. But, I have seen through the years if people have foundation, the guts -- such as roots, history association, practice, own evidence and research, application and tests to confirm to be true; to the solid knowledge they have, they stand on their own with their first hand knowledge and skillls--others will listen, as what is said--no matter if its from a child prodigy to a wise old man of 1001; will resonate and change of mind, heart and attitude/behavior will occur. Just some thoughts. Respectfully submitted for consideration, Lady Hugs
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