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ORIGINAL: petpete

Now aren't you a little bit selfish scs??? You forget that us subs can fall easier then the powerful and Almighty D's do??!! Lets face it guys its not our choice of what happens to us... Its our stupid hearts that fall, pardon me, is there a cone of silence here??

Since when can one rule their feelings,
and what noncence are you saying here that subs fall easier then Dominants?

D/s is a choice,
you as sub have a choice, in order to say I want to serve You,
but No I don't want to serve You.
D/s is a relationship between 2 humanbeings,
which ought to be respected, cared for, and communicated with.

No one can make you submit when you don't want too.

I always remember this quote :

~ Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. ~Eleanor Roosevelt~

So petpete, all I can say is that in My case,
I need to fall inlove with My sub, and love him/her
allong the way, otherwise to Me, it feels totally empty.

And that's Not the way I want to live.

But there are many ways to live D/s.

But you always have a choice!! Don't forget that.

berrysuprice, I think you've answered your own question,
later on. That you want the whole deal. Which is alright.
Many people want that. It's a matter of finding the right
match, and that isn't easy.

I wish you enough.

GoddezzT`

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ORIGINAL: berrysurprise

when i am with him... i feel like i have everything i could ever need...  - but when i am alone the loneliness is so painfully deep i cannot stand it... I know that we will never be together as a whole.... so where can i find the strength to be alone completely and able to open myself up to the opportunity to find someone who can complete me. when i am risking losing someone i love so deeply... and i may never find someone who understands me so well...

I so understand where you're coming from.
And that emptyness is so painfull. It's a shame you two can't b
together. Yesterday I spoke to a subbygirl. who broke off with her Dom,
because she fell inlove, and he told her not to....

To Me it's amazing to b so intimate and not fall for that person.
He expected her to bare her soul, and that doesn't happen overnight..
and then she got "punished" for her feelings..

Well I don't understand such a type of commitments.

But again, I understand you, and you'll find it one day,
although it will take time, to get there.

I wish you enough berrysurprice.

Warm Greetingz

GoddezzT`