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RE: the Photo Op - 12/28/2007 11:17:55 AM   
jakeskajira


Posts: 87
Joined: 9/19/2007
Status: offline 		I am coming into this late, but after reading your profile I felt the need to respond.  (I am a collared slave, so I am not interested at all, but will give you an honest/blunt opinion which is what I hope you were seeking.)

With all due respect your profile is a huge turn off to me. Your pictures are just fine, you aren't unattractive. but your profile makes you sound like your just looking for a cheap piece of ass... at least thats how I read between the lines... which if all you want is a fuck buddy, thats fine! but I think brutal honesty and being more up front about it is better. If it is not what you are seeking, then be honest, women appreciate that, especially in this lifestyle, we have to reach out on a limb to you as a submissive person, objectification should come AFTER you get to know someone. Care enough about them to know who they are first, or make it clear that is not what you are looking for.

You sound like an intelligent person, I think you can find a way to word your profile in a articulate, honest fashion that really portrays what you are seeking that will clear up the confusion or dislike of your profile the way it is currently stated.

Regards,
slave emma

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RE: the Photo Op - 12/28/2007 11:30:30 AM   
tigerstyle


Posts: 168
Joined: 5/25/2005
Status: offline 		I didn't see anything wrong with the profile, other than it came off as pretty hardcore. If you are going to rock it like that, you have to be prepared to scare people off. Someone said something about "be more honest about what you want". I'd say he was plenty honest--he's into objectification and wears it on his sleeve.

If you wanted to up your "humanity quotient", you could put the scary talk in a journal entry and write a more friendly and easygoing main profile.

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RE: the Photo Op - 12/28/2007 3:45:47 PM   
sweetstorm


Posts: 227
Joined: 5/3/2004
Status: offline 		Oh honey honey honey.... Uff-da.

I can look at your pic and gain interest but that PROFILE is just so not.... uh-uh.
Take me out to dinner?!?!?!  Seriously?!?!?! After reading that profile, it doesn't look like I would be able to eat without your explicit permission.

I am not an object. I am a person. I respond to other people and their emotions. How can I trust my body and soul and feelings to such a heartless, feelingless profile?

Tell me about YOURSELF. Answer those questions that you deem inappropriate because you don't call the shots until she tells you that you can, honeychild.

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RE: the Photo Op - 12/28/2007 7:24:27 PM   
goodgirl08


Posts: 145
Joined: 6/11/2007
Status: offline 		Your profile might not be what everyone is looking for, but I'm assuming you are not trying to attract all of CM but rather the person who those words would appeal to...

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RE: the Photo Op - 12/28/2007 8:01:00 PM   
KnOcala


Posts: 260
Joined: 12/19/2007
Status: offline 		I had help with both my profile and photo from members on this website.  Most have been great resources of information

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RE: the Photo Op - 12/28/2007 8:03:13 PM   
mnottertail


Posts: 60698
Joined: 11/3/2004
Status: offline 		Lotta help, huh?


How much pussy is poppin by the house, nowadays?




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RE: the Photo Op - 12/29/2007 5:10:30 AM   
beeble


Posts: 799
Joined: 5/25/2005
From: UK
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quote:

sambamanslilgirl wrote: well, junior, would you treat your own mother as a "thing" that you described in your profile?

I'm not sure that's really relevant.  After all, most people's profiles on the site talk about all kinds of sexual things but you nobody assumes they do those things with their mothers.


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RE: the Photo Op - 12/29/2007 5:30:56 AM   
topcat


Posts: 1675
Joined: 1/31/2004
From: Tidewater, VA
Status: offline 		Gilym,
 
I am using the first photo in your profile for some constructive criticism, as it has a few flaws, to my eye.
 
For Starters- hands in pockets is a big mistake. It makes you look passive, and believe it or not, most women , IMX, find a mans hands and forearms sexy (true, Ladies?).
 
Dark clothing is pretty much de riguer for dominants- but it's damn hard to photograph well. you will never go wrong with a plain white dress shirt. Avoid t-shirts unless you have the posture and build to pull it off.
 
composition. the arrangement of elements in this photo make you look small, incidental. Not what we are shooting for, right? and what's with the lamp? Tighten it up, pay attenion to the camera angle- lower makes you look bigger, higher makes you friendlier.
 
picture two in the stack is ok- the basic taking my own pic profile shot- fine, never include more than one, and this one? the sould patch looks like a wart. The last pic just really brings nothing to the table, does it?
 
As for you text, it does need a rewrite.  Less about her, more about you. Try to write it with out using any 'BDSM' terms.
 
Good luck
 
Lawrence

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RE: the Photo Op - 12/29/2007 8:26:20 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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Joined: 2/5/2007
From: Chicago, IL
Status: offline 		maybe you should re-read his profile again ...he clearly asks "what are you? you're not a woman but a thing..." 

if you enjoy being treated as a thing - that's your bag, UK. this woman enjoys being cherished as a woman ...not as a thing


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RE: the Photo Op - 12/30/2007 12:04:54 PM   
beeble


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Joined: 5/25/2005
From: UK
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quote:

sambamanslilgirl wrote: maybe you should re-read his profile again ...he clearly asks "what are you? you're not a woman but a thing..."

Yes but his mother isn't (I assume) in the intended audience.  I'm not saying I like the guy's profile or his attitude; all I'm saying is that his mother isn't really relevant to his profile.

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RE: the Photo Op - 12/30/2007 12:10:56 PM   
sambamanslilgirl


Posts: 10926
Joined: 2/5/2007
From: Chicago, IL
Status: offline 		mother always said - never date a guy who treats a woman less than his own mother

other words, junior, if i'm called a "thing" then it's possible he views his mother the same way



edited to add: chalk this one up as being objectified as a "thing" isn't my bag. i'm human and expect to be treated as such.


< Message edited by sambamanslilgirl -- 12/30/2007 12:20:51 PM >

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RE: the Photo Op - 12/30/2007 4:42:34 PM   
Gilym


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Joined: 12/12/2005
Status: offline 		When I first posted this thread, I assumed some people would read my profile, some of those people would be taken aback by it, and maybe some of those would reply saying as such.  I did not expect to be condemnded by many because of it.  That was my mistake.  So I made a post to explain my reasoning.  It has either been unread, or ignored, by the posts following it.  This distresses me.  If you disagree with, or are offended by, what I have written and want to say so, please do.  I realize there are now a chunk of posts here, a lot of them saying the same thing.  I'm not asking you to read them all.  All I ask,  and I really don't think its that much, is that you read what I have posted in reply.  So, in summary, this is my third (3rd) post in this thread.  Please read all of them before replying.  Thank you.

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RE: the Photo Op - 12/30/2007 5:14:00 PM   
daemonaries


Posts: 3
Joined: 7/2/2007
Status: offline 		As I told you when you changed it in the first place, dear, I think that it is harsh.  No, I don't think that you are going to find the woman that you want that way.  If that is what your profile had been in the beginning I would have turned around and blocked you.  I prefered it before when you were more like the you that I know.  *shrugs*  However, you have gotten responses based on the profile that you have up, and that is great.  That is what you wanted.  You wanted people to notice you.  And boy did you get it.  I would say change it back to something more honest about who you really are.

I would also like to add to those that are simply roasting you:  This is a wonderful guy.  He asked for advice, not to be skewered and roasted alive.  I am thankful that some of you remembered that.  Also hope ya'll had a great holiday and enjoy your new year.

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