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your perfect switch scenario - 1/3/2008 2:13:45 AM   
Violently


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Status: offline 		So the incredible amount of flack that switches get is depressing at best... I just thought hell why do we have to moan on so justifying our kink to what is purportedly a pansexual scene?

Which leads me to the question.. your perfect switch scenario.

I think for some it might involve the same partner - for others a threesome.. If you are wanting to spill your guts I am so wanting to read :)
I'll be reserved and write mine a little later :)
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RE: your perfect switch scenario - 1/3/2008 5:00:19 AM   
oliderid


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Status: offline 		Mmmh personnally I enjoy a seduction battle :-). You do all the trick you know, you play with all her/his weak spots you know to gain the power and enslave your partner.
if you get a great partner,  you may loose too that is where the fun is. And there are never two same evenings (that's my main complain about dom/sub long relationship. I get bored if i'm dominant only and I can't stand beeing a sub days after days). I find such cenario extremely spicy.

I fought against the most exciting strip tease I have ever seen for example . I was hypnotized slowly by her body...Then I tried to react. I did what I knew she loved. Grab her hair, breast play, passionnate kisses, I tried to put her on her knees...She refused, she pushed me on a chair, put one of her leg on my shoulder...Slowly I was loosing the battle (how joy! :-)) and soft BDSM followed (not hard stuffs. Queening is probably my favorite sub activity :-)). It happenned two years ago and I still remember every minutes :-)...She knew that I was more sensual than verbal. I personnally value long silence during a play. When you only feel her hands, fingers, body and you hear nothing except her breath.

The next day I took my revenge. I was back home early...Waiting for her. I knew she had the rape fantasy, she needed elaborate/verbal scenario. As soon as she openned the door, I pushed her firmly on the wall, I closed the door. Both hands firmly under control. Blindfolded quickly, handcuffed, she was petite, easy to transport. Her breath was heavy. I took her to the living room. she was lying on the ground. I started to remember her every single things she did to me the previous day, payback time. I left her for ten minutes or so. I came back with few toys. I gagged her.  I released her and told her that she must be a good girl, otherwise I will become nasty (spanking mainly, she loved it), we did play a bit at home...Then I invite her in a restaurant. We got dressed appropriatly. except her underwear. The trick was to keep her under control all the evening. The threat was to call her names in public if she didn't comply. She had to do things or at least trying to do it, she was a bit exbitionnist but shy...And personnally I prefer suggestions than doing weird stuffs in public.

You can apply all the things that turned you on in previous experiences with doms or subs. Being in some ways equal means that you can have "vanilla" sex to (I love it too). What was so good in that relationship (it didn't happen overnight) is that we  both tried to please the other. You try to enter into his/her world. If you truly love him/her, you got excited because he/she is.

I don't know many "born to be switch" persons. You always have a tendency (personnally more submissive). You learn with experiences that the other side can be fun too. You become more complete IMHO. Then you also need to look at your partners differently. For some us it looks impossible to consider differently a person (he/she must be dominant/sub, can't be both). I do think that it can happen only if you are in a long relationship (love/understanding prevail) which isn't BDSM centered IMHO. I have never met a partner in my local scene (Brussels) for such a scenario. It happenned with a "normal" girlfriend if I may say.





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RE: your perfect switch scenario - 1/9/2008 12:24:28 AM   
patienceNYC


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Status: offline 		one of my perfect switch scenario would have me in a business suit: knee-length skirt, lacey camisole, matching jacket and a fedora. My gf in black latex shorts and a bodice. i push her onto the bed face down and lick/kiss her starting from the back of her knees, then to the behind, then lower back, then on up to her neck. I grab her hair and pull her head back to kiss her deeply. I pull away biting her lower lip. I pull on my black stylish gloves (think Karl Laagerfeld) and spank her. Starting out medium and eventually working up to a point where her she cries out the safe word. I let her catch her breath for a minute or two then I grab her by the hair and take her to the bathroom and command her to lay in the tub. I stand over her. Feeling bold she reaches to hike up my skirt and tries to pull down my panties. To punish her I get a lit scented candle, pull down her bodice and slowly drip hot wax all her breasts. Cooling the wax by peeing on her After a quick rinse off I sit on her face and ride until I cum. Then I'm hers. She ties my hands behind my back and lashes them close to my body. She bends me over the couch and spanks me until I almost pass out from the pleasure. She then turns me over so that my head is hanging off the cough and with a horse whip whips my chest until there are welts all over my breasts. Then she blindfolds me. I feel something hard pushing my lips to open. I staste and it's her dildo. She enthusiastically fucks my face while slowly and gently teasing my muff with the horse whip. Then she grabs my ankle and drags me to the bedroom where we make love to each other until exhaustion...

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RE: your perfect switch scenario - 1/10/2008 11:44:15 AM   
LadyLynx


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Status: offline 		Damn! those 2 scenarios got me hot!

I have this fantasy that my current boyfriend is a switch. (actually not dating anyone at moment.) And both of us are feeling toppy. I suggest that we flip a coin for it, he gets a quarter out, I flip, only before I catch it, he grabs it, I try to get it out of his hands and we fall on the bed.  he tosses the quarter on the floor, before I can react to that, he grabs both of my hands in his, and starts tickling me unmercifully with the other.  I wriggle and screetch, then I moan when nibbles and bites on my nipples.  he grabs a piece of rope from the night stand, and ties my hands together to the bed.  he tickles and teases me for an hour, not letting me get close to coming.  Finally after him f***king my mouth, (which I love.)and coming, he jams my favorite vibrator inside me and I come several times, so close together that it seems like one continous orgasm. afterwords he unties my hands, and we snuggle, falling asleep. I wake up 2 hours later, see that he is awake.  I prop my head on my hand, and grin, he groans because he knows whats coming. I tell him to keep his hands above his head. (I prefer mental bondage;)) and spank his cock, run my fingernails up and down it, and his thighs, all over his body.  I put metal clothes pins on his nipples, (for some reason I always imagine him to be more of a painslut.) and on his balls.  tease him with my tongue til he gets close to coming and stop.  I tease him further by masterbaiting with my vibrator, sitting on his stomach, so he can only see but not get to with his tongue. I get out my face dildo, (a strap-on that goes around the head.) put it on him and after telling me he isn't allowed to use his tongue, I slip the dildo into my ass. after coming several times, I sit on his cock and ride him.  lol.  ok, I think I need to have some 'me' time, if ya know what I mean! ;)

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RE: your perfect switch scenario - 1/10/2008 5:16:45 PM   
spicybrains


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Status: offline 		When I read "scenario" I wasn't expecting anything so... detailed! lol!  I tend to think in broader terms.

Actually, right now I am in the midst of constructing a very good switch scenario for myself.  My partner of five years is educating himself on the art of Topping and determined to become my Top of choice.  He deserves much praise and kudos, which I am giving him.  I have a different partner under consideration to be my submissive.  They are both straight men, so we are not all going to play together, but between both I should definitely be a happy switch! 

Oh, and should we ever manage to add another female to the mix, then things will get REALLY fun!!

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RE: your perfect switch scenario - 1/28/2008 12:19:40 AM   
RenegadeOp


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Status: offline 		Are you both really switches?  Then here is a way to find out, and leave your destiny up to fate.   Play some game of chance- let's say poker.  By prior agreement, whoever "loses" must immediately submit to the winner- and I mean totally submit.  Once the final hand has been dealt, the person with the losing had must immediately strip naked, and kneel before the winner.  The handcuffs will be put on, a gag will be applied, and the loser of the game of chance will be subjected to a thorough sesson of discipline and punishment.

R.O.


 

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RE: your perfect switch scenario - 1/28/2008 8:04:36 AM   
LdyWinter71


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Status: offline 		I was surprised by the level of detail in these 'scenarios' too!   Still, they were enjoyable.  I, also, enjoy the seduction battle...it is by far, one of my favorites.  Though I must admit, over the past couple of years I had a switch fantasy that I thought would never come true....but it finally did!!!
I often train people who are interested in exploring BDSM, and to see where they fit.  I had this very handsome man come to me for training as a submissive.  However, it was very apparent, very quickly, that He was no sub!  He went through the motions for awhile, but there was a quiet power and presence about Him, which made it clear that I was in control only for as long as He allowed it.  Eventually, I had to test the theory, and decided to punish Him, but it proved genuinely harder for me, than for Him.  When He turned to look at me after, we both knew that any illusions of who was in charge was over.  He assumed control at that point, and over the next several weeks, I became His.  It was a subtle thing, but one of the most profound experiences I have ever had in the 'scene'.

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RE: your perfect switch scenario - 1/28/2008 9:39:32 AM   
KnOcala


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Status: offline 		wow, those are quite some scenarions.  While I consider myself a switch, it really is only because I want to explore my submissive side.  I am and will always be primarily dominant but I do desire to submit from time to time to understand what the sub is feeling and going through.  I've never ever had the notion of switching during one scenario.
Very interesting


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RE: your perfect switch scenario - 1/28/2008 12:36:20 PM   
oliderid


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Status: offline 		For those you like seduction/sensuality another idea you may use to introduce new toys :-).

We were low on equipment. So we had the funny idea that both should buy their own favorites toys. I bought them on monday I think and she did too...Well certainly at the beginning of the week. You shouldn't know what the other had. They remained hidden in two boxes until friday.

You can imagine how excited you can be with a big box in your bedroom and not the slighest idea of the kinky stuffs inside . It was the centre of discussion for the rest of the week.

The first one to top during the vanilla foreplays would have the privilege to try his/her own toys. I knew we had common centres of interests...But well I really don't know what she had in  mind. It all started with kisses, caresses, whispering "let me top you...You won't regret it...You will love the things I bought for you...Come on mon amour...It is XXX..You wanted to try it for so long". Stay focus. She/he knows to lie easily. I knew I will regret it...I knew some her fantaisies...Somes were tempting others were almost unbearable humliations and what about those she never told me...Too risky...Stay focus and after hours of foreplays, dozens of tentations, we were almost exhausted with no inspirations left. I finally topped her taking slowly the missionary position.

She looked into my eyes, big brown eyes to die for...This last line of defence didn't work. I openned her box first . There were a 8 meters rope, a  face dildo and printed manual of basic shibari from the web. What a b* :-). I looked at her. She smiled, so proud of her choice.

Then I openned mine, gag, collar, leash, geisha balls and a  new sexy underwear for her...I  found her toys more interresting at first. I didn't try shibari (I neder tried it before). I bound her firmly.  I came back from the kitchen with some butter and I put this dildo of her right in her arse. I turn the light off and I went to the living room.

Thinking...I should let her win next time...
The joy of the switch couple... I miss it so bad :-)

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RE: your perfect switch scenario - 1/28/2008 7:51:28 PM   
pettingdragons


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Violently
Which leads me to the question.. your perfect switch scenario.
V
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My favoirte parties are the ones where, when my clothes are on Im Dominant and when they are off I am submissive...if Im half way dressed which ever half is dress or not is the other...LOL
My favorite game being a switch...
Pamela

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RE: your perfect switch scenario - 1/29/2008 3:46:08 AM   
beltainefaerie


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Status: offline 		What fun to read!

My favorite switching scenarios have been less elaborate than many described.  Going from being happily hurt by my Master to co-domming someone has always beeing fun.  I also enjoy playing with my companion and play fighting to see who will be on top (though we have had some great intense moments where we flipped in the midst of what was going on).

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RE: your perfect switch scenario - 1/29/2008 9:32:10 AM   
Skully7000


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Status: offline 		I'm mostly a sensation bottom. I very rarely go truly submissive (but do enjoy it when i do). I have a fantasy of being being dominated while i'm topping my Submissive. though i know its nearly Impossible for my mind to be in the two headspaces at once. part of the reason why its a fantasy;)

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RE: your perfect switch scenario - 2/10/2008 2:12:08 PM   
chamberqueen


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Status: offline 		I have subs that want a cuckolding experience, but I don't allow my subs to touch me sexually.  My Daddy and I have a plan to let my Daddy service me sexually, dominating me, but I would dominate my own sub who would have to look on and then service either of us later.  It is even more effective because my Daddy is a very big black man, the ideal of many cuckolders dreams.

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RE: your perfect switch scenario - 2/19/2008 11:21:20 PM   
Violently


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Status: offline 		I think there is much to celebrate about being switch that someone who can only understand a power dynamic from a very singular black and white point of view would never be able to appreciate.
So thank you to everyone who has contributed to this thread. It's been a marvellous read.

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