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CalifChick -> RE: Approaching Strangers... (12/29/2007 4:11:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Prinsexx is the weather and when we say water sports we do actually mean splashing around in puddles........ Okay, that brought back a funny memory. About 20 years ago, in a small town in Louisiana, I was involved in the local theatre group. We were backstage, working on sets, costumes, blah blah whatever. I was sitting on a couch, and I remember I was handsewing something. We were all laughing, talking about what we liked to do outside the theatre (which for a lot of the really dedicated people was, "not much"). The talk turned to sports, and I said that I could play sports where I had direct contact with the ball (such as soccer, football, volleyball), but I suck at sports where there is an implement between me and the ball (tennis, baseball, etc.). Then the youngest member of the group, a very naive girl of about 16 or 17, pipes up with, "do you like water sports?" I froze with my mouth open, and my sewing needle poised in midair. It got dead quiet, with everybody staring at the girl. She got this "deer in the headlights" look because she TRULY did not know there was a dual meaning to that phrase, and she couldn't figure out why everyone was staring at her, yet she was afraid to ask. I finally said, "Well, A, I don't usually discuss my kinky sex life with minors, but yes, I do enjoy a splash in the puddles with the right person on occasion." Cali

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Approaching Strangers... (12/29/2007 4:12:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SubmissiveGael Drummers do tend to notice such things. There must be something about them. I'm one myself ;) cool ;) partying with a couple of them after their sets tonight

Prinsexx -> RE: Approaching Strangers... (12/29/2007 4:16:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CalifChick quote: ORIGINAL: Prinsexx is the weather and when we say water sports we do actually mean splashing around in puddles........ Okay, that brought back a funny memory. About 20 years ago, in a small town in Louisiana, I was involved in the local theatre group. We were backstage, working on sets, costumes, blah blah whatever. I was sitting on a couch, and I remember I was handsewing something. We were all laughing, talking about what we liked to do outside the theatre (which for a lot of the really dedicated people was, "not much"). The talk turned to sports, and I said that I could play sports where I had direct contact with the ball (such as soccer, football, volleyball), but I suck at sports where there is an implement between me and the ball (tennis, baseball, etc.). Then the youngest member of the group, a very naive girl of about 16 or 17, pipes up with, "do you like water sports?" I froze with my mouth open, and my sewing needle poised in midair. It got dead quiet, with everybody staring at the girl. She got this "deer in the headlights" look because she TRULY did not know there was a dual meaning to that phrase, and she couldn't figure out why everyone was staring at her, yet she was afraid to ask. I finally said, "Well, A, I don't usually discuss my kinky sex life with minors, but yes, I do enjoy a splash in the puddles with the right person on occasion." Cali yes for music types it's like scat is confusing............ and definitely cbt if you are a therapist................I have been asked if I do that

CalifChick -> RE: Approaching Strangers... (12/29/2007 4:24:45 PM)
Prin - LOL! Isn't Cock and Ball Torture the same as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy???? I would think it has the same effect. Cali

BikerDomRealTime -> RE: Approaching Strangers... (12/29/2007 5:05:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SubmissiveGael Ever walked right up to a stranger and asked if they were into BDSM?!! I was standing in a bar last night and a woman started talking to me. Being attractive and obviously full of confidance, I was immediately interested in replying! She asked me, within about 10 sentences, if I knew what BDSM was. I nearly fell over, it was so unexpected. Well I thought all my wishes were coming true at once, but she was married and merely making conversation ;( Anyhoo, has anyone here actually done this? I know I would find it hard to approach someone with the topic if I didn't know already that ther were in the lifestyle. S.G. To me it does seem like an unusual thing to ask someone. Where you dressed in some way that might have given the impression you are into BDSM or acted some way? Just curious

SubmissiveGael -> RE: Approaching Strangers... (12/29/2007 5:54:51 PM)
quote: To me it does seem like an unusual thing to ask someone. Where you dressed in some way that might have given the impression you are into BDSM or acted some way? Just curious To answer that, no I was not wearing anything that could be described as fetish clothing except a leather wrist band - but in Ireland it is normal to wear something like that, its something a lot of men wear. Mine even has Celtic knots on it. Unless I some 'act' submissive unconsiously, I can't understand it either. Sorry to not have a definitive answer.

girlygurl -> RE: Approaching Strangers... (12/29/2007 6:03:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shariah In regards to medical professionals....you may be surprised how many Doctors attend munches and events. (Nothing more hot about finding a Gyn that is also a Dom. lol. Shariah Shariah, your post made me smile. My Sir and I have done some medical play and He's said I'll never look at my doctor the same way again. hee hee so true, so true.[:D] girly

sexyred1 -> RE: Approaching Strangers... (12/29/2007 6:21:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: girlygurl quote: ORIGINAL: shariah In regards to medical professionals....you may be surprised how many Doctors attend munches and events. (Nothing more hot about finding a Gyn that is also a Dom. lol. Shariah Shariah, your post made me smile. My Sir and I have done some medical play and He's said I'll never look at my doctor the same way again. hee hee so true, so true.[:D] girly Oh really?? C'mon share!!! I have a hunky doctor too....but he is so straight he squeaks!

Griswold -> RE: Approaching Strangers... (12/29/2007 6:55:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 I wish there was a way to tell just by looking...when I am in the grocery store or post office and I see someone hot and we just make eye contact, I often wish I had a special telepathic power to speak to them and find out if they are into BDSM. So far, that power has not revealed itself.... Well, actually there is. If you see a woman in a grocery store all dressed up in leather, she's carrying a whip, and she's slapping any of the 3 men she has on leashes, ordering them to get such and such off the shelf and put it in the basket.... The one with the whip....that's the Domme. The other 3....they'd be subs.

sexyred1 -> RE: Approaching Strangers... (12/29/2007 7:27:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Griswold quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 I wish there was a way to tell just by looking...when I am in the grocery store or post office and I see someone hot and we just make eye contact, I often wish I had a special telepathic power to speak to them and find out if they are into BDSM. So far, that power has not revealed itself.... Well, actually there is. If you see a woman in a grocery store all dressed up in leather, she's carrying a whip, and she's slapping any of the 3 men she has on leashes, ordering them to get such and such off the shelf and put it in the basket.... The one with the whip....that's the Domme. The other 3....they'd be subs. Oh Thanks!! I thought it was just the new management team at Whole Foods; you know, they are going all organic, and stuff.

wisteriaV -> RE: Approaching Strangers... (12/29/2007 7:30:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cbtok quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 I wish there was a way to tell just by looking… Depends on the venue, of course. Certain clubs are BDSM friendly even though they're not BDSM clubs per se. Additionally, one venue that has been a major BDSM gathering place is science fiction conventions. Before local BDSM clubs started holding conventions, the sci-fi gatherings have been the means to meet. And nobody I have ever met at a science fiction convention ever questioned that approach. I do have to admit, I tend to not ask in grocery stores. But certain articles of clothing and certain ways of carrying one's self tend to indicate. Psst: take a young Mr Spock in a leather thong tied to a cross or Spock as a Dom what a intellectual mind fuck he could do ..Trekkie Conventions can be umm interesting to say the least![8\|]

ImpGrrl -> RE: Approaching Strangers... (12/29/2007 7:59:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: christine1 wysteria, i appreciate your input here. i am currently looking for a new doctor...i was at an appt. a few weeks ago and i have some tiny scars on one of my breasts from some play a few years ago. the doc asked me about them and i told her why they are there and she looked at me like i had just beamed myself down from mars, i left before she finished the exam. i wonder if a male doctor would be more open minded... My standard line for medicos is "I practice consensual sadomasochism, so you might see some unusual marks" or similar. The important part is to (usually proactively) say "I practice consensual sadomasochism", in a calm voice. It's about acting as if it's the most normal thing in the world - because if you don't, they sure as hell won't.

goodgirl08 -> RE: Approaching Strangers... (12/29/2007 8:52:47 PM)
No, but I actually saw someone from this site on a bus once on the way to my town. He was instantly recognizable because of his, um, very unique appearance. For further confirmation, he was wearing leather cuffs wth D-rings on both wrists (that's not a bad way to indicate your preferences, actually). I didn't say anything because he had sent me a couple of messages before that I never responded to, lol. It was a pretty surreal experience.

taintedgypsy -> RE: Approaching Strangers... (12/29/2007 10:41:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Griswold quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 I wish there was a way to tell just by looking...when I am in the grocery store or post office and I see someone hot and we just make eye contact, I often wish I had a special telepathic power to speak to them and find out if they are into BDSM. So far, that power has not revealed itself.... Well, actually there is. If you see a woman in a grocery store all dressed up in leather, she's carrying a whip, and she's slapping any of the 3 men she has on leashes, ordering them to get such and such off the shelf and put it in the basket.... The one with the whip....that's the Domme. The other 3....they'd be subs. LMFAO speacial note to self ... put cup of tea down before reading any posts by Griswold ... tea is for drinking not choking, spluttering and then cleaning off keyboard lol. thanks for the chuckle and pass on the address of that shop ... I think I need some groceries ...

girlygurl -> RE: Approaching Strangers... (12/29/2007 11:10:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 quote: ORIGINAL: girlygurl quote: ORIGINAL: shariah In regards to medical professionals....you may be surprised how many Doctors attend munches and events. (Nothing more hot about finding a Gyn that is also a Dom. lol. Shariah Shariah, your post made me smile. My Sir and I have done some medical play and He's said I'll never look at my doctor the same way again. hee hee so true, so true.[:D] girly Oh really?? C'mon share!!! I have a hunky doctor too....but he is so straight he squeaks! Oh now come on there SR, I know you have a great imagination! [:D] I bet you know just what I'm talkin about weeeeeeeeeeee girly

sexyred1 -> RE: Approaching Strangers... (12/29/2007 11:12:49 PM)
Of course I do, but I wanted to make you say it; I like making girls blush....

arkitain -> RE: Approaching Strangers... (12/29/2007 11:34:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CalifChick Prin - LOL! Isn't Cock and Ball Torture the same as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy???? I would think it has the same effect. Cali It apparently stands for "Computer Based Training", too... I was going through a bunch of forms a few days ago that had CBT all over them with no explanation... hah, certainly had me a bit disoriented.

junecleaver -> RE: Approaching Strangers... (12/30/2007 12:24:53 AM)
Yeah, right after I ask them if they like it in the back door...

sweetstorm -> RE: Approaching Strangers... (12/30/2007 12:33:26 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 quote: ORIGINAL: Griswold quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 I wish there was a way to tell just by looking...when I am in the grocery store or post office and I see someone hot and we just make eye contact, I often wish I had a special telepathic power to speak to them and find out if they are into BDSM. So far, that power has not revealed itself.... Well, actually there is. If you see a woman in a grocery store all dressed up in leather, she's carrying a whip, and she's slapping any of the 3 men she has on leashes, ordering them to get such and such off the shelf and put it in the basket.... The one with the whip....that's the Domme. The other 3....they'd be subs. Oh Thanks!! I thought it was just the new management team at Whole Foods; you know, they are going all organic, and stuff. ROFLMAO!!!! [sm=biggrin.gif] Sexyred1 - you kill me!!! [:D]

bbwatYourservice -> RE: Approaching Strangers... (12/30/2007 1:48:48 AM)
I haven't gone out and questioned random strangers about their possible interest in BDSM. I have had the opposite occur though while out with some girlfriends. No fetish wear or kink talk just a vanilla girls night out to celebrate a birthday. We met up with a group of guys and within a few minutes one of them labeled each of us girls (shy but wild, crazy drinker, the group slut, and the one that lives for a spanking) and then asked if he had nailed us with his description. We all laughed it off but I sorta wondered if my invisible freak flag had become visible.

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